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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 11:20:02 am
Author : dataimport
Have you read "Self Matters" or become familiar with the process of uncovering your authentic self from watching the show? Share your story here.

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October 19, 2007, 2:23 am PDT

All for now

I'd like to know how each person was as a child.  That's very interesting because of the simplicity of our young lives and the way we handle problems and socialise.  Babies socialise very well.  They just don't talk and use their spatial skills to socialise and that I don't think changes very much.

 

 

 

 

 
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October 19, 2007, 8:13 am PDT

Thanks Brenda ...

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Im so delighted to hear of your re-discovery of old friends!

Im so happy for you! Enjoy!

 

Brenda

It's getting cool up here again ... I'm wearing shorts .. but I probably will have to change into sweats later .. but the sun just came out!  Man, I sure wish the weather would just figure out what it wants to do!  hee hee
 
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October 19, 2007, 9:06 am PDT

Self Matters

What does this mean?  Self matters.  I guess all the things I used to do for my family but have since quit because they don't appreciate it.  They use me and they used my sister as slaves for their tupperware parties.  We always had to make and serve the food and got nothing for it.  We were to be Jane Eyre types.

Seen but not heard.  Staff.  Isn't that awful.  My life sucks.

 
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October 19, 2007, 9:44 pm PDT

Copied song-lyrics, very insightful writing

'(verse 3 #2) I copied from on-line to informa about progress and highlights my idea on the double-edged sword.

"Nothing is accomplished by dwelling on nonsense
Nothing is achieved through stagnant lead
Something is approached by a forward step
The early birds get the worm it's your turn to learn
Open up that book called your dreams and take a look
Read about your life don't be threatened by the knife
Cutting through strife that's always running through your life
I tell my self just not to stress take off the shelf a new light
Nothing is hated that can't be loved
Something is created through the ultimate love
If your hating on hatred, love's got the golden glove
Sock that bitch in the face and raise your soul above"


"Positive dreams. Living legends. Melancholy Gypsys.
1999. Enjoy the beat. Let it rise. Positive dreams"
 
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October 19, 2007, 10:15 pm PDT

Winning the lottery

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Are you still hoping and waiting for someone somewhere to come toyour rescue, wave a magic wand and instantaneously change your life forthe better?

Are you praying that you will one day win the lottery and dramatically alter the financial quality of your life?

Are you sitting behind your desk, daydreaming and hopingto one day rise to the top level of management without much effort andhard work?

Are you hiding in the background, silently praying andhoping that you will find favor, get noticed and be thrust into thelimelight of your destiny?

If you are tired of hoping and endlessly waiting forsomething positive to happen or someone to come to your rescue, make adeliberate decision today to take charge of your own life and begin tolead a fulfilled and productive life.

4 things to consider as you decide to change your life for the better.

1. Value yourself.

Value yourself, your life and your time. Value what yourepresent. Dont compromise what you are worth for anything. Yourcurrent position may not accurately define who you are, but if youplace a high value on yourself, you will not only have greaterexpectations for yourself, but also be open to more possibilities andopportunities.

People who place a high value on themselves canconfidently walk into any arena of success and take their placecomfortably. They fit right in because this is what they have beenwaiting for their whole lives and they know that they deserve it!

2. Take responsibility for your own destiny.

Be practical and stop expecting other people to rescueyou from your current distress. People can only do so muchthe rest isup to you and your God given abilities and resolve. Get rid of thedependency syndrome! It incapacitates and blinds you from doing greatthings with your life and getting the success you so much yearn for.

If you are not going to be the recipient of a largeinheritance or if you have not yet won the lottery, begin to do theright thing by charting your own road map to success and workingintelligently, meticulously and persistently to achieve your success.

3. STOP doing what does not work!

If you desire to change your life for the bettertake aminute to consider specific aspects of your life over the last threeyears. Have you seen any improvement in your business? Have you lostweight? Are you still working at the same place that stifles yourcreative abilities? Are you still in the dreaming phase of that projectyou wanted to accomplish? Are you still procrastinating about goingback to school? Are you still doing the same things that produceunproductive and dissatisfying results?

How much longer can you keep doing the same things thatdont work? You only have one life to live and if you plan to live afulfilled life, stop doing what doesnt work, start doing the thingsthat work and change your life for the better.

4. Take a definite tangible action step today!

Changing your life for the better means doing somethingtoday that produces results! If you cant take radical steps, takesmall deliberate steps towards the change you desire. One of thegreatest impediments to success is procrastination. It is so often usedas an excuse for inaction to the point that it has become somind-numbing!

No one wants to hear that the only reason why you havenot managed to turn your idea into reality is because you have beenprocrastinating! People want to stand and cheer for the doer and theachiever who has taken positive steps to improve the quality of theirlives. These are the inspiring stories that we read about everyday andyou too can be that story.

All the best,
Jim

One of the grand mysteries.  Why some people win it, sometimes 4 or 5 times and don't even need it.  While, those stagnated and with dreams they can't reach never win 2 bob let alone a huge amount. 

 

I think that we each have to find our own Luck.  And that we're all lucky.  Some of us seem to have numbers that work everytime.  Others plan very well.  While others have great connections.  And then there are those who seem destined to take the difficult path in life.  And appears to be the most unlucky.  But again, did they want to be lucky?  That the path requires more but has more reward than just money.

 

I watch luck shows and I've found that just knowing your own luck can bring to it luck.  That may be if you're a great planner, then luck comes because planning has it's own luck vibrations.

 

That feelings about colours can tap into the luck, in some people.  That it is all in the level of feeling and thinking and being that brings luck rather than just some people are, some people aren't.  And that everything revolves around this same luck and unlucky road.

 

 

 
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October 19, 2007, 10:23 pm PDT

Luck (cont.) - practical examples

Looking at things for a person that brings luck and listing them.  Then applying them to whatever turning point we have.

 

ie. Luck - True feelings.

Choosing a lucky number, it will always relate to this.  Why birthdays are important.  If they're not important that might be significant.

 

Some people choose 13 and come up trumps.  Maybe this behaviour has been lucky and the number is a representation of that.  That's how to win the game. 

 

 
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October 19, 2007, 10:28 pm PDT

Associations - basis of luck or ill-luck

Life is like a stairwell. 

 

The bits and pieces can make things.  A person missing the pieces are often unlucky because their stairwell is like walking under a ladder.  Their associations are doomed because they can't get anywhere. 

 

What they should be doing is taking every opportunity that comes along.  To climb ladders and avoid the cracks in life.  And though in themself, these things are not harmful, they represent the unlucky events and how one must avoid pitfalls in association of meaning and action versus time-wasting etc.

 
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October 19, 2007, 10:30 pm PDT

Have a lucky week

Taemanai

 

 

 
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October 19, 2007, 10:34 pm PDT

It was Brenda with the twin

I knew someone was.

 

All for now

 

Sayoonara

 
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October 20, 2007, 11:14 am PDT

Know what you mean ...

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What does this mean?  Self matters.  I guess all the things I used to do for my family but have since quit because they don't appreciate it.  They use me and they used my sister as slaves for their tupperware parties.  We always had to make and serve the food and got nothing for it.  We were to be Jane Eyre types.

Seen but not heard.  Staff.  Isn't that awful.  My life sucks.

The answer to your question is that SELF -- which is you ... MATTERS.  That you are important and that you have the right to live the life style you want to live and not worry about how others feel you should be.

 

Thanks for asking this questioon .. I never once thought about what the title of the book meant and it really helped me a lot.

 
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