Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

That lasted for only two semesters.

I am trying to write, now. I don't know if what I write would appeal to anyone. It's fiction, humor, looking at life from all sides. I really like writing that takes people through the entire spectrum of human experience. I can't imagine writing without humor.

My twin sister published her first article before she was a second semester Sophomore. As an adult she has published at least three articles in nationally recognised magazines. When I showed her some of my work, she responded with, "Who, cares?!?" 

I know that publishing is quite involved. I don't really know if I'm good enough to even get published.

 

Brenda 

 I have read just about every kind of genre in my life, Brenda, and you could easily best some of the stuff out there. Just because your sister doesn't care to read about the kinds of things you write about doesn't mean you don't have an audience.
Or how about screen writing? I could see you behind the wit in something like Frazier.
Alot of people are self publishing these days through the Internet. You have to put up your own money though. Having a publishing house do it all for you is infinitely more desirable.
From what I've heard about publishing, the hardest thing is taking rejection and never losing your drive and belief in your work.
Sounds like life in general...

Check out your local community colleges and colleges ... sign up for some writing classes ... and don't forget the library.  I know that up here the county library actually has a club ... where women of liked mine come together to write stories, hear speakers, etc. 

 

Go for it lady .. it holds the key to your heart's desire!

I made a documentary that deals with letting the past go.I interviewed people that had simular situations the parts of my past that hurt. I want to help people with this documentary but how would people respect me if the problems i covered are still a problem? Should i wait until i am older and ready to take that responsibility?

The documentary sounds like you figured out a way to hear other perspectives of what you've experienced.  Now you need to deal with the "problems" ... I know that my turning point occurred when I sat down and read and did the exercises in Self Matters and then choose situations in my life to work out why I was having problems in those areas.   I used the book to help me reinforce what I was learning.

Update and questions

I have been doing pretty well and sometimes I feel like I have worked on myself so much that

I am kind of sick of working on myself. Although I it is a habit now working on myself it is becoming somewhat boring.

I also found out that I have some insecurities from the past and would like to get rid of them.

My question is that I am living my life the way I want but there are some gifts and a creative side

to me that I am not filling.  I am either lazy or just cant be bothered with it. The one good thing is that

I recognize that I am not filling this creative side to me and that is one of the voids that I feel and I know that I s hould start doing something about it.

Sometimes I feel that I need motivation and there is no one to motivate me.

Okay; Any ideas?

SAY WHAT!!  Aren't we your motivators?  Isn't that why you turn to us over and over again?

 

I know what you mean about getting tired of healing ... and that it's become automatic to continue.

 

I know that for myself, it's been one long journey .. which I truthfully started the summer of 2003 -- yep, this makes my 5th year come this summer.  And take it from my personal experience, it does get easier.

 

I continue the time spent learning to handle life and building within me the necessary tools, vocabulary, and habits that will sustain me for the rest of my life.  Like Dr. Phil says in Self Matters, I will remember cognitive behavior techniques that he teaches for the rest of my life.  I just have to practice them and use them to dump the non-working areas of my life.

 

I know it feels like you're lost and that you're not recovering ...  just remember .. this short time you're spending is short!  As you continue to work thru what your values are and living to them, you will find you are so much closer than you were.

 

My big AHA moment came when I started to see the "goals" coming to closure .. and that I still had them being created .. however, they were bought to closure because I hadn't been able to see past where I was when I created them.  Does that make sense?

 

I then realized that I was now able to see "more" which made me unhappy and yet, when I reviewed where I was in my life journey, I knew that I was so much happier and at peace NOW than I was ever before.  That I would just give it 6 more months ... and I wrote out my goal timeline accordingly.

 

Does this help?

Ah; You guys have been motivating for me in that I have moved forward in many ways and I thank  you and also Dr.Phil.

I do realize that I have recovered alot and I need to do more. maybe I just need a break from it all.

Like you I have been working on myself for four years but I am glad that I did because it did put me in a better place now. Maybe I am looking for quicker answers.

Ah; I am much happier and I think that is what scares me. I sometimes think I dont deserve

happines or any good to happen to me.

Imagine having the life that you want and you get it and then there is guilt because you are happy.

I believe that there is one thing that I constantly crave and that is my authentic self. Freedom is the one thing that I crave and most of the time people sabatogue my freedom in many ways.

That is where the creativity comes in. I am letting people squash my freedom and sabatogue it somehow  which leads to my creativity which leads to part of my authentic self. So I need to work on that.

I will just pick that one thing and work on it as not to get bored about it.

Aha; That must be it.

am I making sense?

Thanks Marcia

I love you girl

 

 Although sometimes we'd like to live in a vaccuum, it's impossible. Success is hollow if we have nobody to share it with.
You have spent considerable time getting the bad influences and negative people out of your life, and it may have left a vaccuum.
I suggest looking at ways to join with others in ways that will exercise your creative needs also.
Kill 2 birds with one stone so to speak.

 I would wait until you can show positive results. Seeing others overcome odds, and getting information on how to go about it is inspirational.
Showing people in dire straits with no direction is depressing.
There has to be a progression with a definite goal achieved. If the goal hasn't been achieved, the work is incomplete.