Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

 See, all you have to do is put it out there and you find somebody struggling with the same problems.
When I realized exactly what was bothering me and decided to "re-frame" my thoughts around it, my mood lifted immediately.
Instead of thinking that I was being held back, held down, kept from, or sidelined, I began looking at the positives of my situation, like you said: the freedom of it. Thank goodness we don't have to sell a house this time! We sold the one in Colorado just before the prices took the big slide downward and got locked into a year's lease here in Ohio. We were not happy with that length of time, but in hind sight, it was serendipitous. The lease is up shortly and we are free to go!
Like you, it was the feeling of being settled, the ownership, the belonging, that I wanted, which I can separate from the actual having in my mind. My husband and I have each other, and home is where he is and he feels the same way. It's nice to have a nice home and furnishings, but how much do you actually NEED to live day to day? Not a whole lot as it turns out.
Oprah said something about learning to "wear our identities lightly", so I'm fancying myself as a gypsy for the moment. Hubby went out and bought me a new lap-top for our foot-loose days coming up, so I can keep up with things. He's a sweetheart!
This should be fun....

I am loving my freedom so much now like you say here.

I dont need much anymore and I have gotten my whole life down to where it fits into my car.

Imagine that? Most of everything I own can fit into my car so i am pretty transportable and I can go anywhere without worrying about stuff. So If I want to live by the beach for a month I just go and

do it. If I want to live near the mountains I can do it.

Thank Goodness there are subleases out there to rent and short term leases. Right now I dont

want to lock myself into anything for a whole year. So now wherever I am I take the advantages

of that place. All places have something to offer and its kind of fun to explore different areas.

You know most of my life I wanted to be a gypsy so I had better take advantage of it now eh!!

thanks

I'm still working on giving this current life experience to the UNIVERSE and practicing ACCEPTANCE of what I can not change.  I feel sad and I'm doing really good disconnecting that emotion from my THOUGHTS.  It's tiring though, always is when I first begin to practice a new response.  I realized the other day when I was journaling that is actually an old type of thought pattern that I've been saying ... like when I walk my dogs and see kittens and cats living on the streets. 

 

I'm actually getting quite a bit of accomplishments happening too. I'm picking up my healthy eating practicing and exercise too! I sat down last night and figured out where I stood with all my long-time functional goals and discovered that all of them just needed to keep on practicing.  ANd because I'm dealing with a heavy emotional issue and still practicing them, I've come quite far.

 

My goals for next month is to practice keeping to a budget and start making ~$800 a month clear. Not sure doing what .. should be interesting.  I feel only a little stress and a whole lot of I CAN DO THIS joy joy.

Mars, when I took my early retirement, I gave myself the gift of healing.  To just work thru the stupid self-talk / abuse I had been living to all my life.  Now, I'm happy that I gave myself permission and that I've used the time to my advantage.  

 

And I've always thought it would be neat to move from one place to the next .. just following the seasons. 

 

I always find it interesting that the people I connect to seem to have something that reflects in my own self.

I tried to order the book from the web site, but couldn't complete the order. I am in Canada. Am I missing something or does Dr Phil not ship to us.

I can't find my authentic self, it's buried under the pile of debris I call life. I'm hoping get some assistance finding it here. I'm new to these message boards too. This is my first message so if I screw it up, sorry.

That's odd, I'm pretty sure they ship everywhere. I see that you posted this last night, I hope you have found your answer by now.

Start with the basics, what is it you want? Where do you want to go with your life? What exactly do you feel you have "lost"?

There are no stupid questions and you can't do it wrong, it's just life.

Try going to Amazon.Com for his books if you can't get it off his website. SOmetimes, his site just acts nutty.

You were quite clear .. you have acknowledged your life isn't working and it's a mess ... just like the rest of us have when we first came here.   And that you are looking for assistance .. you linked to a very good and kind soul ... Linda.   Linda will help you (aka Ritehere).   AND WELCOME!!!