Dr. Phil I am a 30 something male who was also in a relationship with a younger woman ( 8 yrs) and would like to express my sympathy for the man who is definetly feeling the age difference in the relationship. I was also brought up to not hit girls, not to hit in anger no matter WHAT. My mother is a spousal abuse cousellor and also a verteran of the cause. I grew up knowing, living, breathing that violence within an intimate relationship is NEVER an acceptable action. Further as a student nurse it is now mandatory to enquire, of women, if abusive types of acts are occuring in their relationship.
My point is this - MEN CAN BE ABUSED - old school men used to growl and they would be allowed their space, the guy on the show, myself, all big men used to use this as an effective tool to get their space. These days however the women in the relationship similar to that women on the show - though pretty - WAS A PSCYCHO- troubled history and a junkie for negative attention, or the women who doesn't feel alive unless they have a burden, a cause that they have to throw all their emotional energy into -- MAINLY AN EXCUSE any excuse all excuses. And like the mowen from the show will not give an opinion until forced but is usually qualified based on some other plausible OUT. AAAAAAGGGHHGHGHGHGHG
I identify with the man on the show, kinda large, but I have never struck my spouse out of anger, rage, or spite. I have said every nasty thing under the sun, never toward my daughter, but i have also tried to teach my daughter to say bitch. I have used the C word, the list can go on and on. I have had to leave the house many times to calm a situation down and the police have been called to the house. I feel why this man was frustrated and agree that the amount of love he may have for his family will ultimately be destroyed by a woman who does not know how to trust or be loved.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why don't you do a show with the female as the abuser, your point of view that the man should be bloodied and bruised and half dead before they can consider never touching a woman. THIS IS WRONG, what you do is give women, and daughters a free pass to hurt men in society with these comments and this issue is already something i will liken to being gay in the 50's - 60's. I understand that your old-school upbringing and the TEXAS influence probably doesn't allow you to listen too to many whining men but I would like to say. HOW many women have hit their spouses out of anger and gotten away with it.!!!!!!!!!!
This for me is a very touchy issue because what is good for the goose is good for the gander and I am nothing if not fair. I have witnessed spousal abuse from all sides and the issue is very near and dear to me. HELP SOME OF YOUR MALE WATCHERS by doing a show about female abusers, the excuses, the lies, the lack of trust, love and committment and what men can do to help their women change, or at least to see, understand and learn from their partners who are older.
Either that or do a show on the women who have children with men because their lives are hollow and empty and don't want to be lonely again. I would really like to see the show, get some advice, something.
Thanks for listening.
(Original Air Date: 10/31/07) It was the picture–perfect wedding -- a model marrying the handsome man she says treated her like gold. But after a few years of marriage, Kevin and Heather are in a dangerous relationship. They constantly yell, scream and fight, and their home life has gotten so bad that Heather says Kevin has picked her up by the throat, thrown her to the ground, held her at knifepoint and even taught their 3-year-old daughter to call her the C-word. You won't believe where their daughter ends up during the chaos! Kevin says Heather is the one who gets in his face, and she needs to stop being so controlling. He claims he's a changed man, but should she trust his behavior now? The Dr. Phil show installed cameras in their home. Why does Dr. Phil say the footage caught on tape is frightening? And, their moms weigh in on the situation. Should Heather spend another night under the same roof as Kevin? Her uncle offers her a safe place to rest, but will she take him up on the offer, or return home with the man she says could kill her or her daughter? Join the discussion.
