A lot of abusers will tell a cop that the woman hit them first, then the cop will tell the couple "I either have to take both of you away or you need to work it out now so we are not called again" here in Fl.
Another thing, some abusive men who are especially cunning and sneaky, will have "bad" cop friends who they can call to respond. And many abusiver are especially savvy by bringing these cops friends food or giving them cases of water or other beverages to drink in exchange for their "card" basically a "get out of jail free" card.
I was a teacher and a lot of teachers married cops at the school that I was last employed at. I know a lot of great cops too. Unfortunately a few bad ones can cause a lot of damage and harm.
When I worked with trouble youth (80%+ had been molested or raped), we taught a class about rape and what to do. If you are being attacked or raped on the streets, obviously you would want to size up the situation and probably scream and fight. I say "probably" because there are situations that you have to decide how risky it is, meaning one must choose to be just raped, raped and beaten, raped and stabbed, or killed. It depends on where the attack is, who the attacker is, and what kind of weapon they have. It was not the most pleasant topic to teach.
And of course, if you are being robbed, if someone breaks in your house, or if someone is hurting your child, then most people would defend themselves and their family.
All public school teachers and nursery workers are expected to have a lot of self control. This means to NEVER hit your students or push them or cuss at them or verbally abuse them (which means name calling is never acceptable - if you want to teach it, you must live it), no matter what they are doing. Even if they hit you, you cannot hit them back. One time at a non-profit school where I worked, I stepped in between two students because one innocent student about to be punched by a trouble maker. I used myself as a shield because I did not want to see the innocent student strike back in self defense because our policy was to expel both students in the fight and I knew that the fighting student was trying to get the innocent student expelled. In that case, the fighter was removed.
And if educators and nursery workers, mental health practitioners, nurses and doctors, therapists, and many other professionals are able to withstand dealing with people or children all day long who might be immature, childish, annoying, even irrational, instable, and mentally ill WITHOUT abusing them, then surely a husband who only spends a small amount of time with his wife, in compared to the hours put to his job, watching tv/movies, napping, playing sports, and going out with friends should be able to control himself.
Proverbs 14:16b - 17 But a fool rages and is self confident. A quick tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of wicked intentions is hated.
Proverbs 16:32 He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.
Proverbs 25:28 Whoever has no rule over his own spirit, Is like a city broken down, without walls.
Proverbs 29:9 If a wise man contends with a foolish man, Whether the fools rages or laughs, there is no peace.
(Original Air Date: 10/31/07) It was the picture–perfect wedding -- a model marrying the handsome man she says treated her like gold. But after a few years of marriage, Kevin and Heather are in a dangerous relationship. They constantly yell, scream and fight, and their home life has gotten so bad that Heather says Kevin has picked her up by the throat, thrown her to the ground, held her at knifepoint and even taught their 3-year-old daughter to call her the C-word. You won't believe where their daughter ends up during the chaos! Kevin says Heather is the one who gets in his face, and she needs to stop being so controlling. He claims he's a changed man, but should she trust his behavior now? The Dr. Phil show installed cameras in their home. Why does Dr. Phil say the footage caught on tape is frightening? And, their moms weigh in on the situation. Should Heather spend another night under the same roof as Kevin? Her uncle offers her a safe place to rest, but will she take him up on the offer, or return home with the man she says could kill her or her daughter? Join the discussion.
