Topic : 03/13 DNA Dramas

Referring to the Enrique show...This is all a double standard. I'm a woman and I come from a home with divorce where my mom had to repeatedly take my father to court. But to suggest a man sould have to pay financially or even emotionally for a child that is not his is ludricous and such should be a crime. Put the shoe on the other foot. What if some boyfriend showed up at my door and said this kid is yours where's the money? He wouldn't see a dime until I had it tested... Ideally, even if Enrique would stop supporting his daughter financially he should of stayed in the girl's life for her sake because it wasn't her fault. Mother's should be held accountable.

in naming the wrong father they ruin so many lives and prevent the child from having a relationship with the real dad...she should be sued for every dime he gave her and emotional distress, and he should try to revive his relationship with the girl as best he can.

 My husband and I could relate to this show because he raised a daughter for 5 years only to find out that she wasn't really his. A judge gave him step-parent rights but after his ex lost custody of her, her biological father would not let him see her anymore. We haven't seen her in 5 years and we miss her a lot.

DNA Doctor Dramas Phil. I have seen this last year in 2007.  See you on Thursday March 13th, 2008.--------

Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

My fiancee and I have been together for 2 and half years and he has the EX from 'hell!' She constantly plays 'head games' with him using the child who just turned 13 last November.  He is court ordered to pay child support for a child he does not even see because this woman has made every effort to ensure that he doesn't! She wants HIM back still! She 'uses' the child as a pawn in every way, shape, or opportunity that she can think of! What I don't understand is WHY he is paying child support when his name is NOT even on this child's birth certificate? They were together as a couple when she conceived - but he even then he had his 'doubts' IF the child was his or not because this woman had a 'history' of sleeping around. This child resembles my fiancee but I still think that he should do the blood test to legally put his name on the child's birth certificate! Also this woman had numerous affairs with other members of my fiancee's family so it could be a slight possibilty that the child could resemble him because she is related to him? could it not? I am so frustrated by this whole mess! I just wish that we could get this whole situation dealt with and out in the open because I am 'sick and tired' of dealing with this woman - she is evil and wicked. I have a serious health condition and she would love more than anything to just see this whole situation get 'swept under the carpet' and forgotten about. She had initially agreed to sign the birth documents last spring, then she phoned our residence two days later and left a snarky phone message - recinding on her original agreement in front of the Judge! It is this 'off the wall behaviour' that makes me question WHAT she has to hide?!  My fiancee tried to get his lawyer to push for the blood test and he said that he has already made 'claims to the child by paying the child support and accessing his visitation!'   When we went to vital statistics office to pick up the forms to do the birth documents ourselves - we were informed otherwise. Due to the child's age, the father cannot simply be added on. It either has to be court ordered or done through a blood test. My fiancee wanted to do the blood test - given his Ex's history and for his own peace of mind! It seems like my fiancee has never had his say in court before the Judge. He just continues to pay child support for a child that may very well not be his?! I don't understand this system!  What else can WE do? We need your help Dr. Phil!

 

somedays I think I would like to find my birth father, then there are days that I'm glad that I don't know who he is or was. My Grandmother went to her grave with out telling me or my sister who our Dad's were. Like I said before sometimes I wished I would of asked her or had the money to find out and maybe to meet him.

Everything I've been told is that he was a soldier in the Korean Conflict and that he was killed over there.

I've also been told that I have a sister that looks just like me and then I've been told I have another sister that looks like me too. And that we all live here in Springfield, MO I just don't know? Maybe I'm better off not knowing or what.

Maybe he pays child support because he's a decent person. You should look into that.

You might as well stop it with the drama, and grow up a bit. Sorry, but you need to learn that you have NOTHING to do with this. He is the father, she is the mother. You need to take a deep breath and butt out. Even when you get married...(if)...you aren't the new mommy and you aren't your husband's mommy either.
Let it go, you know that this child, who is 13 for CRYING OUT LOUD, is his. You've been around for 2 measly years. Let it go, it's really not any of your business.

The tone of this post makes it really clear that you are a huge part, if not the entirety, of this issue.

Good for you for handling it so well! I hope those girls are okay and that their parents can lead happy, fulfilling lives despite their mistakes.

I do hope ALL the guest find the CLOSURE they seek. Everyone needs to find peace in their lives.

 

I won't be watching this show; however. I have become very tired of all the problems we humans OFTEN (but not always ,of course) bring on ourselves. People who make good choices in their lives usually don't live in chaos.

 

They don't need DNA testing when they fall in love, marry under God, stay committed to eachother, build their friendships/marriages, raise children, love and support one another, send their kids off to college, enjoy grandchildren, etc, etc, etc. When God's teachings are followed, life IS very EASY. It's peaceful, it's rewarding and it's NOT chaotic. When you are married and sleeping only with your spouse, there is NO NEED FOR DNA TESTING. That may not be P.C, but it's the simple truth!

 

God bless all those who are in turmoil. May they find that which they seek. I just hope they are looking in the right place for their answers....

 

I just had to write in to tell Terry that she is wrong.  My older son has been married for eleven years.  His wife does not do things the way I do, but why would she?  I didn't raise her.  She is a good mother, a bright and talented young women.  I just lost my husband to cancer and through the whole process, she asked me how I was.  That's a great kid!!!  No, she's not perfect. I have found that if I model behavior with their son with aspergers, she almost always picks up on it.   I would rather die than hurt her feelings.  My grandchildren mean the world to me.

Now, my younger son is getting married.  His choice is also a lovely girl. 

I taught parenting classes and hosted and produced a parenting show.  So, I could feel justified in  butting in, but I won't. 

 Get a clue, lady!!!!

My son and his wife have been married for 25 years...down through the years, she has been hard to deal with, but I NEVER said one bad word to him about her, nor did I say anything ugly to her, (LOTS of tongue biting!!) because it would have put him in the middle...and that's never a good place to be!

 

Finally, after all these years, she has mellowed and realized that he can love both his family and her, and she doesn't have to be jealous of time he spends with any of us. We don't make demands on his time; never have....he's a big boy and when he wants to come see us, he does. For years she wouldn't come along; now she does. Each year gets better.

 

Mothers-in-law need to butt out! The more bad things you say about the spouse, the more your child will be compelled to defend the spouse, (even if they know in their heart that you are right).....no one wants to be made wrong...and you will lose in the long run!