Topic : 03/13 DNA Dramas

There is on old saying : Your son's your son until he takes a wife, your daughter's your daughter the rest of your life.  There's a lot of deep-seated truth to that saying.  And it is not necessarily bad.  Understanding and accepting the reality of that saying really helps lay the roadwork for expectations when a son marries. The figures quoted on today's show say that too many mothers-in-law do not trust their son's wife.

   My son is 33 and married, and the father of two beautiful girls.   My daughter-in-law is a blessing and a joy and a gift from God to our family.  If we chose to, we probably could capitalize on each other's differences; but we do not choose to.  Watching shows like this makes me want to call a florist and just send her flowers!   

   I wish there were shows that would hunt down families who were FUNCTIONING - just to showcase that there are families who are successfully navigating relationships of all sorts.  Watching so many of the Dr. Phil shows makes me grateful on a regular basis for my wonderful family, and especially those members who have been brought into our family through marriage.

Already having been diagnosed with bi-polar Diane's treatment should include medication AND therapy - somehow I get the impression from the show that she's doing the medication bit except when pregnant -- but where's the therapy?

One of the problems with bi-polar (also known as manic depression) is that those with it tend to go off their medications -- they start to feel so good that they think they don't need the medication and then go off it and its not really noticible till the manic rages come - the greater number of homeless people living on the streets are sufferers of bi-polar/manic depression.

Adam chose this life - the thing is he made this choice for his family as well - and that probably just doesn't seem fair to his mom, his siblings and even his in-laws - they're now embroiled in a drama they never wanted.  Its hard to not blame Diane as she's the cause of it - and its hard for Diane cause she didn't ask to be born with this disease.

I'm sorry Dr. Phil didn't go further into the root of the problem in this family and so many  others (including mine) around the nation. Its an opportunity that was lost - shame.

I am currently 16 years old. When I was 10 I found out that the man who I thought was my father was not my biological father. After watching todays show I got to thinking about what the lady who wrote the book said. She made it seem like the child was going to be completely horrified with the man who wasn't really her father and that it was still his responsibility to pay child support. Ok, well first of all who is she to say how a child will feel towards the man who was not her father. Yes, the fact that I don't know my biological father really hurts. I have tried finding him for the purpose of asking the questions I need to find closer in my mind. He wants nothing to do with me and that is very painful. But, my daddy who has been my daddy since the day I was born is the greatest man in this world. I didn't hate him because he wasn't my real dad. At first I was upset but after I had time to think about the situation I respected him because he knew I was not his daughter and he stilled treated me like one. This women was very vocal about her opinion but come on truthfully how fair can it be to make a man who is not the father of a child pay child support? I am sure he loves his "daughter" very much and he shouldn't let the truth change that  but, it isn't his responsiblity. The responsibilty and blame should be on the father who didn't care enough to stick around. That is where the real hurt comes in. I wonder all the time, what was so wrong with me that my biological father didn't want me? And further more since he knows I know about him and want to contact him ,why is he still denying me? That is what hurts the children. I wish everyday that I could just sit down and talk to him just so I can at least say I have met him and then go from there. Adults need to realize that unless the were directly affected as a child by a situation that they argue about they have no room to say how a child does or does not feel. Even professionals don't know the exact pain a child goes through and what it does to them for the rest of their lives. Sure, you can throw around some fancy legal terms and say I know it all but legal terms don't compare to the heartbreak of children.

I partly agree-the husband should stand up and tell his mother to butt out!! The mother-in-law basically said that she would love for his marriage to fall apart. What a sad woman! Shame on her! The husband knew she had intercourse with an ex and chose to stay in his marriage. They already had a DNA test done. This mother-in-law doesn't like her son's CHOICE for a partner and that is her problem. She needs to mind her own business and get a life!!!

Kristi, I would count my BLESSINGS that this jerk is not in the picture and doesn't want to be. Do you realize that if you get him involved he can get shared custody of your child? And THAT means that his probably psycho WIFE, who you don't know from Adam will be in charge of her well being when she's at HIS house???????????????

There is no WAYYYYYYYYYY I would give my child over to some lunatic man and his God-only-knows-who wife. Are you CRAZY?????????????? You won't have ANY say on what takes place in their house while YOUR daughter is there. And if you drag him into this you're asking for it.

RUN as fast as you CAN away from this situation or you're offering your daughter up to be in THEIR home with whatever THEY do in it.