Quote From: my4boyz98I am very experienced in the results of child support. My husband pays child support for a child that is not his. His wife began cheating on him early in the relationship with his ex but my husband was not aware of the indiscretions. When she became pregnant he tried to do the right thing and married her. When the child was 7 months of age he caught her cheating on him and filed for divorce. He agreed to child support as he believed this was his daughter.
Two years later mom tells him he is not the father and that her real father is now a part of the child's life and my husband needed to stop visiting as it was confusing to the child. My husband was hurt......and immediately asked her to terminate support since this was not his child and mom wanted him having nothing to do with the child.
She refused. He petitioned the courts for termination of the support order based on new facts. Mom stood up in court and lied though her teeth. Claimed he was the father. So my husband asked for paternity tests to tell the truth. He was turned down. The courts told him that paternity tests were not needed as they would not come into play. He would be required to pay support for the child regardless of if he was the father or not.
We are now paying support for a child that is not his. He enforced his visitation for another three years when the child asked to stop visitation so she could stay with her real father during the weekend. My husband ended the visits as the child wanted.
Now we sit here with children of our own who get less because he has to . support a child that is not his and refuses to visit with him. Mom told the child that he was not the father. All this due to one womans greed and manipulative behavior.
We are not rich........in fact we pay more child support for this child then we use to support out own children yet the nightmare continues.
Child support is the new welfare IMO. The government has no desire to end this and do the right thing because it is keeping women off the welfare rolls. His ex wife sits at home and collects the child support and refuses to work as the real father will not work either.
God bless the child support system that allows a women to lie and ruin another persons life.
I understand children must come first......but get real. Child support has nothing to do with visitation. If the courts really want to keep the bond regardless of paternity why not order the father to spend time with the child? This they do not do......instead they make the father pay. No tell me how this is benefiting the child?
Fathers are required to pay such abnormally high amounts of child support that some are unable to support themseves........all for a child they did not produce.
The real reason why the courts will not stop support has nothing to do with the children........it has to do with the welfare rolls. If they allowed this millions of fathers would come forward and request paternity. If even 30% of these Fathers were determined not to be the father 30% of children would lose child support and end up back on welfare.......something the government will not allow.
The courts feed off the ignorance of men...........because a man trusts his wife he will pay regardless of the truth. The system is broken until it is fixed no child will be helped.
If the courts spent time on fixing this there would be less trouble enforcing orders and mothers would be held accountable for their behavior.
I am ashamed to say I am a women when I see women doing this. It is not fair to the man or your child and I truly believe any woman that would lie to a man about paternity is scum!
This is out and out FRAUD! If this was anything else they would be charged with fraud....so why not in this case?
I think that this is what you wante to say. This is something that I can agree on with you.
Well written!!
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