Topic : 06/19 Finding Alex

I love her with all of my heart, I went to the boarding school with her and it is unfortunate that she went back to her old ways.  She callde me and told me she was and I didn't listen.  I thought she was bluffing.  But now I know she wasn't/  I hadn't heard from her in two months and this  is what I found out she was doing.   I love her she gave me a nickname and she said we'd have babies together<im a girl. lol it's a joke.>.  She is so sweet and fun.  It was obvious to me that she was struggling with having to leave aos , well before she left.  She began to do bad things and she started getting more and more angry.   She even said she wasn't ready and didn't want to go home.  I don't know whether to blame aos or dr. phil for not helping her enough.  Aos didn't help her learn to address the problem outside of her therapy sessions and I think it would have helped her to talk about it.  But she was ashamed of it and didn't.  I love Alex so much, so don't let me hear anyone call her a hoe or a bad seed.  She really is just a sweet, lost girl.  She doesn't like her mother, why put her back in that situatuion?  Alex is not going to beniefit much from this new place, Four Winds.  I know she won't because I know her.  But she won't refuse to go because she is going to be away from her mother.  I miss Alex tremedously.  She is my love.  My best friend.   I just don't want to see her hurt anymore.  Alex and I spent alot of time together at AOS... and I'm surprised she gained so much weight.  I gained some weight back to, having lost 70 pounds but Idon't know what I think anymore about AOS.  Everyone recently is gaining back weight. The alumni just talk about suing it but no on has the money too, now that we spent all of it at AOS.  I wish it had helped Alex, but how could I  when it doesn't help in the long run anyways? 

I LOVE YOU ALEX!

we'll make milado babies one day. 

never forget bon-qui-qui loves you.

I'm afraid that when I was a teen I never even thought of having sex with anyone, much less dozens of men. I had hobbies, friends, etc and having loose sex was just not part of the picture. Not that my life was picture perfect, with a dysfunctional mother and nasty father, but it did not drive me to the absolutely stupid behavior I saw in Alex. And her attitude towards help was astonishing! "Whatever". She appears to have very low intelligence as well as low emotional intelligence and I do not think that the mother was much better. Glad Dr. Phil called her out on the whole lawsuit thing. Having amazingly not contracted any STD or Aids was pretty darn lucky and not a good example for the teens out there watching the show thinking they too would escape permanent consequences. She could stand to lose about 60 pounds too. Why would any guy want to have sex with someone that big?

So, clear this up for me....just what childhood events would have caused this behavior? Was she sexually abused? beaten? starved? burned with cigarettes? forced to take mind altering substances? kept in the attic? is it genetic? is part of her brain missing? What?

wow, i have a teenage daughter that just turned 18....about 3mo ago, she decided that she did not have to come home anymore, and so one weekend she did not come home. i called her  cell phone for 36hrs with no response...finally on sunday morn about 1115 i had called the police dept to file a runaway report and while i was filing the report she text me and wanted to know what was up...the officer ask for her number and called her...she answered and he told her that she had 15min to get home...we talked and she told me everything that she did not like and just pretty much told me that when she turned 18 she would be gone, and i told her that if that happened she would not be leaving with her car, cell phone, and anything else...if she wanted to leave she could, but she would only leave with her clothes. well she turned 18 and she is still at home, and i know that if she leaves there is nothing that i can do, so i just try to get along and if she stays at her boyfriends home, atleast i know where she is...she is on birthcontrol and has been since 9grade. some people say that is wrong, i feel like it is smart, and that way she wont have a child at a young age....i am a single mom and i have been told that i was bad for this or that because her father chose not to be in her life...that was his choice not mine so i finally told her that if she wanted to find her father, because men can be fathers, but it is a special person that can be a dad....we found him and he is in prison for drugs...that is the kind of person he is...i know that i have made mistakes along the way, but that is just the way it went and i did my  best...it wasn't like i was a teenage mom...i was 34 when i had my daughter and she has always had everything that she needed and to many other things that she wanted especially being an only grandchild...she is a terrific student and all the teachers have always told me that they would like to have a whole classroom of kids like her...when she started this stuff up at the beginning of aug it caught me off guard because i had never been through anything like that with her...when you have a child that doesn't come home and you don't know where she is at....it absolutely makes you ill...my daughter has not had the best mom, because i am a cancer patient and she has had to do a lot of things that children her age (she was 10)when i got sick...and so she has been through a lot that kids should not have to deal with but that was the way it was and we went through it. i hope and pray that alex takes this second chance as important as it is and makes good choices, and mom i hope that you can make it and that both of you can become close once again....