Topic : 06/19 Finding Alex

This story is just so sad and heartbreaking. I remember watching this show when it originally aired the first time. Alex is such a confused, unhappy and insecure child. She really needs help and support to guide her through these adolescent times. There is obviously a serious problem going on with the mother Kim in the home that has not been addressed to this day. I really do hope that Alex and Kim both get the counseling they need to live a productive, happy and healthy lifestyle together to support one another and to respect each other. Good luck and best of wishes!!!

I have a had time believing everything she is saying. Maybe she is being truthful and I believe that there are a lot of girls out there her age doing what she is saying. I just don't believe her.

I'm 54 and I understand SO MUCH MORE ABOUT LIFE now than I did at 19.

 

I had a relatively uncomplicated life but, boy, do I ever see things differently now that I'm older.  When I was 19, I thought I knew everything!!!  I look back and LAUGH!  I had no clue!!!!!

 

Everything has a consequence and the choices you make on a whim at 19 last FOREVER!!!

 

Best statement that could ever apply would be - "what goes around, comes around".

 

Love your kids and let them loose.  What doesn't come back wasnt' going to come back anyway.  Pray and hope for the best - be there no matter what.

 

A loving mom.

I feel sorry for her mother. I don't understand how Alex could treat herself like that. It is pathetic. She is a beautiful 15 year old who needs to get her act together. Her mother has done so much to try to help Alex and it all just gets blown up in her face. Alex needs to realize that just because she was clean from STDs and pregnancy both times doesnt mean she can't get it in the future. I would LOVE to see another episode on Alex's progress and by that i mean that until Alex can figure out that what she is doing to her body, i dont want to see her mother having to suffer because of what her daughter has become. It broke my heart to see her saying that she didnt want to go back to her mother and then to see the effect it had on a mother who is just doing whats right for her daughter it was very sad.I wish Alex all the luck in my heart and for her mother.. you are just doing what any good mother would do..get her daughter help.

Best Wishes.

Hi,

I am a Mom and lived so much of this terror and that life. It is sooooooo heart wrenching and frustrating to be in that Mom's shoes! I KNOW! I have 3 children. Now 27, 25 and 20 My youngest went through very similar circumstances as Alex and her Mom. My youngest (daughter) became extremely rebellious and did so many things to put herself in the way of predators. I always told her to "Don't make yourself a victim". wanting her to understand that every choice she made counted. That SHE was making those choices and to take responsibility for them. She ran away numerous times, was beat up, drank alcohol, did drugs (yes the bad ones like Meth!!!!) I was so afraid for her back then (now 5 years ago) I did EVERYTHING! And I do mean everything! I was in law enforcement for God's sake and knew what was right and wrong, as Alex's mother does. I spoke to my friends and co-workers who were State Troopers and local Police asking their advice and for any information they might have. You would be surprised too to hear that many of them were also dealing with some of these problems at home too. You could say that I had a lot more going for us than Alex and her Mom. I am angry with some of the feed back blaming Alex's Mom and incinuating that she is a bad Mom. I want to tell Alex's Mom that I feel for her, cry for her. I know that you feel alone and overwhelmed with your daughter's behavior. That you are feeling beyond desperate. I know it doesn't help you "in the now" of dealing with all of this but I am out here praying and thinking of you, wishing for your strength and peace. I know you are doing your best! My daughter ran away for the last time when she was 16. She was taken to a dope house 50 miles from her home. She was drugged and kept locked in a room with another girl for days. She was raped repeatedly. I cry as I write this to you all. My heart is still broken over this being done to my daughter. I love her more than words can say. I couldn't protect her from her own bad judgement. I can't erase it, I can't undo it. I was served a supeona last night for a deposition concerning this horrible event last night. Yes, 5 years later we are still dealing with it! The main man involved is in prison but owns a chain of stores in my state. His shareholders have hired lawyers to protect the business from the damages these girls are due. He and his henchmen raped and beat my daughter and others for days. Some escaping as my daughter did and some not. My daughter has since gone to Provo Utah to a school and lock down facility with extensive counceling for 6 months.  She has a 1 1/2 year old little boy now. He has a rare congenital birth defect called Schitzencephally. She is also 7months pregnant with her second son. Her life has turned around. She is loving, calm and as happy as she can be at this time in her life. Her children are first, she loves and cares for them as a good mommy does. She dresses so nicely now and keeps a clean home. I would be lying though to say that she doesn't still nedd counceling to get over it and move on completely. Can you ever forget it? Looking back I really can't tell you how we all made it through our nightmare. There were so many nights I cried myself to sleep, worried myself to death that she would die because of her high risk behavior. I agree whole heartedly with Dr. Phil that as a parent you just keep going back in there and trying to reach them. Don't give up! It's all you can do. In closure, my 25 year old son said to me  (back then) " Mom, I know this is ripping your heart apart. I know you are looking for the reasons why. These are her choices. You made the same cookies for us all in school and read the same bedtime stories to all of us. You can't always control her. You are a good mom."  What a kid! This hurt everyone, we all were hurting. His love and patience carried me so far....... Alex and her Mom need love and patience. 

I have a mother-in-law who lied, told stories, thought she could rule our lives.  Did I make a scene, no.  My husband and I talked about it between ourselves.  It wouldn't have done any good for our family to have a huge blow up like this family is having.  My mother-in-law taught me how not to be a mother-in-law.  Today I have two daughter-in-laws and we get along great.  I do not walk into their homes and ask why they aren't doing things my way, I do not laugh at their style of decorating, I do not comment that they aren't dressed properly, that their hair needs cutting.  I do not say they do not know how to cook, clean, etc..  I do not criticize.  They love my boys, they take very good care of my grandchildren, they respect me as much as I respect them.  A mother-in-law sets the stage for the relationship between her and her daughter or son-in-law.  She is suppose to be the more mature one.  In my case, I feel that my husband were more mature than she ever could be, even at her age now.  And who is taking care of all her finances, and making sure that she is well taken care of in her assistant care home - me.  And I treat her much better than she has ever treated me.  I feel I am setting the example for my daughter-in-laws.  My daughter-in-laws and I share a most precious love and respect for each other.  I have learned from them, and they have learned from me.  We have made mistakes, we have apologized.  And I thank them in my heart every day for loving and taking care of my sons and my grandsons.

  That kid is lost cause. Why would Dr. Phil not use his considerable resources to help some worthwhile kid?  Alex is a smirking, insolent ,she can hardly put a sentence together.  Really Dr. Phil ,the kid is a lost cause, she is where she wants to be---in the gutter. Help some kid with promise--there are lots of them out there who could profit from your help.

I am totally amazed the fact that Alex and her mother are back with the same problems again, but I am even more surprised that alex's mother has the nerve to try and sue the Dr Phil show because she was un happy with the treatments her daughter received. are you kidding? didnt she readily agree to have the treatments administered in the 1st place because she was at wits end?? she gets all this free treatment which anybody would kill for and she has the nerve to come crying back for more free handouts. sorry.. No sympathy here. I am just disgusted with this whole situation. Dr Phil is a better person than I could ever be.

I'm sorry but even if her mother isn't mother of the year, running away and prostituting yourself is better? She should be glad she has food on the table and a place to live. If she doesn't like rules and thinks the things she does are ok . What does she expect? I would lock her up and throw away the key. I say let her go she will find out the hard way when she's dying of aids or murdered by some creepy guy who picks up prostitutes. She is selfish and dr. phil should stop wasting time and money on this ungrateful little girl.

I don't see Alex as anything else but a rebellious teen who is out of control. We all go through the stages of hating our parents and their rules. I hated the rules so much, I left at age 18 on the day.  However I never disrespected my parents or their rules. Alex only complained of not being able to go anywhere with her friends.  This shows shes still very young and immature.  Unfortunately I did not realize how hard it was to raise a child until I had my own. I then thanked my mother for standing by me and making me the independant woman I am. I hope Alex does not have to wait until then. Her mother is making every effort to be there for her now...