Quote From: mommyoutyou will see some day,if you have children, that you are not as important to them as the person they think they are in love with. this starts in their early teens, when we become so stupid, in their eyes as parents.you too will get your heart broke.it isn't about incest our unnatural relationships it is about loving & raising kids & giving them your all & having them hurt you when they find someone they think is good for them.I tried to love all my childrens choices & it has broken my heart too many times to even repair my heart anymore. don't make judgements until you have gone through the Pain.
First of all, I didn't mean "incest" in the sexual way...it's everything but the sex. Please educate yourself on the term "emotional incest". What makes you think I don't have a teenage son? I do have a 16 yr old son & miss him being all cuddly, but I know he has to grow up and find his own way. In a few years he'll be back (meaning he'll outgrow the "I know everything & my parents are stupid" phase) & he knows I'll always be here for him no matter what, but I will not force him or expect him to fulfill my emotional needs. You have to love your kids enough to let them go to find their own life. In my case, the man's mother owns every second of his time.
I was in no way implying that men should "dump" their mothers. But the men need to find a backbone & express boundaries to their mothers. In my case, the mother lives next door. She got her son trapped in there. She expects, no... DEMANDS, that he serve up his child to her every minute of his limited custody time. She will not allow him to form a father/daughter relationship. I believe she should absolutely have a normal grandma/granddaughter relationship, but what functional family allows the child to spend 100% of their visitation time with the grandma? It's not right! It's robbing the son & the granddaughter of an important bond. The child is becoming quite a brat at age 3 because her grandma constantly dotes on her. Again, that's what grandma's do, but it should be occasionally, not every minute of DADDY's time.
Funny that his sister is allowed to have her own family, has family time without the grandma without punishment that the son receives if he dares to attempt to have time with his daughter without her present. Never once were we allowed by her to follow through with plans we had made. She literally threw temper tantrums if she wasn't included in something.
I believe that we also enter into "family" relationships when we pick a partner. However, to this woman (my man's mom) "family" really means control and ownership. Only people who provide this woman with more children to brainwash are welcome in her world.
I was raised to respect my elders. Therefore, I have not gone off on her like I wanted to after 2 years of her crap. Instead I left him. This is exactly what the mom wants. She's now run off 2 good women from her son's life. It's so selfish of her. God forbid her son try to have a healthy normal male/female relationship. It's so sad that he won't even see the brainwashing & life control until she dies.
(Original Air Date: 11/08/07) A bride-to-be takes on her future mother-in-law in an ugly feud that has torn a family apart. The wedding day is fast approaching and the best man has resigned, the aunt has disowned the groom, and the wedding planner is on alert to call the police if the mother-in-law shows up -- which she’s threatened to do! Michelle says she cannot stand her future mother-in-law, Jane, whom she thinks has a sick and inappropriate relationship with her son, Jay. Jane thinks Michelle is a cold-hearted “you know what” who has stolen her only son. She says unless they hire a hit man, they can’t stop her from being at the wedding. Jay stands by his fiancée, which is why his whole family is saying they won’t attend the wedding. Has Michelle manipulated Jay? What happens when the mother of the bride and the soon-to-be mother-in-law come face to face for the first time in four months? Can Dr. Phil cut through the drama and heal this family feud? Tell us what you think.
