Topic : 06/02 Banned From the Wedding

Watching the show I think that they are both at fault in the dispute.  I invited my mother-in-law to my wedding and she didn't come.  She offered to pay for a photogropher and the day before the wedding she called and said she decided not to.  I do not have any memories of my wedding.  I do not have video and the only pictures I have are the ones the guest that were there took.  My mother in law does not like me because she felt that way my husband and I met was not to her approval.  We met on the internet.  She had a background check done on me and my husband already knew everything there was to know about me.  When she came to the house she told me that when she comes to my home that I can not be in my kitchen because she will do all the cooking for her son and grandchildren.  My husband has custody of his children from his first marriage.  She has as recent as a week ago cursed my daughter out, and she is only 16.  My daughter didn't say anything mean to her and she just wanted to talk to her and she said she was tired of her and my f***in children.  Because my daghter started crying I picked up the phone and said nicely, please do not speak to my daughter like that and I will not get stressed out over you (I am pregnant).  She screamed in the phone f*** you b****, then slammed the phone down.  She treats my husband as if he is 2, she has told him not to let her have to come and run the household.  She has told him he is not going to amount to anything and he is a very smart man, he is strong and very educated but he has always been told he is not.  I hope no one has to suffer the way I have and I have only been married for a little over a year and almost walked away because of her.  My family means alot to me and I believe that once your child has found the person he or she wants to marry the parents should respect their childs decision. 

When you are marrying someone you are marrying their family. My FIL is the type of person who says whatever comes to mind hateful or not. There are many times he has made me cry then he had a stroke, he is still hateful at times but I have learned to ignore it. Like Dr. Phil said what are you going to do when she drops dead? When my father in law had his stroke and is now in a wheel chair for the rest of his life being mad about all the petty things he said didn't really seem to matter and didn't seem fair. I am not going to keep my children from having memories of having 4 grandparents and I am not going to do that to my husband. Who wins with that? So I hold my tongue taking the high ground about 75% of time... Sometimes I do tell him he is out of line, but I would never ever tell him he couldn't be at my house, or see his kid or mine that just isn't fair for any involved.

The mother is out of line of course and she will see it, but the bride is WAY out of line and her future husband needs to be the one to save this.