Topic : 06/02 Banned From the Wedding

Dr. Phil would be horrified if his Daughter in law spoke to Robin the way Michelle speaks to Jane.

I saw part one of this show and was horrified. Jay should have made it clear to his now wife Michelle, that she could never talk to his mother that way and he would never talk to her mother that way.

He allows his wife to torment his mother by posting on her my space and by email and in personand taunt her and then not ALLOW her to their wedding and threaten her with never seeing her son or grandchildren.

Then JAY has the audacity to say that he and his new bride need acknowlegement and apologies and made a list of 15 things that his mother must do to appease his new bride. PATHETIC.  How much can you taunt someone before they react. Then Jay yells at Jane for reacting to his new wife's smothering jealousy. Jealous of Jay's mom?That is truly a lack of confidence. Can't he see Michelle's controlling jealous behavior?

After raising her son for 20 plus years, this is what she deserves from JAY????????? UNBELIEVABLE

I hope that Michele and Jay get the same pathetic treatment from their own children.

 I WAS VERY DISSAPOINTED IN MICHELLE AND JAY. TO THINK THAT A SON COULD TREAT HIS MOTHER THAT WAY  THERE IS NOT EVEN WORDS TO EXPLAIN IT.I AM A SINGLE MOTHER IN THE BAHAMAS AND I HAVE ONE [1]SON HE IS ONLY 12 NOW BUT I SHUTTER TO THINK THAT THAT HE COULD DO TO ME OR ALLOW ANYONE TO DO TO ME WHAT JAY DID AND ALLOWED MICHELLE TO DO TO HIS MOTHER.TO JANE I HOPE YOU GET A CHANCE TO READ THIS.ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS ONE DAY THEY WILL HAVE CHILDREN AND GOD FORBID  IF THE CICLE IS NOT BROKEN.MICHELLE WILL HAVE 10 TIME MORE HEARTACHE THAN YOU'RE HAVING RIGHT NOW.TO ALL MOTHERS AROUND THE WORLD,JANE TO YOU MOST OF ALL HOLD STRONG AND GOD BE WITH YOU ALWAYS.

 Without knowing it your daughter in-law showed her ignorance by not knowing wedding invitation etiquette.

 Bet her guests had a laugh about that. Hang in there !

I watched this show when it originally aired, and was perplexed then. It aired again.... watched again...

and am just as full of questions as to why dr phil didnt come down hard on this little WITCH. i dont know her ....but i know her....and dr phil ...quite frankly you are so far off the mark on this one ...i have disagreed with some of your opinions before but...i have never yelled at you until these shows aired!

it is so very clear to me what  micheles intent was...and that is to have the love and attention focused soley on her ...she probably saw a strong personality in the then boyfriends mother...a women who has been around for a while and has the wisdom to figure out  a manipulator when she see's one....so michele  has figured out that the only way to have the so called "prize" was to have him all to herself.

so what does she do? she becomes the innocent victem...twisting the truth around to serve her purpose....why in the world you didnt call her on this is sooooo beyond me ...i cant wrap my brain around it...this had to be the most tramatic time for this mother....losing the relationship that she cultivated with her so called son....being banned from the wedding from her only child....not to mention the assasination that took place on your show not once but twice(telling that couple that they were right?...what?????) and you fed the fire ...there could not be a more horrible empty feeling of abandononment.....when a child chooses to cut off all ties to his once very close relationship with his mom....i cant help but wonder ...if this were to happen to your wife ....would you be so diplomatic with your son's girlfriend?....i think not...i have 2 sons and 1 daughter...i really tried to put my self  in both shoes...as far as both sides the mother and the in law..and i gotta tell ya ....the in law did nothing that warrented the kind of punishment her son gave her....he could have a relationship with his mom ...without his wife ...it happens all the time...but for his mother to have to do everything to try to please them  is outrageous...and for them to sit there with a smug look on HER face as if to say that she won.....I wanted to jump up and defend her.....I am so disappointed in the way this whole thing was handled ...and lost respect for you phil

I have never left a message about a show before but felt I had to respond to this one.  I watched the first show and I know all parties involved have made mistakes.  As a mother, it's hard to let go of your child when they get married but it's something that you have to do.  Jane definitely made mistakes with her son and daughter-in-law.  However, it was very apparent that she is really trying to move forward and is trying to make amends.  The son asked that she admit things she has said in the past and own up to them.  I truly believe that Jane probably doesn't remember everything that was said in anger.  Most people forget things they've said in anger.  I also thought it was in very poor taste that the son continued to push her to acknowledge everything and showed so little respect for his mother.  I was outraged at Michelle's attitude.  I didn't like it on the first show because I thought that even though Jane had done things to hurt her, she still needed to show respect for her as her future husband's mother.   Today, she was again disrespectful, unwilling to give an inch, and wanted a fight.  She does not want her husband to have a relationship with his mother no matter what she says.  I was very happy to hear Dr. Phil tell the husband and Michelle that they were coming across as rude and with no compassion and totally ungacious.  The husband obviously needs to support his wife but that doesn't mean he needs to turn his back on his mother.  He could visit her without his wife and maintain a relationship with her outside his marriage.  He obviously doesn't want to do that and upset Michelle but he will someday really regret his actions and the way he has turned his back on his mother.  I believe that at some point in the future, it will hurt his marriage and he will resent his wife for not trying harder to accept his mother's apology.  I never really liked my mother-in-law either.  She said a lot of hurtful things to me about the way I was a wife and mother but I held my tongue and showed her as much respect as possible.  I also would never have asked my husband to choose sides.  After our daughter was born, I had a lot more respect for her although we never were close.  Michelle wants all the power and someday it will come back to bite her.  I wish Dr. Phil had come down harder on the son.  He infered that the son would regret things later but I wish he had told him to be a man and that he can love both his wife and mother and that to continue to have a relationship with his mother without Michelle is his right and obligation.  He and Michelle came across very poorly both in this show as well as the first one and the audience felt the same way.  I hope they watch the show again and realize how bad they looked.