Topic : 06/11 Scary Skinny

I developed anorexia at age 50 and I can assure you I did not choose it. It happened slowly, almost as if I did not see it coming until I was hit in the head fast with rapidly failing health. I was not out for attention-at least not that I was aware of. If you dont have an eating disorder, it is hard to understand how complex it is. Please don't be so quick to judge, even if you think there is ill intent. Be supportive if you can-thats what all of us that suffer need. I am trying every day to reverse my ED and while I have a ways to go, I am trying. You will find this to be true of most of us that suffer. Trust me, having anorexia is no way to live.

 honestly you must be one lonely person. the hate that comes from your words shows it. being a young person who has had this disease for 5 years and hid it until now i know what its like. u obviously have no concept on what truly happens to people with eating disoreders and if you did any research eould find it has nothing to do with trying to get attention or wanting to kill yourself. just like people who have anxiety and depression they do not ask for it but it happens it is something phycologically wrong with the brain and not a facet to get attention whats so ever. like i said and many others do i have hidden my problem for many years until now because i want help...dont you think that if it was something to be proud of people wouldnt try to hide it!

Dr. Phil,

     I watched a show yesterday that was first aired on November 16, 2007.  Titled "Scary Skinny".  What has happened with Jessica, the 23 year old woman who has anorexia?  My heart went out to her.....she is so beautiful, such a beautiful angelic face.  She cried out for help and I know you would do whatever to help her. I just need to know that she is okay and on her way to good health and a blessed life that she so deserves.  I can't seem to get her little face out of my mind.

     Thank you so very much and I hope and pray that she is doing well and hopefully I will receive some answer from you.  Keep up the great work.  God bless you.    

My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.  I was Jessica's advisor for one of the organizations she was in during her college years.  It pains and hurts me to see her like this.   I try to look back now and see if there was something that I could of done or something that I missed.  I know that she received treatment for what she was going through.  I'm praying that she is doing better.  I would love to re-connect with her.  She was one of my favorite women that I advised.  Very motivation, smart, funny, always had a smile on her face, and beautiful person.  I sat in tears as I watched her show yesterday just praying that things are better for her.  We don't want to loose her - she is a special lady and has so much to offer this world we live in.

 

Jessica - I hope and pray that you are doing well.  I love you so much and it hurts more than anything to watch you go thru this!!!!  You are a beautiful, strong, loving, independent women that can do anything you set your mind to!  I miss you more than you know!  You always could bring a smile to my face and I loved to listen to you talk!!!!  If you need ANYTHING, even if it is just to chat, please know that you can call me or email me (both are still the same).  I think about you all the time and hope that you have found peace and are at at wonderful place!  Would love to hear an update on you!!!!  You deserve nothing but the best darling - go out there and show them and yourself that you can fight this and win!!!

 

Much love always, Renee

Unless you walk a mile in their shoes, lighten up. I suppose you have the same attitude towards the overweight, as well.

Young people are vulnerable to criticism from others, and a lot do not know how to protect their self-esteem, so they exert control in other ways.  Adults engage in the same behaviors, so be careful not to be so self-righteous...anything could happen to you that might be out of your control, as well. 

THEN WHAT?? Would you expect someone to come along and bully you in your situation not knowing what the hell you might be going through.?? Somehow, I doubt it!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

i like your shows very mutch

 

kisses priscilla

I had a friend who had depression really bad. It was so bad that he had a disconnect between him and his body. We were in a restaurant once just having a coffee and he decided he was thirsty and called the waitress over and asked for a glass of water. She brought a huge, (32 oz.), glass of water which he drank down in seconds. I just figured he was really thirsty. Then, a few minutes later he asked for another glass of water which he drank right down. A few minutes later he did it again. Thats over 90 ounces of water in less than 20 minutes.

 

Of course, a few minutes later he threw up most of it. The point is that he got a signal in his brain that he was thirsty and that signal never turned off. Another element was he did not have the mind to effectively assess that he was drinking a lot of water. I think this baby has a similar problem. Maybe not exactly the same, but similar. She really has a long, hard road in front of her. She has more problems than just body image. She is also disconnected from her body. The goal should be that reconnection.

 

I also want to say how sweet I think this girl is. She really broke my heart, I really want to hug her. I know she is drowning in this obsession and doesn't have time for such foolishness as a relationship but I would give it a shot 'cause she is so cute and smart and courageous. Just remember, there is no one to blame here. Your brain is working against your best interests and you need to really think about every decision you make from moment to moment, and be strong to stay out of denial.

 

You have all my hope and love.

Have some compassion.  You think people with eating disorders choose that path for attention.  That may be true for some people, but I know in a lot of cases you couldn't be further from the truth.  Many are terrified at the thought of someone catching on to them, and do what they do because they feel fat and worthless, or they feel like their weight is the only thing in life they have control over.

Dear Unpredictable,

 

You wrote:   <<<Now I really don't want to make this a race issue but I don't know a African-American walking this earth who would do this to there body, >>> 

 

Well...as far as a "race issue" it's TOO LATE---you just "created" it!!  RACE was not the issue on this program (nor is it a topic of this particular board).  You really ought to get out from in front of your television more often! ---but Instead of purging, literally, why not go "volunteer" your time with the "less fortunate" than you?

 

Reading your postings  I doubt very much that you demonstrate how to make  <<<a health choice to correct the imperfections>>>.  To be bringing racism into all this a sign of imbalances in your life.

 

You look down your nose at these people: you find it despicable.  Well then please consider----

 

Has there ever been anything about your self you've ever found unlikeable?----

Are you still able to make a quality decision to love yourself, in spite of small imperfections you find?

 

If you still can love your SELF, then please think on this:  Reflect that if "everyone" is so "entitled" (as you say), then how much of  "a reach" would it be?  Can you extend that gracing of entitlement to others?  With the "strength" and the "health of mind you possess" then, certainly -- a person of greatness finds their strength in compassion, somewhere?

This is the 2nd time I've watched this show and it was equally heartbreaking both times. I do not have an ED, nor do I think I know anyone who suffers from this disease--but no matter---I cried through almost all of it. Jessica seems to be so incredibly sad--broken completely. She cried through the entire thing and I cried along with her because I could feel the heaviness of her heart and see the broken spirit in her eyes. I was also amazed at her depth of compassion for the others-she didn't just cry for herself, but for those she knew were also suffering. This is an amazing person who can be hurting so badly, yet feel such compassion toward another. I hope she is well and would love to hear an update!
I've read the comments on the past few pages and am shocked at the audacity of some cold hearted, merciless, and self righteous few. After sifting through the hateful and judgmental words, I can understand what it is they are trying to say about world starvation and making the choice to starve---but sadly they are too prideful and full of themselves to even catch a glimpse of the meaning of this disease. So now would be a good time to remind these same people that alcoholism, drug addiction, obesity, egoism, lust/pornography, and so many other self-destructing choices this entire world makes and gets "trapped in" are ALL within the same category -- DIS-EASE! They ALL begin with one really bad choice and distorted view of the situation that we, ourselves, first make. So unless there is one here that is completely perfect in every way--I suggest you put a respectful lid on your overactive ego and self righteous judgments of others and instead spend some time measuring your own faults and weaknesses and how YOU might be adversely affecting others with your own selfish need for attention. PS--nothing says "I WANT EVERYONE'S ATTENTION" more than a BIG flappin' mouth!