Topic : General Advice

I am wondering if you would care to share what you have been experiencing with myself. I am currently researching for a book I am writing. I have strong beliefs from the research I have currently undertaken that there may be a communication with spirits. Deseased family members acting as guardian angels in some cases. 

Please send your stories and comments to: davidmelrose@joe15.fsnet.co.uk 

Thank you 

I am wondering if you would care to share what you have been experiencing with myself. I am currently researching for a book I am writing. I have strong beliefs from the research I have currently undertaken that there may be a communication with spirits. Deseased family members acting as guardian angels in some cases. 

Please send your stories and comments to: davidmelrose@joe15.fsnet.co.uk 

Thank you 

I am wondering if you would care to share what you have been experiencing with myself. I am currently researching for a book I am writing. I have strong beliefs from the research I have currently undertaken that there may be a communication with spirits. Deseased family members acting as guardian angels in some cases. 

Please send your stories and comments to: davidmelrose@joe15.fsnet.co.uk 

Thank you 

I am wondering if you would care to share what you have been experiencing with myself. I am currently researching for a book I am writing. I have strong beliefs from the research I have currently undertaken that there may be a communication with spirits. Deseased family members acting as guardian angels in some cases. 

Please send your stories and comments to: davidmelrose@joe15.fsnet.co.uk 

Thank you 

My gut reaction is that she deserves to know the truth.  You tell her that her daddy loves her, but she never gets to see him.  That's got to be confusing.  She may wonder if he's staying away because of something that she said or did. 

But while you're telling her the truth, stick to facts, not opinions.  Don't say that her daddy is "bad."  Tell her that Daddy is in jail because he made some really bad choices and he broke the law.  (You don't have to be too specific if she's not developmentally ready to hear what he did, like if he committed rape or something).  It's okay to teach her that actions have consequences and that people who choose to break the law--no matter who they are--have to go to jail. 

Hello

         I am a father of two wonderful kids. My daughter is 8 years old and smart as a whip. My son is 6 years old and also smart as a whip. I recently had a case in family court, where I was made to pay for 50% of the plane tickets for my children to fly and SEE THERE MOTHER. I was ordered to do this because she is unemployed.  Now I recently quit working to attend college full time. I used to run heavy equipment and made good money doing that. I did it for 5 years out of my 8 years in the US Army then two more years after I was discharged. I don't like doing that kind of work. I was wrongfully terminated from my last employer as an operator, it just so happened to be the largest heavy construction company within 100 miles and one of the oldest. So after that I applied with some of the other companies none would hire me. I them went to work for a nation wide home improvement store. At this point I decided to go back to school and work part time. Once school started the store would not work with me on scheduling so I was forced to quit. I now take care of my kids the house and go to school full time. In my recent hearing to set visitation for my ex-wife I was demonized because I was going back to school. But she was put on a pedestal like a great person for being lazy and just not working. She quit her job right after I filed for FULL custody of my children. I am in no way saying I am perfect and have never made mistakes. But it is people like her that do everything wrong lie, cheat, steal, yet they are rewarded for it. She mentally and psychical abused my children. So much so that they both are in counseling for an attachment disorder, my daughter has an eating disorder on top of that. When they came to live with me they were dirt had head lice (this was at least the 20 time for my daughter) there clothes were filthy reeked of smoke. And my daughter had to sit 3 feet from the TV to even see it. Two days after her arriving to live with me my fiancée had her an appointment with an eye doctor she was 20-80 and 20-300 sight but yet her mother never took her to see an eye doctor she never had an eye exam at school. My son was malnourished undersized and you could see every rib and see his entire spine. My daughter has allergies mainly to smoke yet her mother after finding out this still continued to smoke around her. I also smoke; I smoke out side of the house and never within 20 feet of my daughter or my son. This lady was found guilty of child abuse in Texas when we lived there but no one ever did anything about it not CPS, not the court system no one At the time she had taken my daughter and moved back to California where we were both from. CPS there was notified and still nothing was done. I fly back to California to see my family and children one year. I drove to her house to pick up my children and found NOT one but THREE dead animals in her yard within 2 feet of my children’s toys. I called CPS nothing was done, I got told by CPS “My clean might not be her clean” clean is clean and dead animals in the yard are not even close to clean... Yet I go back to college to better myself and make a better life for my children and I am a bad person. Oh I think all lawyers should be shot!!! This woman makes every other woman on this planet look bad. But I was born a man so I am bad in there eyes. She KIDNAPPED my children this summer but nothing was done. The court left the visitation OPEN. She sent me an e-mail stating “If you want YOUR kids back you can come get them after Aug 19”. The local police and state police are on the phone in front of me calling each other names. I didn't spend 8 years in the ARMY to get treated like a pile of dog excrement. She flew over 3,000 miles to go to court she didn’t try and call our children or even ask anything about them nothing. She has used my daughter as a human shield to keep from getting hit by one of her DRUG dealing boyfriends.  

Does anyone have advice about effective discipline for a child who has begun stealing? My 6 year old (extremely bright and 2 grades ahead in school) has become very sneaky and has twice (that I know about) stolen something - 1) a pack of gum from a store (which I made him bring back to the store manager and confess what he did) and 2) Money from his cousin's purse (which he used to purchase souveniers from a gift shop on a school field trip. My son has always been very clever, but now he is using this talent for evil instead of good, and my husband and I are EXTREMELY concerned about this new behavior. I have done all the things that I think I should, but he just isn't getting the message - He now has to do chores around the house and for his cousin to pay back the money, he's had to return the items to the gift shop, he has written 100 times "I will not take things that don't belong to me" - I have talked to him about all the consequences of being an untrustworthy person, and it just DOESN'T seem to be sinking in. In every other way he is a joy to have around - he is funny, musically talented, helpful around the house, kind to his friends and his older brother, compassionate, and has so many of the traits that any parent would hope for. How do we nip this problem now and make him understand how wrong this is? 

Thank you for any help. 

My husband and I have 3 children.  The oldest is mine from a previous marriage who is an 8-yr old boy.  The next is my husband's from a previous relationship who is a 4-yr old boy.  The youngest is a 22-month old girl we have together.   

I just checked in on the boys who were supposed to be taking a nap...when I opened the door my 8yr old was laying on top of his younger brother...doing nothing else..just laying there, oldest with his pants down.  I still cannot think straight.  I immediately pulled him out of the room and took him to another part of the house to find out what in the world was going on.  Of course he's now upset because he knew he was doing something not acceptable and most of all I can get out of him is "I don't know..I don't know".  I'm trying to remain calm and discuss this with him...hoping this is nothing more than normal curiosity...but I can't help but feel like I'm about to explode inside with all the "what if's".  I know there have to have been others out there that have experienced this...please share with me your thoughts ...I don't know what to think at this point.   

Hello. I have a 5 year old girl in kindergarten (Stephanie). Stephanie is very bright and loves animals and playing with kids. Stephanie does very well with kids around the neighborhood. As soon as we get to school she hides in her shell and doesn't talk to no one. I know she loves to talk but don't understand why she is so scared. I have been letting her friend from school come to our house for a couple of hours and it helps Stephanie out a lot. Stephanie tells me that she will talk when I leave the room so I don't hear her. I would like to know why she is having a hard time talking and how long it is going to take her to open up and relax. I ask Stephanie why she doesn't talk in school because the teacher would like to know how smart she is, she tells me that there is too many kids there and it makes her nervous. 

Please give me some advice to maker her feel comfortable. 

Thanks