Topic : General Advice

I am the mother of a nine year old boy and I am going thought the same thing.  Except my son does these things out of the home with friends, but feels guilty and tells me about it.  I am not sure if this is a part of growing up.  I know that other children are doing the same things but they just aren't telling their parents so am I blowing this out of proportion or not and I cannot seem to find a website with advice on this issue.  I will be talking with my family doctor but I would still like to hear from other parents going through the same thing .   

I think it's a parents choice.My daughter is now 13 she went to her first funeral at the age of 10 but before she went I went to the funeral home and they gave me a pamplet for kids.It had alot of interesting things in it,questions and answers that kids could understand.Death is apart of life and I don't think kids should be excluded.But I would go to the funeral home to see if they have information for children. 

Usually, as with any bad habit, (I'm thinking nose picking or thumb sucking) children control themselves in front of their peers to avoid being teased.  This child is doing this openly in front of her peers and her teachers.  That strikes me as odd.  Is she either socially unaware or awkward in other areas?  Is she perhaps seeking attention?  

What I did about my children masturbating was to tell them that it is normal and that everyone does it but that it is a private thing that they should do in their bedroom.  

I have an 8 year old daughter who has something called selective mutism.  She speaks normally to me, my husband,my other daughter and a selected few people but is completely mute when it comes to talking to her grand-parents, aunts & uncles, cousins and especially teachers, etc.  She has been like this for 3 years now.  By reading your post, it reminds me quite a lot of my daughter.  Please visit the following website and you will learn all about selective mutism.  I am sure you will be amazed by what you find and many of your questions will be answered.  www.selectivemutism.org 

      I KNOW IT MAY BOTHER YOU THAT YOUR BABY IS DOING THIS WHILE SHE IS SO YOUNG. 

AND I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT AS WERD AS IT IS YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE GOING THROUGH THIS PHASE SHE IS GOING THROUGH.  I ALSO HAD THIS PROBLEM WITH MY DAUGHTER .  SHE FINALLY GREW OUT OF IT AT THE AGE OF 8.  I ALSO KNOW WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SO ABOUT IT.  YOU KNOW THE PEOPLE THAT HAVE AN OPINION ABOUT EVERYTHING.   

      THE TRUE IS I WAS WORRIED THAT MAYBE SOMEONE HAD HURT HER.  THAT WASN'T TRUE  I HAVE SEEN DOCUMENTATION ON THIS SUBJECT AND ALL OF IT SAYS THE SAME THING " IT IS A PHASE " NOT ALL KIDS GO THROUGH IT AND " IT WILL PASS"  

      I TRUELY HOPE THAT I HAVE EASED YOUR MIND.  AND REMEMBER IT'S NOT A GOOD IDEA TO BELITTLE HER. 

      WHEN I RELIZED IT WAS A PHASE I ACTED LIKE I DIDN'T SEE HER DOING IT AND I QUIT GETTING ON TO HER, BEFORE I KNEW IT SHE QUIT.  SHE HASN'T DONE IT IN 2YEARS. 

                                                   GOOD LUCK!!!!! 

The camp is for 4+, but she may participate if we think she is ready.  I think so, as she likes to cheer at the games I take her to.  Mom is not so sure.  Should I let it go for a year - or push it further?  Of course my plan was for mom to take her to the camp - and stay for the whole 4 hours if necessary.  I take her to the games myself.  Am I missing something?  If Mom was a cheerleader why should Dad take her to the camp?  It was my idea for some time together for them, but not hers.  Need some advice please as this one is at a standstill. 

HI! 

  I am new to these boards but wanted to find somewhere where I might get some sound advice!  We have a three year old who isn't potty trained.  He started in August and jsut before Labor Day used the potty to poop and pee and then my mom died two days later.  The pediatrician thought this may have something to do with it since kids know more than we give them credit for.  M son saw his grandmother almost daily and then suddenly she was gone.  AT this point we cannot even get him to sit on the toilet or potty seat unlesss we hold him down.  We have tried bribery ( toys candy you name it!) and gotten no where.  We have tried just letting it go and asking him if he wants to use the potty and of course the answer is no.  I am frustrated beyond belief especially since we now have a five week old!   

  Has anyone had any big problems with potty training?  What worked?  Any sound advice??? 

Thanks!