Topic : 04/07 Will Fights

If having this money means more to you than a relationship with your sisters or your family you deserve the money and all that comes with it.

"Vultures have more class."  That was a phrase my dad used when his uncle died.  Uncle Joe had died on Sunday evening, Dad was notified Monday morning & before he could even get to his home (about an hour away) other family members had CLEANED THE HOUSE OUT!!!  Dad was the executor & the one with power of attorney.  My dad just could not believe what a bunch of greedy, grabby people we had related to him.  That was over 30 years ago!!!

Shortly before my dad died 7-1/2 years ago, Dad mentioned that story cause his mother & my MIL had passed away.  He was still disgusted at the actions of these family members, eventhough they too had passed on.  As fate would have it, Dad's death came jost a few months later.  I saw some very disturbing attitudes and actions come from MY OWN siblings!!!  This broke my heart.

My mom is still with us, thankfully.  But I dread the day that she is gone as well.  I fear that that ugliness will rear it's horrible, ugly, frightening head once again.  This will be much to the detriment of the memory of my parents & everything they ever taught us!

I decided when Dad died and I saw the nastiness that I would basically walk away when Mom passes on.  I don't want to be an ugly vulture.  I want to protect the memory of my parents and what they stood for.  I'D RATHER HAVE THE MEMORY OF MY PARENTS' & THEIR MORALS/BELIEFS INTACT!!!  Money, property and all the in-fighting will not preserve that.

So when you see loved ones fighting over "what's mine", remember this..."Vultures have more class."  Love ya, Daddy!!

I know to a lot of people watching this show it is hard for them to understand why money has become such a huge battle within the families and are in shock at what they are hearing and the actions everyone takes when money is involved. This is one topic that I am unfortunately too familiar with. My grandfather passed away and when he did all hell broke loose. Relationships were lost and greed became evil. An estate and money were both factors for my mother, 3 aunts and 3 uncles. The will had been established for years prior to my grandfather passing however that didn't stop my one aunt (who was the executor) from stirring up the pot and causing everyone turmoil. There were certain things in my grandfathers will that were to be disbursed to each of the family members and a certain amount of money that was to be given to each of them. My aunt disagreed with those terms therefore she started lying about the amount of money that were in bank accounts and how much the estate was really worth. She didn't want anyone involved in anything except for herself so that she could hide and be deceitful about what was really going on. Therefore it upset everyone and they didn't want to have anything to do with her once it was all said and done. They all ended up getting an attorney involved to research the accounts and appraisal documents so that my aunt would not keep taking advantage of my deceased grandfathers belongings. My grandfather would have never put her in charge if he would of known the outcome and and ignorant behavior she was displaying. They felt they couldn't trust their sister with anything. If she was going to manipulate them and lie about money of my grandfathers and short all of them for her own selfishness than she wasn't being true to herself, to my grandfather or to any of them and nobody wants a relationship with someone like that, regardless if they are family or not.  It's the honest truth regardless how ugly it sounds! Some of my family members needed that money to pay for treatments for their illnesses while she was buying new cars and homes. Of course everyone wanted to walk away and move on but they continued to fight for my grandfathers wishes and because they too needed the money.

It's very sad that things like this happen however; unfortunately, whether people want to admit it or not money makes this world go round-everyone needs it and wants it regardless what your lifestyle is like. 

Dr Phil, I tip my hat to you today. All of the people on your show were okay people. Your advice was just great and right on.

No sense sweating the small stuff. Life goes on. Pick up the pieces and move on. No one is perfect, but no one can continue life dwelling on past mistakes.

Great show, great advice.

You need to count your blessings.   If you are all healthly and have a good home you are truly blessed.