Topic : 04/07 Will Fights

Maybe her aunt told her this.  It really is a moot point, isn't it?  It doesn't really make any difference.  

May I just ask, what is unjust about each person named in the will receiving an equal share of the inheritence?  There is no injustice when one receives money that they neither earned nor are entitled to.    None of the people mentioned in the will were entitled to $1 of that estate, and they should be grateful for every dime.

If Linda manipulated her aunt, her "manipulation" resulted in a completely equitable arrangement.  What is so terrible and hurtful about that? 

I really dont like to eve talk anymore about it----BUT---I have had the same experiance.This is allways a tough subject for all.. I took care of my mom for allmost 25 years.. The last 1.5 in my home, until she pased away in my Master bedroom.. I had to deal with selfish greedy siblings. They wre hardly never around, one living in the same city across town.

  I lived  30 minuts away. I still called her at least 2-3 times a day to check on her. Once a week we woud go out for the grocery store and lunch.

 The last few years of her life, she was sooooo sad that one of her daughters would treat her like she did.

THEN, when she passed,she left them all some and the rest to me..Not to worry, it wasnt much. I neer ever did it for an sorta money. I didnt even know how much if any she had...she was a vey private lady, and I never asked about her money situation.

 I can tell you they all think that there was this huge amount of life insurance left to me...HELLO...they say dont let your imanagtion get to you!!

 Well I can see that theres is.. I miss my mom so very much each and everday..We were so close, for alot of years, and I allways made sure she had her neccesitys in life.

Proper medical attention, grocerys..etc...

  Where were they? they all were THERE at the end..wanting and wondering...I would never ever STEAL from one of my parents...They can think of me as they wish, but I still have all the memories of my mom,that you can not put a price tag on.

 She had asked me to promise her not to leave her.. and I made her that promise..can you see here... she didnt have to leave anyof us anything.. A inhertiance is a gift, its not to be expected...

 My husband said well honey, there was never a problem for them, you allways took care of it..

 I am so glad that Dr. Phil had this show...

 eople...wake up, we are not gonna be here on this earth FOREVER!!!  I just have alot of hurt built up..and they say time heals all wounds..

 I dont speak to them...BUT..al I know is every dog has there day...My children learned what the meaning of family is..Your parens took care of you--and when its time you should take care of them...

 My mom also confided in me things that really hurt her.. I COULD bring all those things up to the other siblings,BUT WHY...I gave her my word, to do EXCATELY what was in the will----HER WISHES..its allways hard being the one left in charge..the others act like its MY choice of what she wanted.. GET OVER IT POPLE...I can tell you its alof of work, when your left in charge to deal with the estate...

 BUT...she knew who she could trust and who she couldnt..they think that I changed her wishes, and that she didnt KNOW what she had wanted...

 She took herself into the bank and had it signed...This was allmost 2 years before she died..Her body may have been dis-abled but not her mind...

One sibling asked if he could go to her bedside and ask for a few things.. I said, she is on Morphine and other drugs, and I didnt think it was approiate...

 enough is enough.. I am not all looking for a brownie point for taking care of her... I did it out of LOVE for my mom, not any sort of payoff.. I know some do it for money, and if thats you---Lord help ya...I can lay my head on my pillow every night with a clear conscience that i fullfilled her every wish...

And, I cant wait until the day we meet again...

This is a good saying my parents used to use--IF you dont have something nice to say, then dont say anythig at all---

Hope all works out for all that are going through this---

You hit the nail on the head.

When my father died, I only asked for one small personal item.  I didn't (and still DON'T) care about any inheritence, or financial gain.

Yet my relatives were picking over his possessions, and finances as though they were vultures picking at a corpse.

So much for HONORING my Father's MEMORY!

In watching your show last night regarding the issue of the family wills, this hit a very sore subject with my family.   In 1997 my husband's mother passed away suddenly but thankfully they had a will already drawn up.   3 weeks after her death, my husband's father was in the hospital and specifically told my husband that he and his deceased wife had a bank account with $100,000 in it and want the three children to have the money now to do with what they wanted.   My husband told his father that was fine but if he needed any of the money for health reasons, a vehicle or anything that he needed, that the three children would give him the money.     Behind my husband's back, when his father got released from the hospital his two sisters (1 son and 2 sisters) took him to an attorney without my husband's knowledge and had everything put in one of the sister's names and the will was then null and void.    His father called him at home that night to tell him that he "had a change of heart" and decided to spend that money on the family home so the daughter that lived with them wouldn't have to put any of her money in the home after passed away.   My husband was fine with that because it was his father's money but was a little hurt that the two sisters did not include him in going to the attorney's office.      A year later, his father passed away and that's when the "hell" broke loose.    When my husband's mother died he did not receive any personal items that belonged to her for a keepsake.   The two daughters took everything.  When his father died is when the greed came to light and all of my husband's personal items that were still in the home were either sold or given away.   He was not allowed to come to the home or take anything that belonged to him.     He was very angry for a very long time but then decided that he had a clear consious and did nothing wrong and if the two sisters wanted everything they could have everything and he has washed his hands of the whole situation.     There is more to this story then written but not enough time to endulge.   The reason I am writing is your statement last night to move ahead and let it go really hit home because that's what I had been telling my husband, as well as  my family, from the start and it really hit home to him last night when you spoke about it.     Thank you for having issues on your show that is an every day occurance and is real.   I just wanted to take the time to state that sometimes by hearing it from someone else makes it seem real and understanding.    Thank you Dr. Phil.

I want to give KUDOS to Linda for taking care of, and loving her aunt.

However that being said, I want to ask ............WHY is she so unwilling to let anyone else talk?

Whenever someone screams and rants the way Linda does, whenever Barbara is talking.

Why can't you let Barbara have 'her' say, then have yours?

Don't you realize that by continuelly interupting others, you are only hurting yourself?

The ugliness needs to stop.