Topic : 06/16 A Daughter in Danger?

YOU KNOW WHAT SHE IS 18 AND GUESS WHAT SHE IS OF AGE AND GET WITH THE REAL WORLD.

YOU CANT DO A THING AND SHE IS GOING ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

AND I DO FEEL SORRY BUT YOU CANT DO A THING GOOD LUCK SHE IS GOING TO DO WHAT SHE WANTS

Okay, please, please don't use caps the entire time your writting. Please, as a writer this blatant misuse of the caps lock makes me cringe!

Okay, on to why we are here.

I feel sorry for Catherin, I have a very open relationship with my mother. Maybe if she felt like she could talk to her mother openly without fear of rejection or judgement, then maybe she would have talked to her  mother about this. The Mom just called her daughter stupid - my gosh - when this all started, Catherin was 16 - the Mom had every right to have the bloody computer in the living, she could watch over her daughters should and ask her who she is talking to and what she is doing.

This is what my parents have done with my little siblings. My parents even have the pass-word to my personal lap top and my Mom knows all of my online screen names and pass words. It is this knowledge that helps my parents trust me. Why would I tell them these things if I didn't trust them to not touch my computer? The only time my Dad looks at my computer is when I have a software problem, or the time my brother was looking up porn. I didn't know till I went looking for a search that I couldn't remember, straight after I let my parents know and I changed the pass word on the computer. After that, it was parents that took care of everything else.

Anyway, even though Catherin didn't give her parents any troubles, doesn't mean that they can just not take responcibility. The internet can be dangerous. This is also why I don't use facebook or Myspace. I personally think its stupid, but these things do happen and not always can the guys of "To catch a predator" arrest these arrogant idiots.

Even if Catherin can get back home, she will have Stolkholme syndrom. Heck, she has it now. If she answeres to such names as the B-word than she has all ready been semi-conditioned by this man.

However, this family can't just stop being her family. They care a lot about her, Q.E.D. that's why they're on the show.

Okay, and all the international stuff, I concure, Abdilla or Abdulla...whatever the heck his name is, he should learn our culture just like Catherin should have learned his culture. In their culture it's quite acceptable to treat women like that. These boy's learn from their fathers and so on and so forth. They believe, now, I am not exactly sure, but from what I personally know, they believe women to be under them. That's why women are treated terribly over there.

This can happen anywhere. Men can be egotystical and treat the women in their lives like crap. But, I can tell you one thing, deep down inside, she really wants her Mom and family to help her fix this. She's eighteen, she is still learning about the world.

Dear Dr. Phil,

Why in the world when Catherine went the second time, did not one of her family members go with her to assure her safety, assess the relationship and provide guidance?  It is absurd they "dropped her off at the airport".  Any normal family would have worked throught this.  They would have sent a mother, father, or trusted relative to meet the family.  Her family was greatly at fault for sending her the second time without a sup[ort system and guidance.  They may have been reassured of Abdallah's intentions, and bonded with the family.  That will probably not happen now.

 Not all cross cultural marriages are doomed.  I know.  I am an American married to an Arab and lived in the West Bank for 25 years.  Yes, there are adjusments, but a cross cultural marriage need not be a sad story.

So far, all that we have heard is "her families" side of the story.  You do not know what Katherine told Abdallah's family  when they arranged for the trip..  She might have said she had permission to visit, not unheard of for a minor child who thinks she in love to lie to others.  Do not judge until you have heard both sides of the story.  Even the use of the word "Bitch" is not a common word in the Middle East and may have been misunderstood. Catherine may have taught them that word.

Withold judgement, weigh the situation.  They may truly be in love, and may have a wonderful life.  Give it a chance.  Cross cultural marriages can enrich the members of both sides of the family

I watched the show recently and was chocked to learn about the story.  Being a Palestinian, I became even more angry than Cathrine's family of .  I am happy that Cathrine is back to her family and wish them all the best.  I dont know whether my appologies would mean any thing to them, but I am really sorry.  On a final note, this person (Abdullah) is a bad representation to humanity, not to mention Palestinians. 

I think this family should give it up. If this girl is dumb enough to fall for this guy and go clear across the sea to get to him... then you can't do a thing about it. It's her life and she will be sorry some day and I would say sooner rather then later. But the family has no RIGHT to force her to do anything.  Say good bye and wish her luck.  She did it once and she will continue to do it.  All the family will do is throw good money and heart after bad, trying to get her back.  She is being bullheaded and maybe a little sick but she's of age.

PS  If she ever comes back to the US, I'd say watch her because she might be brain washed.