Topic : 06/17 A Daughter in Danger? Part 2

I would like you to know Shawn, that when my sister was a teenager, she was doing drugs, was with an abusive boyfriend, and my parents didn't know how to handle it. The only thing my mom really knew to do was to tell my sister every single night before my sister went to sleep, "I love you". Many times my sister swore at her at worst and at best  ignored her. But every single night, mom stayed up and waited for her to come in so she could tell her that.

 That was almost 30 years ago. A lot of that time is a fog for my sister, who is drug free now, but she remembers clearly those three words a child needs to hear no matter what.

Keep up the fight, we're with you!

Until I saw the preview at the end that the girl actually came home i was shocked to think that Dr. Phil kept saying that they can't hear him in Israel, coz in the phone and internet age I was sure that his family/friends were watching and reporting to abdalah what was being said.  I should've realized that the show was not live.

this being said, americans are still very naive even after 9/11 and they cannot see beyond their own ideals and beliefs.  the entire western world does not understand the mind set of the muslim arabs.  women are second class citizens and married women are the property of the husbands to abuse as they see fit, and they usually do.  unfortunately, when a woman is a non muslim she is also abused by the rest of the man's family.  she is treated like a slave and a hostage and considered a peice of s...!

Ramalah is a war zone not a "fun" place to be.  the people there hate americans as much as they hate israeli's and as seen many times on the news do not hestiate and even enjoy executing innocent Americans and other westerners as an "example to the world".  the fact that she is an innocent naive girl with romantic notions would do nothing to save her from being a target.

i am concerned that this man belongs to a terrorist cell and is using her to get a visa to the USA to commit terror on their behalf.

Dr. Phil,

That girl needs to come home.  I've been there!  He will tell her anything.  He will marry that American Girl. She will get pregnant. His parents will always have control and will control her as well. GET HER HOME!!

Then get her counseling.

He doesn't  even sound smart enough to fill out  the mounds of paperwork it takes to become and American Citizen through  the INS.  I bet he wouldn't call his own mother a bitch.

I know  if you had interviewed  his parents you would get a whole different story.

It's a free ticket for them to come to America.  Apply for Social Security and they get it!!!

I know it happened to me.

He loved me.  He promised me the World.  We married. I went to the INS he swore he married me because he loved me.   He became and American Citizen, it took five years for the papers to go through.   He divorced me in a week. He got a call from his father.  One week later I was divorced!  THEY HAD A LOT OF MONEY!

Now his parents are here in the states.  He owns a business and has  remarried.

GET THAT GIRL OUT AND GET HER SOME COUNCELING!  God bless her Mother.

Thanks for listening.

Katherine.....let's put aside the issues of myspace, age, maturity, nationality, disagreement.....

When Dr. Phil asked him about calling you abusive names.....His response was "That's normal......"  AT THAT INSTANT.......Your face, your eyes, your demeanor SCREAMED....."What did you just say????"   That, my dear, is a red flag.  It is probably not the first red flag that has come up for you.   At a primal level....your gut, your instinct reacted in an honest way, free of all the opinions, confusion and disagreement occurring.

Why is this such a big issue??  Because as a formerly abused person, I can tell you that "Red Flags" pop up quite a bit for us in the beginning of a bad relationship......but we justify them away.  In the beginning, the abusers DON'T scream at us for hours or beat us.  WHEN they do something abusive, they say they are sorry, they'll never do it again, they LOVE you, If you hadn't done X,Y,Z-they wouldn't have said/done the abusive act!   "THEY ISOLATE YOU FROM YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS!!!!!  Fast forward days, weeks, months or years later and we are caught in the trap of an abusive relationship that hurts us and our children.  And we may or may not be able to escape from it.  BUT 99.9% of the time, all abused women will tell you.....there WERE red flags!

LISTEN TO YOUR HEART AND SOUL!!!!  PAY ATTENTION TO THOSE RED FLAGS THAT ARE POPPING UP!!!    Your instincts are 99.9999999% percent correct......listen to them!! It will save you years of pain and heartache with an abusive man!!!!

From experience,

Mgrlady

i do not fear them but I do not trust any of them. Even the ones that claim to be peaceful I do not trust. They are raised believing that women are inferior to men. It is not against the law there to beat your wife. They beleive American women to be whores, sluts, and bitches. If I were to go into any yahoo chat room I would be constantly getting messages from middle eastern men want me to do dirty things on the web cam. To them that is all American women do. Muslims want to dominate the world starting with Europe. Many of the muslims that here in America hate it here and everyone that is not like them. They are the ones that can preach against Christians, Jews, and the president, but if a Christian said anything about their religion they would claim racism. Muslims are the ones that I am almost totally prejudice against. I believe they want to kill anyone who is not like them. I have yet to meet one Muslim who believes otherwise. If I ever do I might change my opinion about them but until then this is what I believe.