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Topic : 07/28 A Husband's Shocking Confessions

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Created on : Friday, November 16, 2007, 03:39:06 pm
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(Original Air Date: 11/19/07) Should you stay in a marriage with your husband if you find out a secret that disgusts you? Michelle thought she had the perfect marriage until recently, when she found out her husband of four years, Wade, was a sex addict and compulsive liar. He admits to cheating on her while she was pregnant, but says since then he's been faithful. Michelle made Wade take an online polygraph test that he failed. Why is Michelle convinced Wade is having an affair, and what proof does she say she has? Wade says there's a simple explanation and wants to take another lie detector test to prove his innocence. When Dr. Phil reveals the results of the second polygraph, will Michelle's fears be confirmed or put to rest? Concerned for the well-being of their two sets of twins, will Michelle decide to divorce Wade or hold on to the hope that their marriage can be healed? Join the discussion.

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July 29, 2008, 12:53 pm PDT

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As someone who has been there, Dr. Phil, an order of protection is not worth much when that person shows up with the intent to do harm...............also, you can hide but your family and friends cannot........I was in hiding and my then husband attacked my Father because he would not tell him of my where-a-bouts.  Fortunately no one was seriously harmed but it goes to show that someone in THAT state of mind can and will harm anyone to get to you or to force you surface because of the threat to your extended family.  I don't know what the answer is but wanted to share my experience.

 

 

 
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July 29, 2008, 1:17 pm PDT

Think rationally

 In watching the show today, Tuesday, I have to wonder why Michelle texted Wade when she thought she took too much ambien.  She has mentioned her mother is in town. Why did she not call her mother especially if she is so afraid of Wade?  Why was she back at her house instead of in a safe place? She obviously needs help.
  If I thought the man was a killer and that I was in danger, he would be the last person I would call. If her story is true, she needs to learn skills to help her handle this situation more reasonably.
 
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July 29, 2008, 2:17 pm PDT

07/28 A Husband's Shocking Confessions

     I think that the thought of suicide is stupid in the first place, but leaving your children behind is even worse. Killing yourself wont make up for what happened with your husband, nor will it protect your kids. Killing yourself will damage your kids even more. Not having my Mom and Dad around is bad enough, I don't want to even imagine it with them dead.
    If you want to heply or protect your children, be strong and don't let your husband stupid actions ruin the rest of  your life.
 
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July 29, 2008, 2:20 pm PDT

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Michelle has got to get out of this marriage and stay away!  I know first hand what it is like to live in fear for your life and your children's cause of a spouse. I can tell you that the law can and will only do so much to protect you. A restrainning  order is just a piece of worthless paper that doesn't mean Nothing. I had filed for divorce, got a restrainning order, for my husband to commit suicide infront of me and my daughter. We are very lucky to be here today. Cut your ties and run in the other direction as fast as you can, if it mean moving away then do it for the kid's.
 
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July 29, 2008, 3:22 pm PDT

no kidding!

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 In watching the show today, Tuesday, I have to wonder why Michelle texted Wade when she thought she took too much ambien.  She has mentioned her mother is in town. Why did she not call her mother especially if she is so afraid of Wade?  Why was she back at her house instead of in a safe place? She obviously needs help.
  If I thought the man was a killer and that I was in danger, he would be the last person I would call. If her story is true, she needs to learn skills to help her handle this situation more reasonably.
Why hasn't Dr Phil asked her those questions.  She is obviously very sick!!  I think she is lying about a lot.
The kids might need protection from her too.
 
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July 29, 2008, 9:17 pm PDT

How is Michelle?

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Confessions Doctor Husband's Phil Shocking. Doctor Phil I have never of a shocking news in my life.-------

See you on Monday November 19th, 2007. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.------------------------------------

The Wade and Michelle story originally aired in November,2007. At the time that this is being aired I'm wondering how Michelle and her children are doing? It has been 8 months since it aired, and Dr. Phil, you pride yourself on following up eith your guests. I hope she snd her children are safe and well. What is their status at this point and time. I'd love to know as I grew very concerned for her and her children.
 
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July 30, 2008, 8:43 am PDT

What a horrible story!

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i was married into a family that was like wade. i was stupd enough to build my house right in the middel of them.  knew i wasnt myself but i could not figue out what was wrong with me. i knew my sweet wife who went to church and was a r.n. could not have anything to do with it. then she started setting up acidents for my daughter to have. and i would wake up every morning with a terrible headach. i woud tell my sweet wife about my headach and she would say well i am glad you told me that. i could not figure out what she ment by that statement, until i had to go to he e.r.and when i got home she looked at me and said that i deserved to live after what i lived through last night. i asked her what she ment? she said she had been doseing me up fo a while. she told me i shoud have died because she wanted everything i had. my daugter was not home that week end,so she knew nothing about it. later on a week or so later i was  taking my daughter to school and my daughter looked at me an said dad i beleve mom put something in m food last night. i felt sick. this was our daughter. the only child we had. so this can become very dangerous very quickly. sorry for the spelling my keys are sticking.after this i got my daughter out of the siuation. but the whole family was like this. so i think its a learned behavior.
Wow, your story is the type that I watch on programs such as FBI Files, Mystery Diagnosis, and all of the other reality detective shows that I tend to prefer over regular programming. I see a lot of this on these shows and it's such an awful thought that people can take another persons life so easily and without conscience. It blows my mind! Especially when children are involved! How some people can place so little value on another persons life, and when there is insurance involved, to be able to put a small price on someone life. Say $25,000. in life insurance if your spouse died. How can people think that way? Death is permanent and cannot be taken back. It takes a sociopath with 0 feelings to be able to do this. I personally know a woman who was murdered by her husband and he got away with it. It had nothing to do with life insurance, but it did involve divorce. I hope that you and your daughter are now safe and that you can get on with your life. I wish you the best of luck!
 
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July 30, 2008, 8:52 am PDT

Restraining orders.............

Quite a few years ago I knew a woman who had left her husband and filed a restraining order against him. They are nothing but a piece of paper when someone really plans on hurting you. This woman had just gotten off of work and was driving to daycare to pick up their child. She was right in front of the fir dept. and at a red light when her husband pulled up beside her and shot her in the head with a shotgun. Of course she died. Her child was just down the street and he knew what her schedule and route was. He got the job done! I will never be able to forget this as long as I live. So please ladies, (and men) if you are being threatened, don't feel safe because of a piece of paper. They are worthless if your ex is serious. Unfortunately, this isn't the only story that I personally know about, I also had another friend that was murdered by her husband and he got away with it. Her body has never been found and because of where is was put, it never will be. He got custody of their only child.
 
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July 30, 2008, 2:12 pm PDT

What happened?

So what was the end of this story?  It aired 11/07...Hopefully they are both in the looney bin and someone responsible and loving is raising their children....
 
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July 30, 2008, 2:16 pm PDT

Whose running the show?

Wade was entirely correct and more sane than the former FBI agent Jack who had the woman asking Wade (her mentally ill husband) questions in order to pry out information.  How stupid.  She was emotionally unstable, herself, and should not have been put in a position to play Madame Detective.  How rediculous.  I think the whole situation was entirely out of hand, and I think less of Dr. Phil for encouraging or letting it get to this point just to have sensationalizm on his program.

 

I hope someone within the VA takes Wade into their care and helps him recover from the horrors of war.  Dr. Phil should find another person beside "Jack" to assist with cases.  The children should probably not be alone with their mother until she can get herself together.  They should all be with grandparents at this time.

 
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