Topic : 07/28 A Husband's Shocking Confessions

I was the first to post a message on this board...before the 3 episodes even aired.  There was a reason for that.  Michelle and her 4 children are in MORTAL DANGER.  After watching all 3 episodes, I am even more convinced of this than before.

There have been many posts mentioning that Michelle is co-dependent.  I am not a psychiatrist, however, I could NOT disagree more!  She is scared beyond belief!  Scared for herself and for her children, as well she should be.

I was married for 17 years to a man who was a drug addict AND a porn addict.  I gave birth to three sons with this man because I was not aware of his addictions for several years.  Maybe I should have listened to my "little voice" instead of thinking I could change him.

I left him 3 different times...the first time he convinced me to come back after only one day, the second time lasted almost a week and the third time was the charm.  I actually took a vacation day, had movers come to take a few things out of the house and move them into the apartment I had rented.  Then I filed for divorce.

I am ashamed to say that I did not take my 3 boys (11, 13 & 15 at the time) because I felt that he needed to learn how to be a father instead of trying to be the boys' best friend.  No matter what I said to them, they knew they could go to their dad and he would tell them what they wanted to hear.  I thought they would be OK with him since his mother lived with us and would be there to help take care of them.

Then I received a call from my middle son at 6:30am on Dec 15, 1992.  He was so hysterical that I could hardly understand him.  However, I did understand "MOM!  DAD'S DEAD!"  I threw on some clothes and jumped in the car.  I was driving 75mph down residential streets in Houston praying for a cop to stop me.  Of course, they're never around when you really need them.

When I reached the house, the paramedics were already packing up their stuff to leave.  I knew then that I was too late.  A Deputy met me at the door and I told him who I was and asked him what had happened.  He told me that my ex had "huffed" Freon 22 (this is the industrial strength freon for those who are not familiar...my ex was  pipe-fitter and had access to it).  Apparently, it killed him immediately because my ex-mother-in-law found him lying totally naked on the floor face down. The freon was still turned on and there was a porn video playing on the VCR.  She screamed and all 3 boys immediately came running.  They saw EVERYTHING!  In fact, my middle son had to turn off the freon.

My middle and youngest son then noticed a fireplace shovel shoved between the cushions of his recliner with the handle facing out and a condom on it.  Apparently, he was sodomizing himself while watching the porn and then decided to huff the freon to get high while doing the other things.  There was no suicide note ever found so my belief is that he was just acting on 2 of his addictions, i.e., porn and drugs, and REALLY screwed up.  My 2 youngest sons put the fireplace shovel back and threw away the condom before the police arrived because they didn't want them to see it.

Next month marks the 15th anniversary of his death and frankly I am still glad it happened.  However, my sons were in therapy for a year.  The middle one has never really gotten over his father's death...they were very close.  I have always wondered just HOW close they were.  I asked my son if his father ever sexually abused him and he fervently denies it, however, I'll always have my doubts.

My middle son REALLY began acting out after wards.  He has been locked up in the Harris County Jail more times than I can remember.  I feel quite sure that he is on a first name basis with all the guards and deputies as well as their families.  He is 28 now and is serving  years in the Texas Department of Criminal Justice.  He is up for parole in March 2008 and is totally convinced that it will happen and he will be out on the street again.

Little does he know that I will be at that Parole Hearing in March of next year.  I will not be there to help him get OUT...I will be there to ask that he be kept IN!!!  He needs to serve the entire 2 year sentence.  I intend to tell the Parole Board that my opinion, as his mother, is that he is still a danger to society and that I am in fear of my life should he be released. These are both very true statements and I intend to make them while under oath.

When he as 15 years old, I confronted him with the marijuana I had found in his room and he broke my nose.  Then when I picked up the phone to call 911, he grabbed it from me and tried to knock me out with it.  Another situation happened in the garage when I told him it was time to come in the house...it was very late.  That time, he grabbed a knife and came after me with it.  Fortunately, I was close enough to the door that I was able to go inside and lock myself in.

I apologize for this long diatribe, however, I am only alive today by the Grace of God.  Between what my ex could and would have done to me had  I not left him and what my middle son has done to me, if it weren't for God looking out for me, I wouldn't be here to type this posting.

My entire point is that Michelle needs to get OUT!!!  RIGHT NOW!  TODAY!  She also needs to take her children when she goes and never look back.  Wade has some SERIOUS mental problems and she is not equipped to handle them.  He could do her he same favor my ex did and kill himself, whether on purpose or accidentally.  However, he's too much of a narcissist to do that.  Wade thinks he's the only person in he world who is always right...everybody else is always wrong in his mind.

Sheila

I was the first to post a message on this board...before the 3 episodes even aired.  There was a reason for that.  Michelle and her 4 children are in MORTAL DANGER.  After watching all 3 episodes, I am even more convinced of this than before.

There have been many posts mentioning that Michelle is co-dependent.  I am not a psychiatrist, however, I could NOT disagree more!  She is scared beyond belief!  Scared for herself and for her children, as well she should be.

I was married for 17 years to a man who was a drug addict AND a porn addict.  I gave birth to three sons with this man because I was not aware of his addictions for several years.  Maybe I should have listened to my "little voice" instead of thinking I could change him.

I left him 3 different times...the first time he convinced me to come back after only one day, the second time lasted almost a week and the third time was the charm.  I actually took a vacation day, had movers come to take a few things out of the house and move them into the apartment I had rented.  Then I filed for divorce.

I am ashamed to say that I did not take my 3 boys (11, 13 & 15 at the time) because I felt that he needed to learn how to be a father instead of trying to be the boys' best friend.  No matter what I said to them, they knew they could go to their dad and he would tell them what they wanted to hear.  I thought they would be OK with him since his mother lived with us and would be there to help take care of them.

Then I received a call from my middle son at 6:30am on Dec 15, 1992.  He was so hysterical that I could hardly understand him.  However, I did understand "MOM!  DAD'S DEAD!"  I threw on some clothes and jumped in the car.  I was driving 75mph down residential streets in Houston praying for a cop to stop me.  Of course, they're never around when you really need them.

When I reached the house, the paramedics were already packing up their stuff to leave.  I knew then that I was too late.  A Deputy met me at the door and I told him who I was and asked him what had happened.  He told me that my ex had "huffed" Freon 22 (this is the industrial strength freon for those who are not familiar...my ex was  pipe-fitter and had access to it).  Apparently, it killed him immediately because my ex-mother-in-law found him lying totally naked on the floor face down. The freon was still turned on and there was a porn video playing on the VCR.  She screamed and all 3 boys immediately came running.  They saw EVERYTHING!  In fact, my middle son had to turn off the freon.

My middle and youngest son then noticed a fireplace shovel shoved between the cushions of his recliner with the handle facing out and a condom on it.  Apparently, he was sodomizing himself while watching the porn and then decided to huff the freon to get high while doing the other things.  There was no suicide note ever found so my belief is that he was just acting on 2 of his addictions, i.e., porn and drugs, and REALLY screwed up.  My 2 youngest sons put the fireplace shovel back and threw away the condom before the police arrived because they didn't want them to see it.

Next month marks the 15th anniversary of his death and frankly I am still glad it happened.  However, my sons were in therapy for a year.  The middle one has never really gotten over his father's death...they were very close.  I have always wondered just HOW close they were.  I asked my son if his father ever sexually abused him and he fervently denies it, however, I'll always have my doubts.

My middle son REALLY began acting out after wards.  He has been locked up in the Harris County Jail more times than I can remember.  I feel quite sure that he is on a first name basis with all the guards and deputies as well as their families.  He is 28 now and is serving  years in the Texas Department of Criminal Justice.  He is up for parole in March 2008 and is totally convinced that it will happen and he will be out on the street again.

Little does he know that I will be at that Parole Hearing in March of next year.  I will not be there to help him get OUT...I will be there to ask that he be kept IN!!!  He needs to serve the entire 2 year sentence.  I intend to tell the Parole Board that my opinion, as his mother, is that he is still a danger to society and that I am in fear of my life should he be released. These are both very true statements and I intend to make them while under oath.

When he as 15 years old, I confronted him with the marijuana I had found in his room and he broke my nose.  Then when I picked up the phone to call 911, he grabbed it from me and tried to knock me out with it.  Another situation happened in the garage when I told him it was time to come in the house...it was very late.  That time, he grabbed a knife and came after me with it.  Fortunately, I was close enough to the door that I was able to go inside and lock myself in.

I apologize for this long diatribe, however, I am only alive today by the Grace of God.  Between what my ex could and would have done to me had  I not left him and what my middle son has done to me, if it weren't for God looking out for me, I wouldn't be here to type this posting.

My entire point is that Michelle needs to get OUT!!!  RIGHT NOW!  TODAY!  She also needs to take her children when she goes and never look back.  Wade has some SERIOUS mental problems and she is not equipped to handle them.  He could do her he same favor my ex did and kill himself, whether on purpose or accidentally.  However, he's too much of a narcissist to do that.  Wade thinks he's the only person in he world who is always right...everybody else is always wrong in his mind.

Sheila

I truly appreciate your sympathy for what my three sons and  I have been through.  I am stuck in the "anger stage" of the grieving process and am not sure if I will ever progress.  My greatest hope is that my ex-husband and his father are now burning in the ninth realm of hell.  My ex-husband's father was killed in a car accident the day after my ex died.  He knew about the death because I called him to tell him even though he had always hated me with a passion.  I knew he didn't hate "me"...he would have hated anyone who took his only child away from him.

My ex and I both belong to the Living Bank (a great organization for those interested...their URL is http://www.livingbank.org) so when the funeral home picked up the body, we never saw it again.  There was a memorial but no burial.  There was absolutely NO reason for his father to fly to Houston.  He would not have been able to see his son and there was no funeral planned.  The only reason he came was to take my three boys away from me. Our Blessed Lord decided that was not going to happen and took care of the problem.  I will believe that forever.

I'm not sure that I could actually be considered co-dependent by the strict definition of the term; however, I will agree that I stayed WAY longer than I should have. The first time I left him, the boys were 2, 4, and 6. Had I divorced him then and not allowed visitation rights to him, the boys' behavior may have been different.  At least they would never have been subjected to finding their father naked and dead on the floor.

However; I'm sure you've heard the saying "Hindsight is always 20--20".  There are so many things I would change in the past had I known what the eventual outcome would be but that is not within my power.  At this point, I just trust in Our Lord to guide me along the right path and do what I can to be a good influence for my three sons and twin grandsons.

Thanks again!

Sheila