Topic : 07/29 A Husband’s Shocking Confessions, Part 2

Please,

Dr Phil's show is stretching the story and dragging it out over 3 days.  This story is quite interesting and I am sure that Dr Phil will offer amazing help to the family, as well as other victims of domestic abuse, but what was covered in today's episode could have been wrapped up in 15 minutes or so. Please stop insulting your viewers by playing clips over and over just to get to commercials.  Dr. Phil does good work, and has interesting subjects, but I find I can leave the room for 15-20 minutes and not miss much of the story of the day.

Hi Shayna,

I do think it is very serious when anyone and especially someone that lives in the same home as you and or your children can be so messed up.  The only way you can protect yourself is to know what you are up against.  I don't mean mistrust someone for no reason, but if you see things that just don't add up, then you need to check it out.  I think we all have an inner self that tells us right from wrong and we know when something smells bad, it usually needs to be thrown out.  (Ahhh....Dr. Phyl euphemism)

When you see the first sign that something is wrong, then you start being on guard and put the wheels in motion to protect yourself.  If you need help, then talk to someone you can trust such as a family member, an attorney or your minister.  I personally feel Michelle probably did ignore some of the signs in the beginning, but this guy is really really good at deception.  Only a very sick, mentally ill person can pull this off with such candid behavior.  It's like he has split personalities.  The husband and father is loving, caring and a good provider and that's what Michelle has seen.  When he steps outside of that zone, he becomes the other "Wade",  the callous, deceiving, vicious, explosive and dangerous person.  Michelle does not know this person and until recently did not know that person existed.  Maybe she didn't have any warning signs, maybe she did and didn't take them serious in the beginning, I don't know.  This man is not the "norm".  Usually,  I believe you can see the signs that something is not right and you act on it early, before it gets to the point of elusion.

If the warning signs are there, then check cell phones, emails, internet sites (cookies & history),  miles on vehicle, and  occasionally call at work to see if he/she is really at work.  Check credit card statements, bank statements or records, property tax records (see if he/she has other property), clothing, etc.  If a person lies to you, that's not their only sin; somewhere there's more.  You protect yourself by gettting out of the enviroment first and if it's fixable, then fix it in a "safe" zone, with counseling, but never alone.

If you are ever in a relationship where there is fear, get out of it.  I don't care how far you have to go, get away from him/her.  If you are afraid of a person, then that person is angry and anger has killed many people.

Hope this helps!

Gypsy

  It sounds to me like both Wade and his wife have mental issues.  The children need to be taken away from both of them.  She cuts herself, overdoses on pills and says she won't leave him until they find a body!!!   She is not of sound mind and is not capable of protecting these children.   And if Wade is just lying about killing people, I would say that he has a serious mental illness to the point where it might be possible for him to eventually kill someone.  He needs to be committed because he is a danger to the public.  His wife also needs to get some serious help.  She seems to be 'a few bricks short of a load'.  Get yourself together girl.  Get some brains and some balls.  I can't stand it when women act so pathetic.  Dont' be so stupid!!  These kids don't have a hope in hell of turning out right.    

Don't give this guy a means of "getting out of" the electric chair (if the electric chair is law in their state)! If indeed he committed the crime, this guy should either spend eternity in prison or go to the electric chair...definitely not some mental hospital where he can pathologically lie his way out of a early release!

I too have lived in a relationship where porn was an issue.  I located the first before I married him.. thinking he was a single male living at home with his parents.. I didn't think too much of it.. Six months into our marriage I found the same evidence in our home... Naked pictures of ex girlfriends, porn mags... etc.. Don't think it was because he was not getting sex he was..  I confronted him and he accused me of spying on him.. this was his stuff and I had no business with it..  He was like a little boy caught red handed with his hand in the cookie jar..  He then agreed to get rid of it.  I found the same pictures in our new home two years later.. I know I am stupid ... the porn went from books to videos to purchasing movies on tv. . to porn on the computer and he just tried to get better at hiding it.  At one point he even lied and said the movie I found must belong to my daughter... did he not think I would ask her?? Anyways I finally lef the relationship after 10 years... I felt my whole marriage was and is a lie..He went and sought help for his addiction and convinced me to come home after a year and try to fix our marriage.. I did.. it was not too long before the old addiction reared its ugly head...  This time some of the porn involved child pornography.. that was the end for me I would protect my granddaughters from predators on the street..  so why would I risk possibly having one in the family  I am now out of that relationship and attempting to get a steparation .. he continues to feel like he did nothing wrong..  I explained to him how it made me feel and told him he should consider getting more help so the next relationship would stand a chance..  For the person who posted that she should have given him more sex you have no idea what you are talking about....  The man I married was a perpetual liar and I believe he had sex outside our marriage....

Thanks Doctor Phil for hosting this show.... hopefully others will see it is time to get out!.. instead of living with the humiliation and lies