Topic : 07/30 A Husband's Shocking Confessions, Part 3

I haven't seen the third episode yet - will watch it today when I get home from work - but it occured to me that the husband might be lying about murdering and raping to discredit his wife. To make it seem as if she is a liar herself or crazy. He really wanted everyone to believe she was suicidal so why not go a step further and tell her things when they are alone and then deny them. He had to know she would call the show back after he revealed them.

As I said - there may be evidence in episode 3 that coroporates his rape/murder stories but if not he may be lying about this also. Anyone that would confess to something like this either falsly or genuiney is seriously ill and of course Michelle should pack up her children and leave. She is obviously in shock as evidenced by her shaking and demeanour and needs to get away from any contact with him until he is "out of her head".

I left an abusive marriage - not this same scenario - but it still took me about two years until his manipulations and victim mentality ceased to work on me. Others have written that they can't understand why she married him and why she stays but the co-dependent abusive marriage is a complicated and secret one that gradually erodes a woman's sense of self-esteem and sometimes even of reality.

This man appears a timebomb - I work in a shelter in Canada - and my gut tells me that he will explode in violence and that she needs to run far away.

"Wade was done a great therapeutic disservice in being called on rage that was absolutely reasonable and justified."

 

 

I think that it was good that Dr. Phil saw a side of Wades temper. Dr. Phil seemed to do a great jobs at ending the conversation when he did. Now that they have seen part of this mans temper it will help them to treat him and deal with some of his problem's. I do wonder if some of this is for attention. When Wade came on stage it looked as if he was winking at his wife. Did I see that right? So maybe part of all of this was for some attention. As for the not having his wife leave right away I can understand why they did not rush in and remove her and the children. To much force could have made him snap if he does has that much rage and is possible of murder!  I am shocked that the restraining order was lifted, But as we see on the news all of the time If he really wanted to kill his wife and children he could have done it, even with a restraining order. I think he loves his wife and kids enough he is trying not to hurt them and that is why is has asked for help. 

 

After watching the show, I just can't seem to think that Michelle is "all there".  Seems like she's hiding something........... Could it be that she is aware of Wade's wrong doing and just now letting this all due to whatever reason.  She is just making sense with this whole thing............. Then she gets all emotional when talking with Dr. Phil, and Wade, but NEVER, NEVER has tears.  What is up with that?  She makes all the facial expressions.  But NO TEAR!  I think there is something more to this WHOLE story/family that is not being aired and I pray that Dr. Phil gets to the bottom of this whole family’s secrets.

I disagree about your "love" theory. I think you CAN lose those feelings of love pretty damned fast. You say it doesn't matter what crime he committed? Hell Yeah it does! If my husband turned up to be a serial killer or rapist, or something along those lines, I have a feeling I couldn't look at him the same ever again. Never! It's not that you didn't love him before, It's the realization that you did not marry a man that you knew, and therefore how could you be in love with this "new" person, this rapist, this killer? The thing that would hurt the most would be knowing that I made such a stupid mistake by falling for him to begin with, or perhaps having children with him....that is how I feel. (it's not like we're talking about shoplifting or jay walking, etc here. We are talking about murder--most foul!)

I agree that the wife does seem off. Something isn't right.  When I was watching the show last night, she made a comment that she would leave when they found a body. Are you kidding me?? You would think one, especially with kids, would get the hell out of town. And where's the tears? She seems to calm. I dont know if it just hasn't hit her yet or what, but I would think she should be hysterical. I dont know. Seems weird to me.

Where is the Ex-wife? Did anyone contact her to see if he did rape her?
I mean if you have a problem such as this the police should be questioning her and other family members I was in a crazy relationship with a SICK man and the first thing I did was contact his x to see if this was normal behavior for him. I can't wait to find out the truth to all of this its very scarey

Even if Wade did not do the deeds he claimed to his wife, he is obviously a disturbed and dangerous man.

Perhaps his deviant fantasies are about to break out of his head and onto a real live victim. Michelles mental state, is also damaged and twisted after staying in this relationship.  Bottom line, the safest and soundest route is for her and her children to get out yesterday- get out and away so she can start healing and taking care of herself.  This man, whether or not having committed these crimes, just by stating them, shows that he is trying them on for size, the next step could very well be the fulfillment of these actions.  I for one, wouldnt even take the chance. Michelle, you cant help him after all this, its not in your power to stop the violence in someone elses heart. Run fast - run hard- hide yourself from this person, your children are in harms way every moment he is part of  your lives.

 

None of this is adding up.  I also believe no one would go on National TV and admit to those previous crimes.  Most women from an abusive background would not have even taken the chance to call Dr. Phil, after the confession.  It seemed like she was just sitting around not worrying if her husband had taped her calls or was monitoring her, like she had been the safest women in the world after the confession.  We all know if we haven't been there it is hard to say what we would do, but most sane person after hearing those confessions would of drove straight to the police station instead of getting Dr. Phil of the phone.  As Dr. Phil always states "Come On"

 I, too, found Trimarco's tactics, as described by Wade, Michelle and himself, to be highly questionable. And, in reckles disregard of her personal safety. He, I gather from what all three of them said, was using Michelle  to "interrogate" Wade.
Even using sex as a means to "milk" further "confessions" and "recollections" from him? Michelle admitted, on yesterday's show, that she'd had sex with Wade after one of his "confessions". And, on today's show, told Dr Phil that she was just following Trimarco's "advice".
Yesterday, Michelle told Dr Phil she'd had sex with  Wade because he'd become sexually aroused during some of his "confessions". Was Michelle following Trimarco's "advice" to "play" Wade so he'd continue  "supplying" her with information? Or, did she just want "some". Regardless, sex with someone in that state of arousal could turn deadly.
Trimarco suspected,  because of some "confessions" he made to Michelle, that he "could be" a serial killer? What I heard, on today's show, suggested that Trimarco was "using"  her as an "informant". Which wasn't her place. If there was any possibility that Wade's "confessions" were true, Trimarco should've advised Michelle to leave. And, let the professionals examine Wade. 

There is a whole mindset one aquires when one is in an abusive marriage. If you haven't been there then you can't see how anyone would stay with such a person. I was married for 19 years to a man that verbally, emotionally and sexually abused me. By mindcontrol and manipulation he took away my right to choose so that essentially I was raped by him for years - I just didn't understand that was happening because he didn't hit me. He told me we were "one flesh" - that our bodies didn't belong to ourselves but to each other. He would ask if I wanted sex - I'd say no but I will if you want to - and he always did. I took gravol after a few years as he sickened me. He liked me to lay naked and just look at me - opening orafices and just probing it always grossed me out but he always made it sound ok. He also did this to his sister when they were around 12 which totally turned me off him and always made me wonder about the safety of my children with me. Thank God he never did anything to them. He made me think that I was the one with all the problems. He was nice to me when I would have sex with him but never if I didn't. Essentially he took away my ability to choose. How he ever derived any pleasure from all this I do not know. Control likely. Seven years later I am whole and healthy - he stopped seeing our kids of his own accord over a year ago and life is good.

My point in writing this is to say that while you are in the situation and isolated (because you are disloyal if you "tell") you think your life is normal. Only getting out and getting help lets you realize it wasn't.

I still shudder when I think of him...........praise God I left!