Topic : 11/26 Katherine Returns

You expressed my sentiments concisely.

 

Sadly, Dr. Phil never addressed Katherine's deeper emotional problem of knowing how to be independent!   Why does Katherine need to be always being in a relationship?  She just created chaos in one and immediately jumps into another relationship.

 

It’s pretty obvious, Katherine’s got  emotional problems that need to be addressed, instead of complimenting Katherine for meeting, “an American boy…It just feels a lot more right, doesn’t it?”  Let’s put things in perspective.  Try telling her to take it a little slower;  Katherine you just put your family thru hell when you ran away half-way across the world, of her own free will, only to break up with her 2year love affair AND now you are falling in love with someone new in less than 2 weeks?!

 

This is simply absurd.

I cannot believe the mother let her daughter talk to this person while she was under age.  This is a perfect example of how teens are not monitored on their computers as well as cell phones.  Then, the mom enables her by letting her keep a cell phone and computer so Katherine could continue to speak with Abdullah for two more years!  I fault the mom and she surely should have showed more backbone.  The daughter ran all over her and apparently did not respect her mother enough that Katherine did exactly as Katherine pleased.

 

The mom is largely to blame here for allowing her daughter to carry on as she did.  Allowing Katherine to act as an adult when clearly she was immature.  You simply cannot allow "children" to conduct themselves as adults.  I can only compare this to Ozzy and Sharon Osbourne who let their under age children Jack and Kelly go out to bars and do some things that only adults should have done.  As a result, they both ended up in rehab.  While I am sure they loved their children dearly, they had too much freedom.  You cannot do this with children.  There has to be boundaries.

 

Katherine was too immature to have been allowed this relationship with Abdullah.  The mother should have stopped this when it first began.  No child of mine would have been given a cell phone where she could have spoken with a man in a foreign country placing them at risk, nor would the computer use have continued...unless closely monitored.  Poor parenting here.

 

 

Although much of what you say about teens is very sensible, I am amazed at your willingness and ability to insult both the West Bank and Kentucky in the same post.  I would not use the term "crazy backwards country" to refer to the birthplace of Jewish and Christian cultures, cultures which are several thousand years older than this country is.  Also, I go to the University of Kentucky, and I'm not sure we have backwoods here, much less shacks in them. I find it very offensive when people from other parts of the United States use Appalachia as their favorite example of ignorance and poverty. There is plenty of that in every other state as well.

Katherine if you're reading this I just wanted to commend you for coming home and making the decision you did and realized you deserve so much more than what Abdullah was giving you. You're a young beautiful intelligent woman who deserves someone who loves and respects you. I know how hard it must have been for you to leave someone you thought you loved. You have your whole life ahead of you. Today's a new day and each day should be spent in joy. When you're with someone, in good times or bad, you should never feel threatened in any way. Good for you for realizing something was not quite right. I'm so happy your home and safe. Cindy

Women in Canada do not all know how to fight back. I am a canadian woman, and a Social Worker, and I have seen time and time again women staying in unhealthy, abusive relationships. It is no different than in the US. To imply all women in Canada are 'above' being in a relationship like this is ignorant. We can fall victim to unhealthy, abusive men just like anyone else can.

 

And bring him here to Canada just to show him what's what? No thanks. His country can keep him.

 

I think Katherine is very indecisive and I worry that she will not keep her promise and stay away from Abdullah. He is very manipulative, and we saw a dose of his anger on yesterday's conclusion.

 

Her mother has every right to take away her computer. No computer = NO my space. Why are people so naive about these sorts of pages. At least....make it private! Add people you KNOW. I really, do not understand with all the findings that have been done to prove the dangers of unknown people on the internet, we all fall into these pages.

 

That's not to say mature adults can't make their own decisions, but obviously Katherine could not and did not handle the maturity and responsibility that comes with it.

when I was 18 I too dated someone with similiar "ways". He was orginally from Afghanistan and had moved to the US. He had all the same traits Abdullah did. He stalked me and even brought a gun to the high school we attended and went there to kill me. He didn't like me breaking up with him at all. Luckily I wasn't at school that day and he was taken to a psychiatric hospital for two weeks as he also promised to kill himself.  I can't speak for ANY other Arab or Middle Easterner but in my experiece, I found I was treated far more like a possession than someone who was loved. I don't blame him and did forgive him and we became friends a while later after he calmed down. He married shortly therafter and had a baby. The wife is also Afghani and lives here in the US. Recently out of curiousity to see how his life has been I looked him up on the internet. After almost 15 years now I was saddened to find a news story in a paper in my area that he had kidnapped his wife and kids at gunpoint after she left him. Don't ever turn back Michelle, you live here, stay here and make you life and love here if you can. If not, make sure you are familiar with the person and their personal belief system truly before getting to involved. This exact thing can and does happen withAmercian men as well, make sure you don't "pick" men with those traits. Lean on Dr. Phil to make good choices and lastly, forgive yourself for what you put your family through, they will also eventually and you should be ahead of them and ready to be forgiven. Best of luck!

 in the middle east ,girls have as much right to a good  eduction as boys do and they do excel get jobs as scientest  as teachers  and politicans they hav  high standards for their girls in evry country i the middle  east they have their law in saudi arabia woma cover hemselves from head to toeonly showing their eyes most woman have jobs my sister n law works she works in a television station in Sudia Arabia. In Eygpt, Jordan, an Lebonon they have freedom. Women here are not oppresed. they have rights there. If you want to open your mouth about Islam,i sugest you get to know the cultre and relgion well.

Ok, here is ANOTHER teenager telling people who have been around for awhile where the bull goes potty in the buck wheat.   I think someone who is living in this part of the world has a better idea of what is going on in their neighborhood then someone siting in a secure home without rockets falling all around you. Or do you fear going to pizza joint where there is always a possibility you are going to be blown up by some "non-terroristic Arab"?  Additionally,I suppose at 16 you would also like to give all a heads-up on how to solve all the world problems?

 

This culture is a culture of jihad, especially the one Abdullah comes from in the Gaza strip (I also am confused here as to exactly Katherine was; as the Gaza Strip and West Bank are totally different places, separated by the country of Israel).  Certainly living next to a culture with this mindset as your neighbor has got to be a challenge - to say the least.

Ignorance is the evil of all things. You've got a lot to learn before you make such a 'racist' comment about Arabs. Why don't you research the history of terrorism? Regret to inform you, terrorism was first introduced in occupied Palestine by the late Israeli Prime Minister Begin when he and other Jewish terrorists blew-up the King David hotel in Jerusalem when the Brits occuped the Holy Land,