My darling daughhter met a boy at school that seemed so nice in the beginning. His home life wasn't great-mom who is bipolar and doesn't think she needs her meds, dad who is away much of the year (work required) and he was left to pretty much raise himself. At first this guy was kind, thoughtful and mannerly but soon became very possesive of ym daughter and the fights began. There was much jealousy-on both sides-as he was telling her what she could or could not do while at the same time telling her what he was going to do. His jauants included taking girls anywhere he went if she was not able to go with him. My daughter was a wee 14 when she met this kid. He had taken her virginity before she turned 15. Then there was the pressure to get on birth control or he would break up with her. He actually asked me numerous times if I would put her on birth control and then why wouldn't I once I told him NO. This kid wasn't ever told NO to anything. He conned me in so man ways and also conned my daughter although she is to blame for her actions along the way. But somehow this kid got under her skin and no matter how much they fought ot how often he called her the same type names that Katherine has been called my daughter was willing to go back. I tried counseling for my daughter and also for this boy. It got to a point where I put a protection order out on him adn the courts signed it but then allowed the boy and his mother (who just showed up in the picture for court) to put one on my daughter. Then, after the boy was away for a good 5+ weeks he vanalized our house within 24 of being home. I pressed charges. He got a slap on the hand as it was his first "offense". WE ended up keeping our daughter out of school to avoid contact with this boy and her grades slipped horribly. She is a very good student so we put her back in for the remainder of the year, thinking enough time had gone by that she would see him for what he really was. He slowly wormed his way back in and promised her all that he knew she needed to hear. It came to an end when my daughter left the house ewithout permission, stole our vehicle and went to this boy-whose mother helped with the entire escapade. We ended up taking our daughter to juvenile court and putting her on youth at risk. It was a tough thing to do but we had to do everything we could to protect her. We had taken away all her priveleges-down to not even allowing her to go places with friends. When my daughter got picked up we were allowed to leave her in juvie for 24 hours-so we did just that. She didn't like it at all and while the problems didn't go awayimmediately things did begin to get a bit better.
I hope Katherine knows that she owes herself the right to happiness. She will not ever have that with this creep. It has nothing to do with his nationality-it is who he is that is the problem. He is a controlling, abusive, worthless creep who will only ruin what he can for Katherine. This is about control-I have seen it in my own home. My daughters ex boyfriend hit her and kicked her and put his hands on her throat. These types of behaviour do NOT get better-not without much treatment and desire.
Katherine-read this and know that a person who has no ties to you whatsoever watched Dr. Phil and got goosebumps as it brought back so much of an ugly past.
I wish you the very best of everything-I hope you chose wisely.
Dr. Phil follows up with a family terrified for the safety of their loved one, Katherine, a young woman who flew to the Middle East to be with Abdullah, whom she met online. When she last spoke with Dr. Phil, Katherine promised that she would return to the United States within two days, but immediately after the show, she changed her mind. Find out what happened during two failed attempts to get Katherine home, and what finally got her on a plane. Then, Katherine’s mother, Shawn, and sister, Mary, say they were overwhelmingly relieved to have her back safe, so why didn’t they greet her at the airport? Katherine joins her family onstage and offers her tearful apologies. After hearing how her actions have affected her family and Dr. Phil’s staff, will Katherine go back to Abdullah, or will she have a change of heart? Join the discussion.
