Topic : 11/26 Katherine Returns

Maybe Dr. Phil can help you and your fiance.  I hope to see your story on the show.  Best of luck to you, Wayne, and May God Bless. 

JoieAntionette

  I DO THINK IT IS PLAIN THAT ABDULLAH AND HIS FAMILY HAVE NO RESPECT FOR AMERICAN CITIZENS.. I THINK THAT THE GOVERNMENT NEEDS TO REVOKE HIS FATHERS'VISA AND NOT LET ANY OF THEM BACK IN AT ALL , I DO THINK THEY ARE TERRORIST AT LEAST TO KATHERINE AND HER FAMILY ......NONE OF THEM NEED TO BE IN AMERICA , NOT EVEN HIS COUSINS ANY OF HIS RELATIVES... IT IS WITH EVERY MAN OR WOMAN THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM THE OTHER PEOPLE , NO ONE NEEDS TO BE MIXING RACES. I KNOW, I AM MARRIED TO ANOTHER RACE, HE  IS AN AMERICAN, BUT  OF MEXICAN DECENT AND HE IS HARD TO GET ALONG WITH, HE DOESN'T THINK HE IS WRONG AT ALL AND HE IS 62 YEARS OLD...I DON'T THINK  OTHER HISPANIC PEOPLE NEED TO MIX EITHER NO RACE , NEEDS TOO...

The woman whose article you are responding to wrote an intelligent comment naming historical facts about the treatment of women in different societies.  Your reply is non-sensical sentimentalism.

Honestly, the majority of replies on this message board, as well as the show itself, are so ignorant that it makes me embarrassed to be North American (I am Canadian).

Having had the priveledge to have travelled extensively to South and Central America, Europe, and Asia, I can tell you with great certainty that most of the world hates Americans.  Thanks to your hypocirtical foreign policy (especially since 9/11) and business trade ethics you have lost all credibility and moral standing internationally.  No one wants your 'democracy', where roughly about only 1/3 of you exercise your preciously defended right to vote, and are made to systematically give away your freedoms in exchange for protection from the vague enemy of terrorism. (ie the Patriot Act, suspension of torture laws ect...) 

And as for women's rights, this year is the first that a woman is being considered for president and even now one of her greatest obstacles to overcome was to be taken seriously even as a woman.  Many Islamic countries (I'm not talking about Iran ect..) have not only fair women's rights but also have had prominent women politicians and leaders for decades.  (ie look at what is going on in Pakistan right now).

As for this show, it was two young kids falling in and out of love.  Both were foolish and acted in haste.  This happens everyday and both Katherine and Abdullah are equality at fault for commiting to a relationship too soon.  Yes he's probably a jerk, but she doesnt seem so innocent either.  If someone broke up with me in front of a million people on tv  I would be pretty pissed too.

I'm not the brightest bulb on the tree, so why couldn't Abdullah meet a woman in his area?

Why are we afraid of Arabs?  I am Jewish, so to me, thats a stupid question.  Are any or all arabs responsible for 9-11 attacks?

We had a problem in NJ not long ago.  A few people attacked and beat up a Turkish man because of the head thing he was wearing.  Does violence promote more violence?  Does it promote hate?  OK funny story I went to see a friend of mine.  Because there was a praying mantis on the window, I wouldn't go in.  I hate bugs... It was ugly!  LOL could you imagine it with a turban on its head; I'd be a screaming meme.

I am sorry for asking these silly questions... I am thinking to far out of the box... won't be the first time.  I don't mean to sound ignorant either. 

Even though I agree with everyone in that Katherine needs to be separated from Abdullah, I do think most Americans wrote him off immediately simply because he was from Palestine.  Katherine could have met the greatest guy in the world; however, as soon as we hear that he is from Palestine and lives there, we as Americans would write him off as well.  I, too, am guilty of writing him off because he is from another world.  In all fairness, there is a degree of racism here due to our fear of "them".

Katherine is too young to get involved with anyone at her age especially leaving her family behind to go to another world.  Her family needs to blame Katherine entirely for this ordeal.  Anyone can put up bait from any world.  It does not mean you have to go catch it.  If you have become that independent and stupid to fly off to another world to visit a guy from myspace, then you obviously have not been raised properly.  Not showing up to the airport is a perfect example that this family has inherent issues.  I don't care how much frustration or other crap you are going through, you MUST be there for your daughter for life. 

From watching the show, it appeared that Dr. Phil honed in on the fact that Abdullah cursed at Katherine and also hit her.  I do not know a single person regardless of educational background who has not cursed at their loved one.  It happens due to frustration.  As long as it is not a continuous everyday sort of deal, cursing at your loved one once a year or so is absolutely positively acceptable.  Our divorce rate here is over 50% and others are living unhappily without proceeding with divorce.  Can you honestly tell me that every divorce or unhappy relationship calls it quits peacefully?  We are not all emotionless people.  We are allowed to curse as long as it is not habitual and is done out of frustration.  As long as Abdullah only cursed at Katherine once in a blue moon as he was desperately trying to explain, it is totally fine.  What isn't O.K. is to hit her regardless of how frustrated you are.  That's where you have to draw the line.

I honestly believe Abdullah out of his young love frustrations cursed at her and felt that he was being betrayed by Katherine because he felt that her family and people in the States unfairly dismissed him as a human being.  I sort of understood his frustration.  However, he has to understand that in a world as divided as ours, you can not expect to win over someone from another world and also their entire family. 

This world will always be divided, whether by country, by color, by education, etc.  Where you find one person accepting another for their differences, you will always find another who isn't so accepting.  It's the world we live in.  Deal with it.

I agree with this whole-heartedly. While I understand that the show was meant to show the dangers of the online world and young people, and to help this young girl out of what was clearly a faulted and weak relationship, I can't help but feel overcome with sorrow by the wild round of applause that was given from the audience when it was said, "You met another boy, right? Like, an American boy?" And it seems this is the point that everyone is hung up on. Being a proud American and dating a non-American Muslim myself, it hurts me to see this reaction because for years I've struggled with people judging my relationship - which, though not perfect, is very healthy and happy - simply because I'm American, and he's not. Being Muslim is one thing in America today; being Muslim and of a different nationality is a battle I don't think most people understand.

There are physically and verbally abusive in America and the Middle East - and in England, Hungary, Poland, Japan, Thailand; every nation on this earth that has people has people with problems. But that's not to say that there aren't people who are good, for certainly every country with bad people also has people who really make the world a better place. Everyone is up in arms about who's a native and who's not in America today, and that just takes away from the process needed to build bridges to cultural understanding and acceptance. Maybe the next show should be on the importance of dialogue and acceptance of non-Americans!