Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

this boy has surrounded himself with women who think yelling, swearing and  oozing hatred is a way to solve problems.  I'm sure he doesn't even realize he married his mother.  Granted growing up in that environment could have led him to feel comfortable in that situation, but he is old enought to see what he is doing and break the habit.

  I would like to make a comment about the Mother-in-law and the she devil bride.  I think these kids have lost all respects for their elders.  I think the she devil does not want  a relationship with her Mother-in Law and feels threatened by her.  Jay has only one Mother and I feel like it should have been his duty to see that all of them got along, but instead he just sat there and said nothing and let the she devil bride speak for him.  Parents are not perfect and we all make mistakes but they sit there and bad mouth the Mother like they are perfect.  I think the Mother has come a long way to try and make things work.  They make me sick.

 

Watching today's show is upsetting and so sad. The son is at the center of this problem. He needs to love both women. He should let his "wife" know that his mother is to be respected no matter what and he expects her to act like an adult with maturity. He can't make her ( new wife) like her, (MOM)  but he should have drawn a line in the sand long ago. The new wife is pathetic. Mom may be overbearing.. may drive her crazy.. but she will always be his mother.. his only mother.... Wives come and go... BUT  he only has one mom. the wife may win the battle..but she will lose the war. Mom is trying to change ..the children are not. They are at fault and need to see that they need to change too.... No one is going to win.. they all lose..

I'm sorry, but Michelle is getting on my last nerve.  She might as well get a leash and put it around her husband's neck to lead him around.  He SHOULD be too embarassed to show his face on TV.  He's completely spineless.  It's as if the two of them aren't even separate people, just some hybrid entity.  I've seen middle school girls who are more mature than Michelle.  She's just trying to keep her husband from showing any bit of attention to any woman other than her, his mother included.  I say absolutely no way should Jane have to grovel to these useless people.  If her son wants to live his life that way, let him, and wash her hands of the whole situation.  When Michelle divorces him, Jay will come grovelling back to his mom, I'm sure of it.

Hello to all of you this is my first message !

 

I am a firm believer in "What Goes Around Comes Around', and if (and that is a big IF) the marriage last long enough to have children and raise them to adulthood.

 

Michelle better watch out because she is going get it 10 times worst than she gave to her new mother in law.

 

I lay most of the blame on the son, these are the two women in his life who will love him the most,

I feel he never tried to soothe ruffled feathers, so to speak.

 

 

This to will come back to haunt the son 10 times worst because I really do not think that this

union will last, especially if the mother in law continues to work on her self.

 

The bride will no longer have anything to bitch about.

 

That being said the mother in law is not at all blameless, but she found out she was not the number 1 women in her son's life so she is trying to make it right, however I do not think that she can ever make it right with them, especially the bride. Never going to happen because the bride and groom will always hold a grudge.

 

Now that I have expressed all that I would like to say one thing, I am not a violent person by any means but I can tell you one thing for sure if I was the mother in law and I had made the strides that the therapist and

the groom's uncle and ex best man all agreed that I had made. I would have SLAPPED Michelle into the middle of next week if she rolled her eyes at me. That was uncalled for, I am also a firm believer in the more you stir up poop the more it will stink, Michelle reminds me of some one who loves to stir up stink.

 

My last question is Is the groom BLIND?

 

If my matron of honor had back out of my wedding, I think that I would have to take a long hard look at the situation before I continued down that path.

 

Things will come to pass with maturity, I just hope that the union will last until then. 

 

I can't wait for the D-I-V-O-R-C-E SHOW. LOL

 

 

 

I truly believe that jane's son needs to grow a back bone.....come on people this is his mother...I think that woman he married needs to grow up....How could she live with herself knowing she came between his mother and him.....She is a evil person I think...Jay could have prevented alot of this....He needs to tell his so called wife to back away from his mother....this is the person that gave him life!!!!

Michelle needs to grow up and allow Jane to have a relationship with her son.  As the new wife, you are able to calm the situation or make it worse.  I believe that the attitude that Michelle has is poisoning Jay. Michelle seems to be the one talking for Jay.  It looks to me like he is going from having Jane as a mom, to having Michelle as a mom.  Time to grow up and speak for yourself.  I can't believe what I'm watching right now.  This is rediculous. I have a mother-in-law.  It wouldn't matter how I feel about her, I would never keep her from having a relationship with her son.  Michelle needs to back off and maybe Jane wouldn't be as angry.  I am also a mother and I would be very angry if my daughters spouse didn't allow me to communicate with my daughter. Oh, and Michelle thinks Jane is stressful, she obviosly doesn't know what life is like.  It is stressful.  Having kids is stressful.  Maybe when Michelle has children, she will see Jane's position. 

Jane has clearly made an effort to change her ways.  On the other hand Michelle is still the same cold hearted b*tch that she has probably always been.  Michelle's mother seems to have the same cold heart.  Jay clearly has no backbone.  Do Jay and Michelle have kids, God I hope not.

 

Jay and Michelle clearly deserve each other.

 

Jane, stay strong and just move on with your life.

I watched part 1 and wanted to say something, but at the end Dr. Phil finally said something I thought he should have said sooner.  The mother was interupting anyone that wasn't on her side and was allowed to continiously interupt the others.  I was proud to see at the end Dr Phil said to her what he did.  So far on part 2 the Mother says I have done nothing before, during or after the last show.  We'll when did God give up his seat in heaven to her?  Only God is perfect.  Anyone who acts as if they've done no wrong, is the big problem in the wrong.  My ex was the same way, so I've seen that for years.  Both are wrong and both are adults, but if the son disagrees with the Mother than the mother should look at it as well, maybe I have done something since my son is against me".  If she believes that she raised her son right than why would she think her son would side with his wife instead of trying to safe their relationship.  My ex also said all the right things to make him look good and the others look bad and to convince me that he was sincere in changing, but when it came down to it, it was just hot air for temporary gain.  The rest of the family I can guarantee is only listening to one side of the situation and negating the rest.  That is typical of most families though.  It doesn't sound as if the rest of the family wants to really help.  I wish both the best because they will need it.  No person is perfect and no conflict has only 1 maker and 1 solver.  (I can't think of the right word to use right now, so I hope you get it).

I can't believe how that couple has treated the mother. Jay is gonna wish he had been nicer to his mom as soon as his divorce goes through. Anyone that can treat family like that will never be happy in their own lives. The bride is a spoiled brat and she needs to grow up. It seems like the bride gets her attitude from her own mother. Looks like the apple didn't fall far from the tree here.