Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

Yes, mom might not be right in things she said or done. but hey we all do things and say things that are wrong. But I really think the wife has alot to do with it. Like the frist show. I sat and watch how Jay said nothing, and wife said it all. How she rolled her eyes. Let me tell the mother of the bride. You really should look back on how you brought this child up, and did you do the same thing to your hubbys mother. Apple don't fall far from the tree, sorry but just the way I feel. Jay wake up smell the coffee. if you where my child and acked like that to me. I wouldn't try. you lay in your bed, you make it

As I've said before, I think the thing that everyone is overlooking is how good-looking the bride is, and how great her body is. I think everyone defending the mother has to take this into account and re-examine their position.

 I CANNOT BELIEVE THAT THIS SO CALLED SON  IS REALLY STILL AGAINST HIS MOTHER, HE IS A SPOILED BRAT, AND KNOWS NOTHING ABOUT R-E-S-P-E-C-T.     THIS IS MOSTLY ALL HIS FAULT FOR NOT RESPECTING HIS MOTHER RIGHT OR WRONG SHE IS HIS MOTHER AND AT LEAST DESERVES THAT RESPECT. HE SOUNDS LIKE A CHILD WELL SHE SAID SHE DID SHE  SHE SHE,  WHAT ABOUT YOU?   STAND UP TO YOUR WIFE NOW AND  QUIT HIDING BEHIND HER. IF YOU WERE MY SON I WOULD NOT BE SO KIND.  AND I DO HAVE 2 SONS IF THEY EVER TREATED ME LIKE THAT ESPECIALLY ON TV. I WOULD REALLY HAVE NOTHING MORE TO DO WITH THEM.  I  WOULD BE ASHAMED OF HIM  AS  I AM FOR YOU. SHAME. AND THAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND OF THAT YOU CAN BE SURE SO LOOK OUT WHEN IT IS YOUR TURN BUDDY. I HAVE LIVED LONG ENOUGH TO SEE IT HAPPEN OVER AND OVER AND IT IS WORSE THAN WHAT YOU  DISHED OUT I HOPE YOU GET IT BACK 10 FOLD.  NOW  YOU CAN GET ON WITH YOUR SORRY LIFE. 

I just have a question....why was the son's face blurred?   Is he too embarrassed by his wife's actions? 

JAY   YOU HAD BETTER BE  PERFECT!!!!  BECAUSE AS YOU CAN  SEE   YOUR   WIFE NEVER   FORGIVES  SO YOU  """WILL"""" BE RUNNING  BACK TO   MOM BEFORE THIS IS ALL OVER  GAWD WHAT A WHIMP   YOU ARE      YOU DISRESPECTABLE  EXCUSE FOR A SON  IF  YOU  ARE TRULY THAT WEAK  YOU DONT DESERVE TO  HAVE A MOTHER  AND I HOPE  YOU DONT HAVE TO LOOK DOWN  IN A CASKET  AT YOUR MOM   BEFORE  YOU CAN  SAY  ""MOM  I,M SO  VERY SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME"""  DO IT NOW BEFORE ITS TOO LATE  OK  NOW TRY  TREATING  YOUT MOTHRT IN LAW THE WAY YOUR MOTHER IS BEING TRATED   SEE HOW FAR  YOU GET---  GAWD  YOU,RE SOOOO WEAK

I am so fearful of this young couple having children until the bride grows up herself.  She just does not see that she is only thinking about herself and is laying track to rob her children of their grandmother in the future (and children need their grandmothers--both of them).  She is also creating a situation where her husband must choose between her and his mother.  She just does not get that ultimately she will be the loser in this.  She might win the battle to lose the war, so to speak.  The bride's mother also needs to read your books and learn to work as a combined family, not to just work to keep the situation as strifeful.  If she cannot get along with the other grandmother, the children are going to feel torn between the grandmothers and feel forced to choose sides.  I could write a book on what that does to the children---and children are usually too smart to play that game for long  and end up withdrawing as pawns as soon as they are able.  Yes, every one in this family has behaved in a way that they should be greatly ashamed.  What matters is where they go from here.   And as much as the mother has behaved badly, the bride needs to gain some awareness before she or the rest of the family can go forward  just how ugly she comes across.  I am sure she has some inner beauty, but none was evident on these 2 shows.  She comes across as a spoiled adolescent, willing to sacrifice the bigger picture for her own satisfaction.      I rarely describe someone so negatively, but she scored higher on my "I really dislike this person" than any other guest this past season.  Dr. Phil was kind to describe it as lack of graciousness.

I feel sorry for the mother-in-law.  It is obvious that the daughter-in-law is so selfish and immature that no matter what the mother-in-law does, it will never be enough for the daughter-in-law to have her in their lives.  The son needs to just speak up and tell his wife that he will have a relationship with his mother, and that she (his wife) can be a part of it as long as she can keep a respectful attitude when in his mother's presence.  It is all about respect for your elders.

 I am a divorced father of 3, and my former in-laws were tough, but when you have kids involved someome has to step up to the plate and be the hero.  Well...I have taken the high road the entire divorce process and to see this spoiled newlywed treat her Mother-in-Law that way.  The short of it is this...if you take the high road and eat crow despite how you feel healing begins in both parties...I know it because I have lived it...this is a maturity that this young woman does not get.  As for the Son...step up to the plate and do something...being loyal to your wife is one thing, but I can assure you that your co-workers and friends will disappear once they find that you are a wimp...and your children...well...when they see this show one day and they will be ashamed of your behavior and will be very spiteful regarding your actions. 

You all need to grow up!

Dr Phil,

  I am the mother of 3 grown sons, this show absolutly enraged me!  No matter what happens not one of my boys would allow any woman even a future bride to be so disrespectful to me.  Further more how does a son justify a woman making him choose between her and his mother. Michelle is a spoiled brat and yes I do believe she is a "bitch" , she behaved petty and childish and ungrateful. Who does she think raised that man that she chose to marry it was Jane! She taught him all of what it is Michelle fell in love with, she should give her that credit. 

As far as Jay is concerned well he get off scot free because he gets to hide behind his fuzzy dot and does not need to ever be exposed to anyone.  I understand his need to be anonamous for his job fine however he should defend his mother, the minute the trouble started he should have stiopped it. He should have been a man and stood up to his fiance. I watched this show with my 25,21 and 16 year old sons ( granted it was to appease me only) and there first reaction was that Michelle is a "bitch" and they would have "kicked her to the curb".  Jay was a coward and should show more respect  and loyalty to his Mother. Jane made mistakes we all do but the punishment does not fit the crime!  I feel for her and commend Jays uncle and bestman for standing up for Jane.  It is my belief that what you put out in the universe will come back to you.  I hope Michelle realizes what she has coming her way.  Jay, Jane is your mother bottom line you should grow up and show the respect to her. Jane my heart goes out to you if some shrew tried to destroy my relationship with my child I would fight for him to the end , so keep up your therepy and no that somewhere in his heart your son loves you. When Michelle divorces him one day and she will, because he see's the light some day and stops allowing her to drag him around by the nose. He will come back to you.  Accept him love him and thank God when Michelle is out of his life.  May you find peace in your heart.

Jay shame on you  I have a feeling you were raised better!  Michelle there are no words for a women like you, I only hope someday you have a son and this come back at you. Grow up you brat!

Grateful in NY for my sons loyalty and unconditonal love.

Did anyone think about what will happen if this marriage falls apart in a few years?  I am banking that this little gal is going to be quit a handfull for her husband once they are married.  Personalities change a bit after marriage.  Who will the husband go to when this happens, I hope not his mother? 

This matter should be between the mother and her son, this girl is very "I am all that".

This son is a disgrace to the many young men that do treat their mother with the utmost respect.  He seem s to do whatever the vicious little wife does.

Two people sharing one brain!!!