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Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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(Original Air Date: 11/27/07) Dr. Phil follows up with a family torn apart when the mother was banned from her only son’s wedding. The bride-to-be, Michelle, said she’d rather burn in hell than let her future mother-in-law, Jane, attend the ceremony, and her fiancé, Jay, stood behind her decision. This sent the entire family into a tailspin, with the best man resigning, the aunt disowning the groom and the wedding planner on alert to call 911 if Jane showed up. The big day has come and gone, and everyone returns to update Dr. Phil with the latest. Were they able to bury the hatchet before the wedding? Jane has gone through a rollercoaster of emotions, and Dr. Phil finds out what has her so mad at him, she even wrote him a scathing letter one week after her appearance. Has Jane done a 180-degree turn since? Has Michelle stopped her “campaign of hate mail” as Jane called it and opened up her arms to her husband’s mother? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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November 27, 2007, 2:06 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

I have been happily married for 19 years. My MIL died 5 years ago.  We were best  friends.  My mother is the only mother my husband has now.  Thank goodness we all love each other.  This DIL is in real trouble and doesn't even see it.  Sure her husband is on her side now, but one day his mother will be gone and he will see how much stupid time he wasted not being there for his mother.  His mother may not be perfect, but his wife isn't either.  The "happy" couple said they are not sure she is sincere with her apology and need more than words.  Well it has to start somewhere.  It usually starts with words.  How can she show them if they don't allow her into there lives?  Pretty difficult to do.  Dr. Phil said what comes around goes around.  Hopefully this couple will have a son.  One day he will fall in love and with a little bit of luck she will get to experience the same relationship with her future DIL that she currently has with her MIL.  That would be a real eye opener for her and I am sure she will wish she could have done things differently.  Hopefully she sees the light before it is to late. 
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:07 pm PST

WOW

WOW I can not believe what a ungrateful immature snot this ladies son is!!!!  And that thing he married man is he going to regret that, I only hope when Jane gets the phone call in about 18 months that he has kicked her to the curb that she has changed her number and lets him feel the hurt and rejection that Jane feels now.  That girls mother is another thing if my daughter acted like that I would disown her.  That girl is a bitch plain and simple the worst control freak I have ever seen. This was hard to watch because I think the best thing for all is if Jane does not speak contact I mean even if someone dies NO contact with those two at all let him find out what he has done and who he chose over his mom.  Believe me I have seen this in my own family , they will eventually see what they have done but let enough time go by or as I like to say give him the rope and he will hang himself.  I know this guy will deeply regret what he did and the sad thing is by not having his mother at the wedding he can never repair that not now not ever so what ever she did she can apologize and improve and move on but he will forever regret hurting her this way ,
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:07 pm PST

GROW UP

 I AM WATCHING THIS SHOW AND THIS IS A SAD SHOW THEY ARE NOT LETTING HER SAY I AM SORRY EVERY TIME SHE SAYS SOMETHING TO THEM THEY USE THE WORD   " BUT "  BUT YOU SAID THIS YOU SAID THAT WHEN YOU MARRY YOU MARRY THE FAMILY YES MOTHER IN-LAWS  SPEAK THERE MIND THIS GIRL NEEDS TO GROW UP I THINK THIS  YOUNG LADY NEEDS TO SEE HER NEW HUBBY'S MOM SIDE HOW WOULD HER MOTHER FELL IF HE DID NOT WANT HER  MOTHER AT THERE WEDDING SHE WOULD NOT BE MARRING HIM  SOMETIMES IN LIFE PEOPLE SAY WHAT IS ON THERE MIND IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT OH WILL TURN YOUR HEAD YOU CANT HATE SOME ONE FOR IT THAT IS  CRAZY !! THERE ARE MEN AND WOMEN FIGHTING FOR US AND THIS IS WHAT SHE FIGHTING OVER  STOP IT LIFE IS TO SHORT  SHUT UP AND LIVE A GOOD LIFE  YES THE MOM IS TO BLAME IN SOME OF IT BUT YOU BANNED HER FORM  YALL'S  WEDDING  YES NOT JUST YOUR WEDDING YOURS AND HIS WEDDING  I WOULD BE PISSED TO
 

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November 27, 2007, 2:08 pm PST

Nellie?????

So look at the eyes of the daughter in-law.  They say everything.  Cold-- BRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!  It's only 10 degrees out side and I'm guessing it's colder in her home.........
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:09 pm PST

I knew she looked familiar!

Quote From: momatwork108

The Bride reminded me of the mean blonde girl with banana curls on Little House On the Prairie!!!

You are absolutely right!  I knew she reminded me of someone.
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:10 pm PST

Got to agree..

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the mother in law is very manipulative. She was caught in a lie by Dr Phil, she tried the sympathy card again with her comment she got drunk for the first time since her son was born ( so it was her son and his wife's fault),ect....

She knows what she did and she knows what she said.........."I do not recall" is a politician's way out of a comment they said that was wrong, innapproriate.... She remembers all of it but she can not say it because that would mean she was wrong and some of that sympathy ( and the people who skipped the wedding as a show of support for her) would be found out wasn't deserved. She is jealous of her new daughter in law and although I personally do not know what road or path I would have taken it is some times self preservation that out weighs obligtion to toxic family members.   Michelle needs to put herself first against this toxic woman and personally for Michelle to say she is willing to even consider a second chance I think is commendable. For one of the happiest events of her life she had it over shadowed by a desperate, clingy, manipulative, bitter woman who did not feel she was the center of attention and it pissed her off. I do strongly warn Michelle though wait until you get pregnant ! HAHA that is where the real fun begins!! She has "rights" you know......................................be careful........................

And Dr Phil is right it is your husband's fight......................so he needs to put her in her place!

She will say everything to appear she has changed, I just did not see any sincerity I see a woman trying to get on the good side of the audience. I think Michelle is fearful she will get in good with them and get very close to cause trouble again. It is the husbands fight and he don't know how to do it in a why she can understand.

 

She needs to find a hot smoking guy of her own but her like is just so occupied with her son and his wife, have them chasing you finding out what is going on cause your life is so full and fun and rocking. Personally, if I were Michelle I would have postponed or moved on until he worked things out that is why they have premarital counseling you do marry the person's family and very rarely does it get better.

 

I agree with Michelle after someone who has behaved a certain way and has thought of her son as a possession I doubt it. Michelle should stay out of if so her husband can step up and resolve this. This seems to be an issue between them him wanting to be his own person and having his voice heard by her. It's not about Michelle it's about mother and son and his wife should be gracious but so should the mother since his wife is immature and not equipped to know how to deal with it.

 

It comes down to trust Mother thought Dr. Phil would get her the invite to her son's wedding or tell him to not get married. Jane has to let go and create a life for herself her son and his wife cannot be her life.

 
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November 27, 2007, 2:11 pm PST

Shame on Doc. Phil

I was shocked that Doctor Phil never said to Daughter In Law to get help also. I also felt Doctor Phil was very bias towards the Mother.

 

Who comes with a list of things that someone "Must Do" before forgivensss happens.

 

Doc. Phil never flinched when the girl said she got the flowers from Jane and cut them up into pieces and threw them in the garbage???? I really think the girl will NEVER let peace be in that family.

 

Doc. Phil did say to the boy to talk to his mother but he really think the "Wife" will let him?

 

That girl has anger issues....she also has no respect for any one.

 

Doc. Phil i hope you go and look at that show again and see that family has to get help ALL the way around and not just Jane. If not they are on a collision course for a life of hate.

 
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November 27, 2007, 2:11 pm PST

Spoiled Brat

I have been blessed with the most wonderful mother-in-law, who unfortunately we are losing very soon to lung cancer.  Jay and Michelle both need to grow up, but ultimately it is Jay that needs to grow a pair.  Michelle is clearly pulling the strings and acting like a spoiled brat.  It is clear that Jane is the only one who is trying to better herself and mend the rift between the family. 
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:11 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

The bride said that her husband feels the way he wants to feel. If this is so, then the issues are between him and his mother and she should stay out of it. She shouldn't be involved. She is very immature. She is trying to control the situation and her husband. Today she was so angry she was shaking. Even the hairs on her head were shaking! I don't think she knows what Dr Phil means when he says her actions are unbecoming. He means that pretty is as pretty does and she is making herself ugly. Her inner spirit is ugly and controlling. Her mother should be ashamed of her behavior. She would behave this way towards any mother in law she had. Sad, but nothing will change until she grows up.
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:11 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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You must be related to the Bride.
You can't achknowledge the mother in law was caught in lies? That she used the politician's way forgetting things she said...................have to make a silly comment. No I am not related to the bride, but if I were I would have gone to the wedding and supported her magical day.
 
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