Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

I am a mother of two sons and I had a mother in law alot worse than Ms. Jane and I never treated her the way this son  & DIL are treating Jane, and I never woud.  I have a thing called morals and respect for my husband whom I have been married to 30 years and disrepecting his Mother would be disrespecing him. No matter how I was treated.  And in turn he would not disrepect my parents.

I am sitting here wiping the tears away from this story.  I really believe the bride and groom both are totally out of line on this one.  To be banned from her only son's wedding???  Give me a break.  Where is this girl's conscious???  How can the groom live with himself????  I was always taught that you are to treat your elders with respect, you may not always agree with them, but you treat them with respect.  What has happened to that in this country with our younger generation...That bride sat up there with a smirk on her face as if she wasn't a bit interested in what the mother-in-law had to say, but yet mother in law was trying the best she knew how.  Change for us all is not easy.  Welcoming another into our family is not always easy.  For some it may be easier, but it definitely is a challenge for this family.  Work with the tools you have.  Find one good thing to like about each other.  Bride's mom--how would you feel if you were the one banned for something you said or did, but yet you sit up there like your poor daughter has been abused in some way.  She's a spoiled brat. I recently lost my mom to cancer.  And I see you arguing about this and I'm just riled....one day you will regret.  Dr. Phil, you're right what goes around comes around eventually....I can see in Jane's case, it'll take everything she's got to stay focused on giving this little flamingo everything she wants when she wants it.

    Your son would have to have to had over his body parts to the most hateful person he has ever known, watch her place them in the blender, and give them a thorough grinding.  There aren't many women that meet these requirements.

I am a mother of two sons and I had a mother in law alot worse than Ms. Jane and I never treated her the way this son  & DIL are treating Jane, and I never woud.  I have a thing called morals and respect for my husband whom I have been married to 30 years and disrepecting his Mother would be disrespecing him. No matter how I was treated.  And in turn he would not disrepect my parents.

I am a mother of two sons and I had a mother in law alot worse than Ms. Jane and I never treated her the way this son  & DIL are treating Jane, and I never woud.  I have a thing called morals and respect for my husband whom I have been married to 30 years and disrepecting his Mother would be disrespecing him. No matter how I was treated.  And in turn he would not disrepect my parents.

I just recently lost my 21 year old son in a tragic work related accident.  He was my only child.  To see a mother and her son in this type of turmoil saddens me.  We are never promised tomorrow.  There is no greater asset than family.

I must say I am quite impressed with Jane's behavior today. Her demeanor from the last show to today's is night and day. I was not in the least bit impressed with her last time. I thought she was rude and crass, with an "in your face" attitude. I felt bad for the son and Michelle, and thought that Jane was a bitter, hateful, and altogether miserable person.

Today, I was really impressed with her progress. She didn't interrupt even one time, she kept her emotions in check, and her demeanor was so calm. What a turnaround she has made. It is obvious she is making more than a concerted effort to make the necessary changes. This time Michelle acted like a petulant brat, I don't think she nor Jay have availed themselvs to the tools Dr. Phil provided them.

I definitely think Jay should reach out to his mother, and I think that the rest of the family should stay out of it.

I can honestly say that I have never seen Dr. Phil quite so off the mark as he was on these shows. He gives lip service to support of the mother and gives this couple a complete pass on their own behvavior. Taking them to task for a lack of "graciousness" is a pitiful poor excuse for holding them accountable for their own behavior.

Michelle does not want reconcilliation with her mother-in-law, and her verbal and nonverbal communication reveal that to even the most casual of observers.  She wants to "win' and she intends to keep the wedge between mother and son indefinitely. 

Her (own) mother is just as guilty as she is.

Someday she will have children of her own, possibly sons.  She may live to regret her spoiled and childish behavior.