Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

Jane should now walk away. Dil is never going to let her have a relationship with her son.

My heart felt such pain, physical pain. That poor lady . Did you not hear how the audience felt. Jay is deserving for all he gets from now on. I am a mil and I answer when they call, we are here if they need us for whatever  and they keep in touch as do our Grandchildren . At age 7, and 5 they call us and we talk to the other 2, love our Grandchildren to distraction. We are appreciated for the love we give and given respect.

Jane was hurt originally and has lashed out but hurt causes you to do silly things, There is NO forgiveness in mrs perky dil.  If she treated me like that ...my son would no longer have a Mother. I would disown him.

He is not thinking with his brain at the present. Her Mother had to agree , think what her life would be like if she crossed that daughter !!!!!!!!!!

Weddings are about Love and Honor.  Honor is not about being right but doing right.  If a person loves their husand it seems to me that they would honor their husband.  Honoring your husband is not about putting their mother down to lift yourself up. Honor is about doing your part no matter what their mother is doing in a place of love and confidence.

Honor is about rising above the circumstance and situation and having character.  I saw no honor in either of Jay or Michelle. How can wedding vows be keep with no honor?

The DIL in this show is psychotic.  The real issue is the son.  Shame on him.  If he was really a "grownup" he would not feel threatened by his mother's overbearing love.  He would gently handle her reluctance to let go, as he knows he is in charge.  He seems not to understand that in treating his mother so shabbily his wife is disrepecting him too.  If any of my  4 sons allowed  and participated in this behavior they would not have to worry about seeing me.   I would want to be blameless in the inevitable destruction of their union.

This show has confirmed my observation that this generation of brides have made a decision to best the prospective MILs.  Each of my sons' girlfriends felt a need to replace me in my sons lives.  I have never had a confrontation with any of them, but they feel a need to best me.  They seemed not to notice that my goal was for them to marry.  I am a practicing Christian, and know that it is God's plan that they leave & cleave.  

My MIL made it clear that I was not her choice for her son, and disrespected me on many occasions.  There was nothing she did that caused me to  return that disrespect as I loved my husband too much.  Rather than rejecting her advice, I sought it.  She finally realized that I was in fact good for her son, and we became closer.   

The bride is to blame she is so childish and I lbelieve she is blocking the relationship between her husband and his mother and that is wrong and that is the bottom line.  The Bride is at fault and her attitude is so nasty and she the one who needs counseling. 

I know the mother in law on this show is no angel, I agree she oversstepped some boundaries. Michelle on the other hand, with her sour look the entire show, needs to get off her high horse. I see that marriage ending in divorce because of her need to be right all the time. The MIL was correct, once things are settled with her who will Michelle move on to...her husband. Nothing seems to satisfy her. She needs to control th4e situation and I truly believe she is pushing her husband to dismiss his mother. I would love to see a follow up in about a year to see if this marriage is still intact.

This bride is an incredible brat..This was the first time that I had to turn off the Dr Phil show.,.I couldn't stomach the treatment of this woman..she is trying to change and they just go over and over the past..And seeing the behaviour of this bride..I would want to slap her too..I cant believe Dr Phil let this go on.....And the husband is just a brat too..Dr Phil did have one thing right..there are 2 different loves..one for a wife and one for a mom....Terrible terrible girl...he will find it out as the years go on

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I love the Dr. Phil show.  I try to catch it every day.  I have been entranced with yesterday's and today's show.  I thought for sure that Dr. Phil would come down harder on Jane's son.  He seems to let his young "Cockey" bride dictate his life.  How could anyone let someone treat their own mother the way he sits back and lets her be treated.  Then he says "we" all the time as if he doesn't have a mind of his own.  I would like to see what happens to this marriage in a year . . . if, in  fact,he does have a backbone.  (Jay being only 22 . . I can promise that he has a lot of growing up to do. Michelle also seems like a braty high school "plastics" kid.)

We can argue and say things about our parents or kids . . . . but let someone else mistreat them and we'd be all over that person. 

I feel sad for Jane.  Yes, she's made serious mistakes . . .  but her heart has been broken by the way her son and his girl friend have treated her. 

I feel very sorry for Michelle.  The older I get the more the statement "You'll live to regret it", is so true.  I do abelieve this will come back and bite her.  I also think if Jay has a heart at all . . . he's going to be very sorry that he let Michelle convince him to do this to his mother.

I hope Jay can grow up and step in and keep his wife from hurting his mom and ruining the relationship for all of them.  I really think Dr. Phil should have come down much harder on him.  I don't think he got it al all.