Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

Hey, I'm a daughter in law too, however, I feel extremely sorry for the mother in law. This daughter in law is hell on wheels, and her son is a triffling, wimp.  He seems to go along with everything his wife does and blames his mother for all the trouble.  What kind of man is going to let his fiance cuss his mother out, call her names and post garbage about her on a website? I mean, get real.  He should be ashamed to come on national television and actually admit that he lets his wife do this to his mother.

I have two brothers, and it would be a cold day in hell before they would let their fiance cuss out our mother and disrespect her. 

I do hope you read all the emails and see that you are hurting YOURSELF and YOUR BELOVED.

I don't care for my mother in law, but SHE or MY husb. will NEVER know that.

She GAVE my husb life, for that ALONE, I owe her.

I wish you luck, but you need to stop and ask yourself how would you feel IF YOUR HUSB> HATED YOUR MOTHER!

I believe that Jane will have to  move on with her life without her son.  Michelle will never allow HER husband to have a relationship with his mother.  The only way a relationship will happen is if/(when) Jay

realizes he has got an immature and selfish wife and opts for a divorce.  Personally, I think they deserve one another. After seeing how they( Michelle and Jay) deal with life situations, I pray they don't have children.  One of the many traits needed to be a parent  is flexibility.........Michelle is too self centered and inflexible.  I can't even imagine this couple in  a divorce situation with children being involved. 

I can not believe the way Michelle behaved on the show.  Dr. Phil you should have really let her have it.  The son is even worse because he is so whipped, he won't even defend the woman who gave birth to him and raised him.  I have 3 sons and I don't think I could have personally resisted getting up and smacking Michelle across the face in anger for her even not allowing me to see my son get married.  But I would say to Janice, don't worry dear, you WILL see him get married, but next time it will be to someone respectable and descent.  You know this guy can't possibly stay married to her for too long.  If Janice brought him up the right way, he will come to his senses and realize what a manipulating little bitch he is married to.  As for her mother, I would be ashamed of my daughter for harboring such hatred.  Here, Janice is swallowing her pride and apologizing and Michelle is just sitting there with that smerk on her face.  Her Barbie doll look won't last forever, so she needs to get a personality.  Personally, I think she is just loving being in control of a man, who basically is acting like a child.  I hide my face to if I were him.......I am so sorry for his mother.  her son needs to grow up and stop taking her for granted.  I wouldn't treat my enemies like he is treating his mother.  Keep that blurr on his face, maybe next time he should wear a bag.....

Michelle speaks for both with "we" alot, if her hubby had a set he would get a grip on that post haste....in the words of the good doctor..with a little local humor injected..."if they'll do it with you they'll do it too you", it may have been intended different but it fits just the same.  Jay, you are less than a man if you let your "wife" speak for you and come between you and the woman who gave you life. You need to be prepared to be treated the same way if, heaven forbid, you two actually have children. The world is round for a reason and the "goes around, comes around.....kharma?" and all that come to mind. Michelle appears to be in control and described perfectly by the term "childish brat", which is actually an understatement.

You should all be ashamed.

Dr. Phil didn't work his magic on this show in part one or part two.  Why does Jane have to be the only one doing work here?  I feel like because Jane is the loudest she got all the blame.  I don't even know what she did to make them want to disassociate with her in the first place.  Good grief, when did the name calling begin?  Why?  Was it because Jane was trying to impart her wisdom to them and the new bride didn't want her input so she cut her out?  That's what it sounds like.  Boundaries usually get drawn over time when a couple starts out there was no reason to be so drastic.  This whole family, the girl, and her mother as well as Jay and some of Jane's family are a bunch of over reactors.  Although, I do agree with Jane's family.  I'd be reactive too if someone was keeping me from the son I raised.  How would that bride's mom like it if the shoe was on the other foot.  I bet she'd be promoting forgiveness then instead of saying "it looks like manipulation to me". 

I am sorry but it would be very hard for anyone to have the amount of self-control that even Jane has shown in this situation.  I too would have probably blown my top.

Jay is not going to be happy with this woman.  It is too bad he can't see that now like so many can see.  If she truly loved Jay she wouldn't do this to him and put a rift in the family. 

I really loved it when Jay said they could start with "one phone call a month".  That was a priceless little gem and a jagged little pill for Jane I am sure.  She showed great restraint just after that comment.  I hope that Jane sees how slow this process is going to be given what her own son says to her.  I hope Jane will get the counseling she needs to get through this disappointment with her son, the rejection she is getting from him and the coldness from his wife who is blocking their relationship like a NFC linebacker.  It is really sad.  I hope Jane finds joy in other areas of her life because as long as this little number is part of the family she is going to suck the joy out of it.  Trust me, we had our own version of this drama and we weren't going to go to the wedding either, but I think our bride wanted the gifts too badly.

I think the main person with a problem  here is Jay.  He married a person of poor character who seeks to hurt those who she disagrees with.  A mature person can disagree without having to hurt others and can still maintain contact with them.  Clearly, this girl has not grown up.  My God, did I hear she has a child already on the first show.  That just proves you don't have to have any qualifications to be a parent.  Apparently, Jay has very low standards for a wife too.

It's very sad.  I was very sad after the first show because it was a reminder of how the problems with my brother started.  My brother made a lot of wrong choices that all started with the woman he married.