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Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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(Original Air Date: 11/27/07) Dr. Phil follows up with a family torn apart when the mother was banned from her only son’s wedding. The bride-to-be, Michelle, said she’d rather burn in hell than let her future mother-in-law, Jane, attend the ceremony, and her fiancé, Jay, stood behind her decision. This sent the entire family into a tailspin, with the best man resigning, the aunt disowning the groom and the wedding planner on alert to call 911 if Jane showed up. The big day has come and gone, and everyone returns to update Dr. Phil with the latest. Were they able to bury the hatchet before the wedding? Jane has gone through a rollercoaster of emotions, and Dr. Phil finds out what has her so mad at him, she even wrote him a scathing letter one week after her appearance. Has Jane done a 180-degree turn since? Has Michelle stopped her “campaign of hate mail” as Jane called it and opened up her arms to her husband’s mother? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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November 27, 2007, 2:34 pm PST

Don't look too close...

If you step back just a little it's easy to see that the gentleman in this show has married a woman EXACTLY  like his mother.  She's spiteful and cruel and never will let go of the axes she's grinding over all the past troubles.  I think she wants the man all to herself as badly as the mother did.  In a tug of war the one who gets hurt is the son and he'll come to resent his wife as much as he did his mother in the past.  Michelle's behavior is petty and immature.  How about a show five years from now to know how long they stayed together and, if they part, how horribly she treats her husband.  Seems like once Michelle has something against you there's no fixing it....you're the enemy for life.
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:35 pm PST

Wow! What's Up with Blondie??

 I know mama' s got a few screws loose, but something is REALLY screwed up about this daughter-in-law.  Her attitude and and the ways she speaks -- she has made herself physically UGLY!  Also, husband is totally whipped.  Goldie Locks, mama is nuts.  Ignore her or deal with it, but for yourself while you're still young, Goldie, GET SOME THERAPY!!!
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:35 pm PST

REALLY?

Ive watched the first show and Im currently watching the second part right now. I havent seen any reason why either side is mad at each other. I personally think its a waste of time and they look really foolish on national tv arguing their stupid "so called points". They need to get lives and move on. But thats just the common sense approach.
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:35 pm PST

Dr. Phil, Michelle is like a whole season alone

This Michelle person could be a whole season of Dr. P.  She has a lot of issues.  I saw fear in her eyes when her husband spoke and when her MIL didn't over-react to the statements made.  Dr. Phil is not picking up on what a nut job, control-freak unhealthy controlling wench Michelle is.  A lot of us see it in the viewing audience though. 

 

Is Dr. Phil snowed by her appearance too.  Is he not talking tough with her because she is cute and looks delicate?  I've seen Dr. P come down on pretty girls before.  I think Dr. P is being manipulated by Michelle.  By the end of the show he said a few things about her not being gracious, but that was really not alot.  Besides when Dr. P says things about the mom may die I am sure Michelle is wishing for that to happen soon.

 

Also, my parents taught me and I teach my kids that to roll your eyes is rude.  It also makes an otherwise pretty Michelle look like Mrs. Piggy. 

 
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November 27, 2007, 2:36 pm PST

Some women are just mean!

I had a mother-in-law who did her best to ruin my marriage...it was a very painful part of my young life.  I married at 19 (and no, I was not pregnant); I was naive and unprepared for the evil, meanness of this woman.  She had two very different sides and I always got the bad one; unless there was an audience.  She was a pro at manipulation - in 21 years she only was caught twice. 

Give the girl a break!  When does age give the mother the right to hurt others and now she has been caught in her behavior...so, she conveniently is now doing the right thing. Dr. Phil didn't think the girl was being "gracious", where was "gracious" when the mother was name calling earlier?  As  a mother of daughters - I shudder to think of my response to that woman had that been my daughter! 

I still hate my children suffered through a painful divorce (their dad cheated, maybe learned deception from his mother)...but do not miss his mother.  I congratulate the young man on being strong enough to support

his wife! 

 
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November 27, 2007, 2:36 pm PST

The Son

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I feel it's time for the bride to grow up and consider her husband's feelings.  She will eventually regret the way she is treating his mother and not allowing her to have a relationship with them.  The mother is just as wrong at what she has been doing and it's time she cut the apron strings and allow her son to live his own life.  If both the bride and the mother would do these things they could have a wonderful relationship of enjoying each other.  I dread to think of what it will be like if and when children are brought into this union.

This boy man has no feelings.  His feelings are only his control freaks wife's feelings.  He is a spoiled brat and is marrying the biggest bitch on earth.  Good luck.

 

They will go on to produce kids just like them....kids that no one will be able to stand if they're like their Mother.

 

This girl is an all too true example of today's young woman.  Must control, must get rid of husband's parents, must get all the attention on herself.  I wish, Dr. Phil, that you would just one time, see what is going on.   His Mother is a person who is losing her son to a brat who you are allowing to win~~~!!.  Have some pity.  Can ya do that?

 
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November 27, 2007, 2:36 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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The MIL wrote a scathing letter to DR. PHIL?????  HA!  I didn't buy her "poor me" attitude then and her behavior on the show sure proved she was the problem!!   No wonder the son and DIL don't want her to be around.  Further proof that this lady needs to get some serious therapy. 

 

To the son.............GOOD FOR YOU FOR STANDING UP TO YOUR MOTHER!!!   That takes a lot of courage!!  I wish you a long and happy marriage!

 

btw......If that woman were my kids grandmother..........I wouldn't let her near them!!!!

Exactly.  I mean she did the same thing to Dr Phil that I am sure she does with her Daughter in law.  She feels threatened by someone, is angry at them or they don;t completely buy her act, she attacks them.  ANd then when called on it, she "has changed" or never said or did it.  Yeah, ok.  I guess that doesn't allow her to gain the sympathy she is going for if she comes off as an angry, raging woman.  Who knows, she may have changed this time, but somehow I think that she wised up and realized after watching the show that she made a complete fool of herself and made herself look like a raving "Wicked Witch" as she said, and did her best to not portray that this time around.  It is not until you have dealt with people with those personalities that you understand. 

 

Even still, I think it is time for Michelle to just disengage and detach from Jane.  Encourage her husband to have a relationship with his mother, even with the dysfunction, it's just not her place to be involved in their relationship with each other.  Do not let her drag you down into the mud with her.

 
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November 27, 2007, 2:36 pm PST

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Dr. Phil, you are were so correct to end with the reminder that none of us will live forever.  I can't imagine the permanent emotional damage, if one of them passed on with all this anger and unforgivingness in the air.  I believe the mother is truly realizing the COST of her actions but I doubt that the daughter in law will ever get to that place.  I say "Shame on the son".  I guess I am "old school" as my children lovingly say, but i was taught to respect my elders.   I was taught by my mother, that to get respect i had to first show it to others around me. Sadly, the son will have to deal with this for the rest of his life.  I pray that he will Man-up and work on restoring his relationship with his mother.  It is possible to be both a good husband and son.  Ironically enough, millions of men have successfully done it through out history.   The opposite will cost him more than he has to spend.
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:36 pm PST

Wife needs to shutup

Jay should not let a woman get between him and his mother. The mother does need to let him to be a man but his wife is needs to shut up and quit getting in between them. He only has one mother and that marriage isn't set in stone.
 
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November 27, 2007, 2:38 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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You are absolutely right!  I knew she reminded me of someone.
Wow, thanks, I just sat there thinking who does she remind me of....you hit the nail on the head.
 
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