Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

What's wrong with the son?  They blanked out his face.  Is he ashamed of the way he's treated his mother?  He should be!  He needs to be the one to smooth things over between his mother and wife.  What's wrong with him?  You can always tell how a man will be by the way he treats his mother.   I saw the MIL being calm and apologetic.  But the bride was very hostile and not happy with any apology she received.  Dr. Phil was right--she needs to learn to be more gracious.  She was very unbecoming on that show.  She should watch it over again and see the faces she makes!!!   I hope the MIL just backs off and lets them be.  I know that might be hard, but the son needs to make some amends to his mother.  And perhaps and new bride and groom should get some counseling themselves!

But, begin with the groom.  He is the key here, and he should never have allowed this to go this far.  He owes his wife loyalty, and his mother respect.  He is failing all around.

I am a mother in law, and was an honored guest in my son's weddings.  If it had been otherwise, I would have said "you won't be bothered with me until you grow up enough to see both points of view"

This mother in law was not wise.  But, neither was she the only one who was wrong.  It was obvious that the bride was establishing her 'power' also.  The letters she sent to her husband's mother in the first show, said exactly that..The darling bride did not give her prospective mother in law the respect she deserved as his mother, either.  If she had, things might have been much different.  And I repeat..the son/groom/boy was not doing his job.  He will probably live to see his mistakes, and heaven help him if he does not give in to the little wifey..hmmm...karma?  Could be. One day, they will have a little one, who will grow into an 'almost' man or woman, and they will understand a lot more about where Jane was coming from, I will warrant.

I would say to all three...Time passes so quickly.  Don't waste it.  You can't get it back, once it is gone.  Your hind-sight being 20/20 will not help then. 

And to Dr. Phil...I think your emphasis on just Jane, or Mostly Jane missed the mark here..just an opinion from an uneducated elder...

I hear Michelle keeps it in a jar-lol!!!!!!!

 I am giving so much credit to the mother in law. To be quite frank, i would have ripped her blonde

extensions right out of her smug head! it was so weird , i kept wanting to slap my TV screen.

what a betrayal on the sons part!!!!!!   

you are supposed to respect and love and revere your mom always.....not until you find a piece of tail

when she sent the flowers, she should have sent the squirt kind.

it is so very true that you reap what you sow!

sooooo michele get ready baby ...cause yours is comin

I watched both episodes. In part two, Dr. Phil was close to some major breakthroughs until the son said "but". The son does not understand that he has toxic exposure to his vindictive wife and that she is tainting his perception of things. His bride talks too much and does not let him speak much.

Doctor Phil is completely correct when he says the daughter-in-law is not gracious enough. The audience applause shows that they agree. The son and the mother need to work this out without the bride around. Once it is worked out, then the son has to put his foot down and explain to his bride that he will not tolerate her immature behavior in regards to his mother.  

I always treated my mom as if she was a queen and she passed away three months ago. That means I have virtually no regrets as I know I was the best son I could be. Had she passed away under the circumstances I witnessed on the show, I would never have been able to forgive myself. Some advice for the son, I hope he reads this, is that your mother will not live as long as you may believe. Get it done now and be firm with your less than gracious bride. She is immature brat and needs those tough words to grow up. As Doctor Phil and all of us witnessed, your bride is a pretty tough to shut up. She is too opinionated and too wordy, not forgiving enough and somewhat clueless. Good luck with your marriage, I think it is going to be a rough ride with someone that unforgiving and clueless. One more thing, grow a backbone and be a man.  

Michelle needs to know that a good way to predict how your husband will treat you when the honeymoon is over, is to watch how he treats his mother.  You will have earned it. 

Michelle, you have absolutely no class.