Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

Why didn't you ask your boyfriend to tell his mom that he was getting married the very next week?

Did you tell your family ahead of time?

I agree with most of the comments here, that the DIL is one of the most hateful, spitefull, immature and disrespectful people to grace Dr. Phil's stage. I think the MIL should walk away and let her son learn his own leasons in life. He will be knocking at he door in record time I'd bet to tell her she was right about Michelle. Without her MIL to focus on I'd bet she will start to tell her husband what all his flaws are too. The MIL won't ever be able to make this girl happy unless she just stays out of thier lives, Michelle has no interest in make amends. Why would she? This way she gets to be right and have Jay all to herself. The MIL said on the first show that he was whipped, this is your classic whipped scenario. I'd bet Michelle is the prettiest girl to even look at this guy and now he'll do anything to keep her happy. To hell with his family and friends because he thinks she's the best he can get. She'll pop a few kids then probably leave him for someone with more money. I pray they don't have kids, no child deserves her as a mother, she has no conscence or soul.

 

For those who will say the MIL is no saint, your right. Not all MIL are loving or even likable but most of us with an ounce of maturity grin and bare it because we dont want to make the men we love choose or there be bad blood. This girl wants to fight over the MIL forwarding mail, how immature can you be?

 

allow me to say..WHERE ARE THE DADS of these people? I am thinking that jays mom, has sacrificed alot in her life to give her son a good life. Since i do not know where the dad is ..i am going to jump in and say..she is probably lonely feeling..as when one gets older companionship is important in ones life, and he found a girl, because i just cant classify her as anything but. He is in love..and has left his mother, alone, in lieu of some blonde bimbo. i have had many mothers-in-law (s), say things..and i just say..ok.thank you for the advice, the gestures, or whatever and do what i please anyway.  and Michelle, she seems incredibly plastic, and i have to say...i am sure jays mother missed nothing in the farce of a wedding her son, shared with this disrespectful girl. Because you can believe..that she married jay..just to get at his mother..once again. I do not believe for one moment, this marriage will last. It cant under such circumstances. I believe michelle..wanted to marry him so bad..to "get his mother" in the "i will be right"..before you will war..she continues to wage. so his mother missed nothing in not going to that wedding..within 5  years..i see divorce, already. And if jay hasn't heard this before..blood is thicker than water..who are you going to go to when your marriage falls apart? The mother you have forsaken..for that bimbo disrespectful wife you took. and guess what..your mother will be there for you, not your bimbo wife..or her family..when it falls apart, and it will, it will be your mother whom is there to catch you, because mothers do not stop loving.. life is short..and i cannot fathom how a man could want a girl with so  much venom..in them..and hatred.  i believe jay had been greatly influenced by michelle in his disrespect to his mother. i also feel like jay is an adult, and should never allow someone to malign his mother, and he should have handled it. And michelles mother and father..should have popped her in her mouth..more often when she was younger, for being so disrespectful..i do not believe disrespect is a habit learned overnight..it is taught as a child. And i find the apples never fall far from the trees. that is a  core of what is wrong with our children today..no respect..for anyone..least of all their own family and /or parents. It is always sad to me to see families torn usunder, due to things..that could have been let go.  Michelle is selfish, self centered, disrespectful, and plastic,,but soon..i am sure..jay will see the light of that in the coming years. i understand the mother..interferred..but hey..be an adult...say ok..and do as you damn well please.  I will say a silent prayer..for them all., and i hope they open their eyes..before it is to late.

I am so disappointed in Dr. Phil's handling of both of these shows. I wanted to write the first time after he was so hard on Jane. I thought for sure today he would put Jay and Michelle in their place. I can't believe he made that chart. I thought it was bordering on cruel and solely meant to humiliate Jane. So what if her feelings were a rollercoaster, she came to a point where she realized she needed to make changes and she is working hard at making them. That is where Dr. Phil should have picked up. I don't understand why he was still so hostile towards her. Jay needed to be held accountable for the fact that he should not have let this situation get so out of hand. It is pathetic the way Jay allowed this woman to treat his mother. He should have stepped in a long time ago. I don't care what she has done, she is still his mother. Listening to how mean spirited and smug Michelle is was disgusting and I can't figure out why Dr. Phil put up with it. Kudos to Jane for her apology. It was very well worded and sincere, but unfortunately it doesn't matter what she says her son and his wife aren't interested. I cannot fathom preventing someone's mother from attending their child's wedding. Truly sad. Unfortunately, one day Jay will be the one poisoned by his wife's venom.

Goldilocks will never get along with her mother-in-law no matter how much she improves because she has to be always right.  The marriage should never have occurred because they are both so IMMATURE.  To think that they are going to be bringing children in this world who will learn to hate like they do is criminal.  Both of them should be spayed and neutered.  Michelle acts like a vicious dog.  I hope that everyone who sees her on the street rolls their eyes at her--that was really attractive Michelle.  Way to go.

 

The mother-in-law turned out to be the hero in this story.  Even if you never have a relationship with your son or daughter-in-law, you should continue your therapy and get on with your life.  Your son is not a man, he is a little boy who is controlled by a vicious little bitch.  Some day he will leave her, and come to realize that you were the hero.  No one will want to be with Michelle.  She is nothing but a rattle snake.

 

Michelle, you totally looked the fool.  Jay, you are close behind.  I applaud the 2 men who did not attend the wedding.  They saw things for what there were.

  i think you misinterpreted my post, I was commenting on a story another women posted about how awful her MIL was to her and her husband.  That MIL refused to have anything to do with the son and DIL which is just the oppisite of what Jane wanted. 

 

I definitely DO NOT HAVE  any compassion for Michelle and her dim-witted husband

 The only thing it shows is that Michelle struck a huge nerve with a lot of people and got them REALLY riled up.  The problem isn't that people were terribly riled up, it's that Michelle's behavior was so disgusting that it RILED EVERYBODY UP.

Put the blame where it is deserved.

i am so upset with the whole thing!  michelle needs to understand that is his mother not an ex girlfriend!! and how jay allows his wife to disrespect his mother is so strange.  jane does not have to like michelle but she must  have respect and except her for her sons sake if she really loves him .and no way should she have been excluded from the wedding how could jay do that to his mother he must know how bad he hurt her it was his wedding as much as it was michelle's . jay and his mother can have a relationship that does not include michelle . my daughter and her husband have a wonderful relationship even though her father does not like or acknowledge her marriage to her husband my daughter continues her relationship with her father as long as he does not talk about her husband and her husband does not bad mouth her father and they are just fine with that sometimes thats just how it has to be. i hope they can fix this problem and i am so glad they turned to Dr.Phil for help he is the right man for the job!

I do believe you have a right to express your opinion but what is coming across
is your bitterness in a bad relationship as you describe.
Misery loves company but it does not provide good medicine.
Heed some advice from this scenario rather than commiserate with the blonde beotch. 
Would you want a wimp for a husband who can easily dispose of 'blood'?  Michelle
doesnt have to have a relaitonship with her mother in law.  Jay can elect to see
her or talk to her without Michelle.. that woudl be a positive beginning. 
Maybe it would for you as well.  No one says you have to become tight and best buds..
just talking on the phone could be enough or exchanging a letter, card or note.
 Reiterating the past opens old wounds, getting past them
and moving forward renders more healing for your own sanity.  By the way, i never heard of a band aid stopping profuse bleeding.  Wrap it up...get on with it. ... grow, learn, put the trivial stuff aside.. does it really matter? It is the bigger person who reaps the reward.  Small people with small minds render NO rewards.