Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

Today is the first time I have ever written on one of these message boards. I posted a message earlier and now after reading more there something else I want to say.

Dr. Phil seem to take the position that Michelle is right and won the fight. Jane is in the wrong in his opinion. (which i don't think is right on this one) Usually I think the Dr. is right on every time but he missed  the boat on this one. JANE DIFINATLEY CAME BACK THE HERO IN THIS SHOW AND MICHELLE SHOWED US HER SAME BRAT COLORS

Does he really think that Jane is that powerful of a person. That she could talk her whole family into believing that Michelle is evil if it wasn't true. No disrespect meant for Jane, but she does not come off to me like the kind of person who could sell and igloo to an Eskimo. Maybe on the first show she might have appeared to have a lot of anger and been able to bully one into buying one but, not a lot of persuasion.

I really feel for Jane she has been taking the Dr.'s advice and trying to improve herself. Shame on Phil for not giving her more credit. I think that the Dr. should have come down on Jay and Michelle harder. What happened to all the talk of how important family (grandparents, parents) are.

How childish of Michelle to cut up the flowers. What a Grown Up thing to do.

Michelle was sooooooooo smug through both shows. Evil and Anger just streamed out of everything she said and did. Why didn't the Dr. say more about that!!! Instead of focusing on what Jane did or didn't say in the past. Jane admitted to saying dumb things and acting stupid. How about Michelle and Jay. What about all the things they said and did to Jane. WHO WOULD BAN THEIR MOTHER FROM THEIR OWN WEDDING. ESPECIALLY AN ONLY CHILD. THINK OF WHAT U TOOK FROM HER. Why wasn't anything said to them about the things that they have said and done wrong. Jane didn't come to the show with a list of things she wanted them to say or do before she thought of working on a relationship with them!!

No need to worry Jane I'm sure this marriage won't last long and maybe your son will find a nice girl and you can go to that wedding. Dr. wasn't supporting you, the vast majority of America is though. Sorry Phil u really missed the boat on this one.

So she wrote a scathing letter to Dr. P, he isn't God, it isn't blasphemy!  I agree with much of what Jane said about the show and Dr. Phil.  He was too hard on Jane and Jane is the only one doing work here.

Yes the kids are REACTING, but that is what Jane has been doing too.  They should all excuse each other's reactions (aside from barring family from the wedding that is a new low). And Jane tried to stop the cycle for the good of everyone involved, but Michelle is not ready to accept the apology.  I think if Michelle showed some grace here you'd see Jay fall in line right behind her.  He is afraid to feel anything other than what his outrageous wife tells him he should be feeling.

I'm all for standing up for your wife or fiance', but you do it with class and there is nothing classy about these two kids (and I'm talking about their behavior not the tatoos and piercings). 

Jays posture and mannerisms on the stage (can't see his face) do not suggest a happy person.  He looks reduced.  Maybe that is just me seeing an emasculated man there with his controlling puppeteer. 

His wife should be looking out for her husband's best interest and that would be to maintain a relationship with his mother and to have his family at the wedding. 

Respect is required for marriage and these two do not know what respect is.  A good book is Love and Respect ( a focus on the family book).  It's about Love and Respect and how the man needs respect and the woman needs love.  Really a great read and I suggest it for the couple or any couple.

I have family members like this who won't patch things up because they want to keep arguing about the day it all blew up.  I am the only person in my family who really still talks to everyone.  It stinks.  I'd like to tell them all to go to hell.  Their self-centered attitudes burden the rest of the family, which is basically me and my kids and my husband.  All this is is selfishness. I haven't told my family to go to hell, because I enjoy seeing them even though from time to time it is a test.  I am glad my kids know and love their great grandparents, their grandparents and their uncle and cousins.  They don't really know my brother's wife b/c she is always off doing her own thing (which is screwing around on my brother).

I have been very disappointed in my family, my mom, my grandparents, my aunt, my brother and his sorry excuse of a wife (they are divorcing-halleluja) for all the drama over the years.  My kids' birthdays, every holiday babtisms, etc. are all a friggin headache because of these disfunctional family members.  I feel like telling my family members we will have one b-day cake per child a year at my house at this time and show up or not.  We are not going to go from one grandparent's house to the others then to the great grandparents' and then to the kid party.   Every holiday is like this.  Because they don't talk we see them all separately because we want to see them all.  I feel like spending all holidays in a remote location away from WWIII. I'd like to lock my family in the Dr. Phil House and throw away the key. 

Family relationships are the hardest b/c we are ourselves around family.  We take off the mask and show our bad side once in a while.  While you shouldn't treat your family awful, there should be some safety at home and some forgiveness.