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Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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Created on : Tuesday, November 20, 2007, 06:04:42 pm
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(Original Air Date: 11/27/07) Dr. Phil follows up with a family torn apart when the mother was banned from her only son’s wedding. The bride-to-be, Michelle, said she’d rather burn in hell than let her future mother-in-law, Jane, attend the ceremony, and her fiancé, Jay, stood behind her decision. This sent the entire family into a tailspin, with the best man resigning, the aunt disowning the groom and the wedding planner on alert to call 911 if Jane showed up. The big day has come and gone, and everyone returns to update Dr. Phil with the latest. Were they able to bury the hatchet before the wedding? Jane has gone through a rollercoaster of emotions, and Dr. Phil finds out what has her so mad at him, she even wrote him a scathing letter one week after her appearance. Has Jane done a 180-degree turn since? Has Michelle stopped her “campaign of hate mail” as Jane called it and opened up her arms to her husband’s mother? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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December 1, 2007, 8:44 am PST

More heartache than it's worth?

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Donna,

 

Im really sorry that you do not have any family. Ill will be more glad to share mine with you.  ITs easy for you to sit back and say the things that you have said because obviously you havent had the experiences that some of us have had with our familes.  Just because these "people" are our family doesnt mean we have to have a relationship with them.  For example: I have a sister that is 55 years old and stole my mothers identity.  Yes,  it is called Identity Theft.  She shows no remorse for what she did. Now, because of this, I do not choose to have a realationship with her.  You cant trust these kind of people.  I have given her family money in time of need, and she has chosen to lie and steal and I do not feel like I will ever have a relationship with her ever again. So, until you have been in such a situation then I think you need to think again about wanting family.  Sometimes its more heartache  than its worth.

Donna,

I also am very sorry you don't have a family. I too would share my family with you!  Every family has heartaches.  Every family experiences trials and tribulation,  My family has also gone through some very unpleasant situations.  However, I would not trade them for the world.  We all learn something from these experiences that could help someone else in the same or similar situation.  It isn't always pleasant but I will always be grateful for all of my family members!  Unlike "wow," I could never  say it is more heartache than it's worth!  Family is everything! Name ANYONE in a family or NOT that has not had trials.  Having a family to fall back on for support and and unconditional love is a blessing!  I find I get much of  my strength from my family!  I thank God everyday for my family!

 
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December 1, 2007, 9:05 am PST

Time will tell

I believe over time no one will remember who said what to whom.  That's what happens.  There is already a level of confusion on it. What won't be forgotten is Mom not coming to the wedding.  In the end I think it will be Goldilocks and Jay remembered for their behavior and choices.  Actions speak louder than words.  And they wrote theirs in stone and I believe it will be hard to carry that rock.

 

Time will tell.

 

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December 1, 2007, 1:19 pm PST

Right On!

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One thing I haven't seen discussed here is:

 

I call you a name, you call me a name- Okay

 

You send me flowers when I say no contact- I cut them up- Okay

 

But what offense equals you don't get to come to your only child's wedding?

 

The size of this particular penalty is HUGE.  The lobs traded don't  and haven't added up for this.  And this is where Goldilocks's sees she's not going to win this round of the fight and pulls out the machine gun instead of the fly swatter and blasts away.

 

Totally overkill-buzz- foul

Well said!
 

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December 1, 2007, 1:22 pm PST

THEY CHOSE NOT TO

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I was disappointed that only Jane saw a therapist.  Michelle and Jay need to seek professional help too.  Then all three go together and get things straigtened out before any children are involved.
Counseling was kindly provided by the show for all 3 guests.  Jane was the only one to make the effort.
 
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December 1, 2007, 2:16 pm PST

this man needs to become a MAN

I think its amazing how much control this girl has over her husband.  I think she is a spoiled little brat that couldn't handle her husband having a relationship with his mother.  The fact that he does what she wants shows that he has no balls what so ever.  I feel bad for his mother.  She was not allowed at her only childs wedding because her son is that weak. 

On Part 2 of this show, it really seemed like this mother was trying and the other two were just waiting for it to be over.

I have personaly seen what controlling women can do. My brother is no longer the man he use to be because of the woman he has chosen.  All I can say to this mother is you might have to give up until he comes to his sences and grows his you know what back!

 
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December 1, 2007, 2:52 pm PST

Are you forgetting?

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Counseling was kindly provided by the show for all 3 guests.  Jane was the only one to make the effort.
Are you forgetting that the dil and son were alittle busy. Although no one seems to think it is important that Jay was making a huge leap for the rest of his life called marriage! I guess if the mom could not be there nothing can be special for the son. The son and dil were busy getting married and hopefully going on a honeymoon. Alittle too busy to go to counseling for the mil at that point. But I am pretty sure they will seek counseling at some point......................the mil has made it her purpose to involve  many other people and make it so nasty thay will have no choice if they ever want this situation to get better.  Jne went to counseling and although it is commendable............................she really needs it too!
 
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December 1, 2007, 2:58 pm PST

dil

When people on this board call the dil names, cute little nicknames and put down her face and hair.............I hope you know it is so apparent to others that you are jealous and insecure as well. It makes you look bad.............I wonder how many people on this board that are name calling, attacking physical attributes, attacking the dil and son's characters and ability to hold down jobs and saying that they will be awful parents ( based on little or no information) are in similar situations where some one is saying thay are over bearing controlling or have distanced them selves from them. Judging from some of the mean nasty and quite frankly childish posts I would venture to say quite a few of you are defending your selves in your posts.
 
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December 1, 2007, 5:18 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I see this marriage ending.  The bride is obviously spoiled and selfish.  I don't care what she claims on her defense, her attitude totally is out of line and will always be like that.  God help any children she has, they will be just like her.    Oh, maybe she will have a son and he will marry a B like her..  I can relate to the mom in this situation, Us as mom's can see trouble with a capital T.  And this girl is that T.  I hope when the son realizes his mom is part of his life he also realizes that mom's and wives are two seperate people and you can work with both, and take some time out to see his mom and talk to her if wifey doesn't like it so be it,, he is given one mother in this lifetime and once she is gone you can't go back and say I'm sorry mom.  shunning his mom was and is WRONG. 
THe girl DOEs have a child. She has a son, they briefly mentioned him on the 1st show. Jay is only 22 and I think she is younger, so obviously the first relationship didn't work out either.  No wonder, she is truly awful and I agree with everything you said.
 
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December 1, 2007, 5:30 pm PST

OMG

I just can not believe this girl. I think she is a snobby little brat. That woman gave birth and took care of the man she married and she shows no respect. They want the mother to say she is sorry for everything but that they should say nothing. His mother owes them nothing. And the son could not even show his face. Well I think he should be ashamed. I hope that he will learn his wife is jealous of his mother and that it is time to put her in her place. But to Michelle GROW UP !!!!!
 
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December 1, 2007, 5:54 pm PST

It's Sad

 Something isn't coming out here....a husband should support h is wife and let nothing come between his marriage..if someone is trying to sabotage it then he should back off...but is his nother really this bad that he cannot even talk to  the woman he has known all his life one on one and rather than do that stop all personal communications w/her...or is he a whimp and would sacrifice his relationship w/his mother instead of laying down some boundaries as a mediator for both of them...something is missing here, and I think he can supply more insight than he is..because REALLY HE  IS NO HELP WHATSOEVER EXCEPT TO KEEP IT, THE CONFUSION GOING....E m
 
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