Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

The info you are trying to provide would be of no value whatsoever to this young woman.  She was extremely and wickedly nasty to her fiance/husband's mother and no matter what the mom did, she had no interest in a relationship with her and did everything she could to successfully destroy the son's and mother's relationship, too.  Michelle was never poorly treated until the show - and although the show was a bit misleading and left out an enormous amount of information, you still should have been able to figure out that the young woman was/is the one in need of intervention, not the mother.

When you decide to get married, you are not only marrying that special someone, you are getting the whole family package!  Granted you may not agree or even have the same beliefs, but you have to find that common ground where you all love he same person and want to make his/her world complete.

I feel for Michelle, because I had an impossible mother-in-law too.  I did everything I could to keep the peace, and that also ment turning the other cheek.  I would not vent about my husband's mother to him, rather when I needed a outlet I would vent to a friend.  If I would've vented to my husband, he would've just gotten mad at her and put a worse strain on the relationship.  However, I felt for his sake and our children's sake that we needed to remain a family.  Sometimes I would bow out of his family events if things were too much for me to handle, but I never stopped him or the kids from going.

Four years ago, my mother-in-law passed away.  I can honestly say now that she is missed by all, including me.  I also understand her a little more now with a teenage son of my own.  The bond between mother and son is a strong one and if that bond is threatened, I can see how you would lash out and fight to protect it. 

The best advise I have for both Jane and Michelle now is to remember the golden rule...."Do to others as you would have them do to you." Putting yourself in the other person's shoes is sometimes hard to do, but no one likes to be cursed at and called names.....and my mom always taught me that 2 wrongs don't make it right!

I agree i dont think everyone should think that its the brides fault, i understand where the bride to be and the son are coming from,

my boyfriend and I had a simular situation with his mother, (although this mother wasnt half as bad as my boyfriends mother) i see where these two are coming from i dont blame them at all, this women is trying to make everyone feel bad for her i dont

dont get me wrong i dont think that the bride to be should be saying the things she should be saying, grow up and just ignore the women, leave it to the son to deal with her, the son should be dealing with the mother in how he sees fit, the bride to be shouldnt be yelling and telling the mother off and what not she should grow up and take a breath before answering this women, the bride to be should defently grow up and the son should be dealing with all of this.  

I have a mother-in -law. who has to know  what her 27 year old boy is doing at all time's. She has caused so many fright in our relationship. i have left at leased 20 time's But, we always got back together. Now we are happily married after her telling me I was just another  Pieces of ass for me and nothing else. He finely told her to stay out of our business.