Topic : 06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

Having two sons who are both married, I would like to express how it feels to be left out of certain things.  One daughter-in-law probably likes us (my husband and I) but really doesn't go out of her way to show it.  We get respect from her but that's as far as it goes.  The bridal shower was all the mother and daughter's plan.  I had to really put my foot down as to what I thought would be good luncheon food for the shower: a fish, a meat and a chicken.  They just wanted fish and/or chicken.  Mind you, I was paying for half the shower.  I had one request for the invitations with the bride's mother, but she decided that what we had agreed wouldn't work.  The kids wanted our names on the invitation.  It didn't matter what we had agreed on.  The kids didn't pay for the shower, the mothers did.  The cocktail hour is one of my son's favorite part of the wedding.  We offered to pay for anything extra my son wanted at the cocktail hour but we were told that there would be plenty of food already.  My daughter-in-law never showed us the save the date cards until they were mailed out.  I never was asked to go to a gown fitting and felt we were never really considered in anything.  We did pay for certain things for the wedding, but it really didn't seem to be appreciated at all by the bride or her mother.  When the kids bought an apartment, the mother was there to go shopping with the daughter.  I was never asked to put in my two cents.  When the kids were looking for a house, the mother and bride couldn't meet me at the house because they had to discuss something personal.  They would have time to talk on their way to the house.  I was coming from pa. and they were coming from NY.  They would have had at least 11/2 hours to talk.  The mother and daughter picked out baby furniture and my son told me about what they picked.  She never called me to tell me what they had picked.  They (mother and daughter) went and picked out furniture and the little odds and ends to go with the furniture.  I'm never asked to babysit during the week unless the mother (bride's mother) can't keep her standing date.  They plan months in advance when they will visit each other and when the family will get together.  My husband and I want the kids to feel free to come and go as they want and if they need us to babysit (after always saying please let us) we will.  We don't like to set dates where they have to come and visit.  I would like to tell my daughter-in-law that when she has a son, she might understand how it feels to be left out.  The other family is very, very tight.  I do believe the mother is controllilng and doesn't want any one else to have some of her daughter's love.  My son is a good guy and doesn't really see what's going on.  I don't want to start trouble.  I just wish that these daughters would put themselves in their mother-in-laws place and see how it feels to be put to one side when only their mother is good enough.

     that mother deserves a swift kick in the ass!!  she needs to get a life!!  obviously, you have never had in-law problems.  they are not fun!!! 

It's about time Michelle grew up. Obviously her husband loves her. But if she really loved him she would want him to have a relationship with his family. In-laws don't always get along, but there comes a time when you have to put it behind you and move on. You don't have to be best friends just try being civil, without the name calling and pettiness. You people sound like you're in junior high. GET OVER IT ALREADY!!!!

Amen

Thank goodness she is NOT my daughter-in-law! Let's see this "family"  a couple of years from now, He will probably have a leash around his neck. Jane everyone is at fault but, being a Mom I feel for you. Best of Luck! When he is divorced from Michelle YOU will be the one there for your son.

and jay is so spineless he can't even show his face.  to bad we can't all be as perfect as michelle and jay

     I have never ever seen such a psychotic mother-in-law!!  IT IS COMPLETELY HER FAULT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  She needs to get a life and anyone that agrees with her needs to do the same!!  You are sick!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think the husband has to be a man & stand up to his wife. This is where he should be confronting his mother if need be, his wife should keep her nose out of it. Obviously there has been alot of disagreement, But the I think the newlyweds have to remember..The topic was that you didnt want the mother to be @ the wedding!!!And was she????NO!!! Was your weddingday beautiful and everything you wanted it to be??? Yes!!! So grow up everyone suck up the past and move forward.Cheers to a new begining!!! My mother ruined my weddingday and I have forgiven but not forgotten..You have to remember you only live once and if something happens to your mother, of which you only have one of, its you that has to live with it for the rest of your life. I love my mother very much, my husband gets mad @ me for forgiving her, but its not his place. I deal  with my family and he will deal with  his family. So move forward and leave the past in the past. Its not fair to have family fighting all the time. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You should be greatful that your mother is seeking help with her emotions what has your wife done for hers (Nothing)

You must be related to the bride.... Because to not see that she is a spoiled self rightoues _____  is sad... This girl is crazy....... And her new husband is a wimp. He needs to stand up to his new wife cause I don't see them making it very long at all..... I just hope his mom forgives him for all this in a few years when he needs her because he is divorced.