I would like to talk to Mom. I had two children and I was a stay at home mother. I enjoyed my kids to the end. When school started summer vacation and other mothers dreaded having their children home all day, I looked forward to it. My husband traveled 9 states and it was just me and my children 5 days a week. We had fun together.
My daughter married first and it was a great wedding. I think that planning her wedding got me through the (what I perceived) lose of my daughter.My daughter and I were very close. We even went to college together for her first quarter. Then I graduated Later, I realized, this was not the case. We have a wonderful relationship with her and her husband.
My son, at the time of mydaughter's wedding, got a girl pregnant. Only 2 weeks after my daughter was married, the mother of my grandchild moved in. I never felt the empty nest syndrome that people told me to expect. . My grandson mother did not stick around. However, my grandson did. We helped my son raise my grandson for 3 ½ years. Then he met his wife.
When I see your daughter-in-law, I see mine. She does not want you in their lives. Maybe its because she feels that she is in composition with you for your sons love. There are some people that feel that people can only love one at a time. They dont believe that there are different kinds of love. She had to divide and concur to win his love. Now, she is not going to make any effort to reconcile . It is not in her best interest. She has been successful at putting a wedge between her husband and his mother and that is the way she wants it.
My daughter-in-law managed to do the same thing, and it work to an extent; however, he had a son too. After dividing us up, she trying to drive a wedge between him and his son. For a while it work. However, she went too far and put my grandson in a mental hospital saying she was afraid of him. The hospital told my son that the problem was his wife not his son. They are now split up, not divorced, but she is living back with her mother and father over a hundred miles away. The only problem is that there is another child. We havent seen our youngest grandson for almost a year. she will not let us. Everytime we sent up a time to visit, something comes up.
Dont hold out too much hope that things will get better unless you son will start to put a foot forward to help with the problem. He wont until he see her for what she really is. Hopefully there will not be any kids yet when he sees her this. The honeymoon will last anywhere up to 5 years. Then hell start to see her in her true light. then maybe he'll be willing to do something about it. If he doesn't and things don't change, some day, when you past on, he will never forgive himself for never seeing his wife for what she is; an unforgiving woman who could do the same to him (not forgive him for somthng that he says under anger) Sorry for you problems. I know how much it hurts.
(Original Air Date: 11/27/07) Dr. Phil follows up with a family torn apart when the mother was banned from her only son’s wedding. The bride-to-be, Michelle, said she’d rather burn in hell than let her future mother-in-law, Jane, attend the ceremony, and her fiancé, Jay, stood behind her decision. This sent the entire family into a tailspin, with the best man resigning, the aunt disowning the groom and the wedding planner on alert to call 911 if Jane showed up. The big day has come and gone, and everyone returns to update Dr. Phil with the latest. Were they able to bury the hatchet before the wedding? Jane has gone through a rollercoaster of emotions, and Dr. Phil finds out what has her so mad at him, she even wrote him a scathing letter one week after her appearance. Has Jane done a 180-degree turn since? Has Michelle stopped her “campaign of hate mail” as Jane called it and opened up her arms to her husband’s mother? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
