Topic : 12/03 Shocking Teen Trends

My title says it all.  I DVRed this show, as I do most of the time.  I was just watching it, I had to stop.  It was so disturbing to me.  I have seen this happen a couple of times in my area.  I live out in the country, so I probably don't witness it as much as others who live in a more populated area.  The question  I would have for Dr. Phil, if he doesn't already address my question in the unwatched portion, would be what can we as citizens who are in harms way do when we see something like this.  I have in the past called the police on my cell phone and gave info like the cars description, direction of travel and so on.  I would always hope the police would try to track them down.

 

As a mother, I always point out idiots to my girls who are driving on the road with us, and explain what they should be doing instead.  So if you live in the Elkhart, Indiana area, I am watching out for you bozos who think you are invinsible.  I pray for all of our safety.

Nothing will ever make this situation "right" for your friend or for the people he affected with his selfish actions, but he did take responsibility for what he did and he's trying to right a wrong the best way he can.  I too admire him for that.

You, by appreciating him and his experience, are a friend worth his weight in gold.  Blessings to ya!

 I think seeing that mangled wheel-chair was the wake-up call Dominic and Justin needed. It was still stupid of Dominic's mother that Dr Phil had to tell her what she should've done. She should've already known. I think Dominic and Justin have sense enough to quit street racing. What really pisses me off? All the idiot teens on this message board who refuse to quit. The whole rotten lot ought to have stupid branded on their foreheads.

I have a teenage daughter. Straight A student in honor classes. She is an athelete 20 hours a week, after school and on weekends.  Doesn't do drugs or drink alcohol. Has lots of friends. Loves her family. She is a good girl.....and she's addicted to the internet and worse.

 

I knew she was writing stories on a site for fan fiction. Made up stories about famous characters like the ones in Harry Potter or High School Musical. You write a chapter and post it and folks can read your story and review it. She wants to be a writer when she grows up and so I let her do it. She is so well balanced I didn't police her much. I know how to check things out on the internet and on my computer which is exclusively the one she would use for the internet.

 

Last year I bought her a laptop for school work and to write on. What I didn't know is that from her berdroom she can pick up a neighbors internet access for free. She started out innocently enough but there are predators everywhere and eventually one of her reviewers sent her an email and befriended her. This older woman liked my daughters writing and really started to encourage her. She sent my daughter her own stories and they were something called SLASH. Apparently SLASH is written male pornography (SMUT is the female counter part) written using famous characters from tv shows, movies, books- you name it. I say pornography because it was not just homosexuality-it was degrading and demeaning. This woman sent my daughter stories with incest, rape, torture, you name it. Then she encouraged my daughter to try and write some herself. She even "helped" her to write it.  My daughter knew it was wrong and it started to make her sick. She started to act strange and was constantly in her room. This woman also introduced my daughter to "role playing (rp)" . Each person pretends to be a character and they role play it out. Sometimes innocently and sometimes not. Mostly not. There are tons of websites for this.

 

I finally got the hint and found her on the internet in the privacy of her own room.

 

I have taken her computer away. I have erased all the bad stories she had a hand in writing off the internet. I changed all the passwords to all her accounts, email, etc. I sit in the room with her while she does her homework.

 

She cries. She tells me she doesn't want to read or write bad stuff anymore but she feels so drawn to it. She feels like some of the other fanfiction writers are her friends and she misses them. She wants to keep posting stories, love stories. She likes the feed back from other folks. I am torn because I want her to write. I want her to be happy. But internet addiction is real. The danger is real as well.

 

I asked her why she would even try to write stuff like that. She told me she is frustrated (sexually) and stressed out (school). She says the sex stuff is everywhere. Everywhere she looks. She felt that writing about it would not be a big deal. It quickly got out of hand. The more she read, the more she would write.

 

I've cried-more than I can tell you. I haven't told anyone else about this especially her DAD. She is his little girl and it would change things forever for them both. I am going to try and go this alone.

 

When I saw this show I had hoped Dr Phil could give even more advice. I need MORE ADVICE DR PHIL! This is a huge problem with teens. She wanted a MYSPACE in the worst way and I gave in. Soon she got bored with that. Then it was Facebook. I don't think it's as simple as taking away the computer or tracking them. All their friends have computers. You can go to your local library and visit any site you want. There are no restrictions. You can open a new Yahoo email acct from any computer in about 2 minutes. The kids are brilliant these days and can do an end run around a parent in a heartbeat.

 

My daughter is a good girl who was manipulated by a bad person on the internet but my daughter has her own free will. She ultimately has to learn to make decisions for herself.  I know I need to be there to guide her and not to suffocate her. The Mother Tiger in me wants to make everything all better. That is not reality. We have to deal with each day as it comes.

 

Keep a mindful eye. If it doesn't look right, or feel right, it probably isn't. There are predators and bad people everywhere and no one is who they say they are on the internet...except for maybe Dr Phil.

 

Please Dr Phil, do more stories like this one. It is so important. I have given my daughter all the tools she needed to grow up being a normal, healthy, moral person but I couldn't keep the vultures off her.

 

I pray it's not too late.

I dont understand what is wrong with these stupid kids who think that it is ok to race on the streets my family and i drive on with our kids! Then Dominic sits up there all cocky saying he knows how to race and that Nick Hogan wrecked because he didnt know how to race saying you arent supposed to spin your tires.  What does that have to do with anything? Was that supposed to justify why you and your crappy eclipse  should be able to race other idiots on public roads? It doesnt matter how safe you think the road is, a car could come, a kid could run out in the road, an animal could run in the road! Take that racing crap to the track, where it IS safe! I dont know why these kids get these soupped cars and feel the need to race. I have a 2006 pontiac GTO which believe me is WAY more powerful than their little 4 and 6 bangers. And you know what I always have these kids in 'ricers' pull up revving their engine wanting to race! I just smile and take off really slow. I dont race my car and its made too. The sad part is these cars have like 3 or 4 other kids in them too! When my kids start driving they will not be speeding or being stupid or i will take away their car! That is what these other parents need to do. Perhaps drivers ed needs to show real life videos of accidents caused by this...

Too bad nobody enforces this unless they are caught, or worse they get in an accident.

I took some time reading some of the post on here, Seems like there is a lot of hate of street racing. Yes it is a bad thing to act apon on. Racing where there is people walking, people driving to work, school or just getting to point A to point B. Indangering other just for some fun. If you want to have fun take it to a local Race Track and do what ever you want there and you don't have to indanger other life. Race tracks are safer with following medical personals standing by for accdents.

I think the teen should think for themself  "not just looking at a part of a painting but a whole painting" you are an adult and if you get in to a accdent you can't depend on your perants to get you out of it. They can't hold your hand forever. If you end up killing someone the police can take it in as an "assault with a deadly weapon" and the D.A can do what ever he/she feel like in the law book.

The teens from there Generation are in a world of games and fantasy. If they die from a game they can hit the restart button and have a second go at it. Fantasy and movies are in the same group because it is fantasy beliving who they want to be, if they want to be the Man of Steel, they are and try to take a bullet head on, thats if they can and live to tell about it. They don't think the long road "what if" this or that will happen to me, what will my parents will do to me, or my life ahead of me.

Myself was a teen not too long ago. When thinking back on some of the things that I did was pretty stupid, but for myself I never street race. I have seen other that have done it and it is not the greatest of things to do. I have been socalizing with older goup of people. So i'm seen the light of things of what to do and dont's.

Just to add a final thought to this. the male human race love to show off there maness, from history the biggest: swords, kingdom, etc. In modern time that is not much to show off about so i would take it cars is on thing. showing off who have the biggest cock. My car is a bit work on and its not meant to be race like some new report saying "it have been race modify".

Thanks for bringing up being pissed at the mom of the streetcar racing.  I too kept shouting at her:  Worried about your son!!!???   What about the innocents, one death of a person can have devasting effects on many more people. 

     Wow your son is hanging with this bunch?  They don't even have a clue.  Even if you think you are on a secluded country road doing this how can they still be 100% sure its ok?  Doesn't mean a deer or other wildlife couldn't step out and cause a terrible accident.  And there is always a chance of there possibly being a innocent unexpected driver on the same road.  I mean come on guys it isn't that expensive to take it to a track anyway, if you have such nice fast cars that you can put expensive parts on I really don't see why you would complain about paying to race legally.  And as far as the website n a s t y r a c i n g . n e t   should be shut down,  they plan street racing and threaten people,  they already have a post about this story that was aired on Monday, you should see what they say about it,  very cruel, cold hearted people,  one person even says its a good thing the boy didn't hit a healthy person.    How cruel can someone be?  That was a horrible thing to say.

As I sat in my living room watching those boys, in all of their immaturity, boast of how fast they can make their cars go I was ready to rip my hair out.  I was glad when Dr. Phil finally spoke to them of stock car racing as I believe that this is where they need to channel their passion and desire.  My husband, back in his teen days, also had the desire to see how far he could push his '78 Camaro LT, and after we married at the ages of 23 & 24, he sold his car to purchase a more logical family car.  That didnt mean he lost his desire for speed, he just realized how foolish it was to satisfy his need for speed on public highways where he was putting innocent lives at risk....so....he purchased a race car and has been racing for the last 16 years.  With 3 points championships, countless feature and special event wins, he has raced his way to the top of his class.  With a greater understanding of the importance of safety and the impact that the driver of a vehicle has on others, he is now the most cautious driver you could ever come across and it now scares him to remember how negligent he once was.  To those in their youth I say, "channel your passion for speed to a racetrack where people will actually pay to watch you exhibit your talent and skill, it will be so much more rewarding."