Last night I went to a play. My friend finally gave into her life-long desire to be an actor in community theater. Right before the play she started trembling and shaking. She did this during the first few minutes, botched a couple of lines, and then calmed down and was fine. I believe that Erin had a case of stage fright, and it took her a little bit to get that under control. I do not believe she was that afraid of her husband. Now...this is my opinion of these two.
My take is that these are two spoiled kids who made a baby. He probably got "the talk" from his parents about being a man and doing the right thing. She is a spoiled little brat who never lifted a finger to do anything. She acts like a child because she was treated like a child. His parents probably didn't want him to marry her because she is so immature, but he wanted to "do the right thing" and she thought playing house would be fun. She is obviously too immature to consistantly use birth control, and was probably very pampered during pregnancy, and that was fun. People do what they do as long as it works, and it worked for a while. He, because he is a kid, got tired and frustrated because he wanted to be a kid. She is so spoiled that she sat around everyday waiting for somebody to come and clean her room just like they did at home. This pissed him off even more. They fight. She doesn't want to go to work so she won't even get a driver's license. He finally gets old enough to drink and likes it. His 50 "affairs" over five years are just one night stands. He has not had 50 love affairs...he's just screwing around. She thinks it seems like fun so she does it too. When things get boring around the house ,which is no fun anymore because those cute little babies are now walking around creating even more havoc, she gets pissed and starts fighting with him. She is confrontational and hits him. He thinks hitting her back is what he is supposed to do, because that's what little kids do....blame and hit each other. It's a vicious cycle. This is what happens when little kids get married. It stunts their maturation process. Mom and dad aren't around to call them on their behavior. She finally gets mad and goes home to mama. As she says things at her parents house are not so good. Her parents are probably pulling their hair out. Now they have four babies to take care of. I believe this is where they are.
In response to some comments on this board: Rev Jakes is right. Marriage is for grown people. He gives an interesting perspective and I like him. Yes, I believe the girl got off easy. I believe she is a huge part of this cycle. He is a self-righteous kid, she is a perpetual baby. It is all very sad. She will be happy for a little while because she got to be on tv. He will follow through with his therapy...she won't. It will be too hard for her.
Thanks. I'll bet all of you will be happy when I recover from my surgery, go back to work, and quit writing these drug-induced rambles. lol
Physical and verbal abuse, a cheating spouse … what are the deal-breakers in your marriage? Dr. Phil talks to a couple on the verge of breaking up, and he has help from Bishop T.D. Jakes, renowned pastor and author of Reposition Yourself. Anthoney says he cheated on his wife, Erin, many times and admits to being verbally abusive during their five-year marriage. He said his wife moved across the country with their three children and recently stopped returning his phone calls. Erin says she still loves her husband but will only take him back if he's a changed man. Anthoney claims that he's gotten his life back on track, but can he be trusted? Can this family reunite, or should they just call it quits? Join the discussion.
