Topic : 12/06 Desperate to Be a Mom

Seeing Robin and you Dr.Phil talk about the joy you get from your children was heartwarmig.Children are really a joy and my children are the greatest gift God has ever given me.I really with all the couples from today's show luck and hope their dreams come true.

The famous comments from people who have never dealt with infertility!  Of course adoption is an option...everyone knows it...it doesn't even need to be suggested.   But infertility is a long hard road...and just throwing out a "solution" is truly an ignorant statement.  A person doesn't just jump from being infertile to adopting...there are many emotional hurdles they must get through first...not the least of which is excepting that you will never have a biological child of your own.  Oh...and adoption laws around the country are changing making even that option so much more difficult.

Dr. Phil...your guest wasn't the only one who cringed when you told her she needs to relax!!  Yes...of course being able to relax when you are faced with the possibility that you may never have the child you are so desparate for would be ideal...but anyone who has been through it knows it is virtually impossible!!

I personally have been through 6 iuis...and 4 IVFs and am fortunate to have two beautiful children to show for our efforts!  It was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with...phyisically, emotionally, and financially.!

I can't believe the selfishness of  these wives - especially the first one.   Why would you want to risk a happy marriage and risk having a husband who will only end up resenting you for something that you thnk you want?     Why is the husband always the one who's supposed to make the sacrifice? 

Dr. Phil, today I think you are dropping the ball. You are only taking the sides of these women wanting babies but when you tell a man who worries about the financial situation they could end up in, while his wife is willing to put them in the poor house to have a baby. The reason I feel you have dropped the ball today is the fact that any psychologist knows there can be undue stresses on marriages from heavy debt load as well and I think more marriages break up due to the stresses of debt than fertility issues.

I think you should be showing both sides because some of us just have to wake up and smell the coffee and accept that children will not be a part of their lives, or at least not by having their own. What about discussing adoption which is a more economically feasible choice and gives a solution to a child who will need parents. There were so many other angles I think you should have touched on in this show when talking to this couple. Instead I think you put all the responsibility and blame on this guy who loves his wife but is also mature enough to see the long run as well.

I hope you can see that you are not only an entertainer in the fact of television, but some people listen to shows such as this and get the wrong impression, passably feeling that thinking out economical future isn't important as long as they get what they want, even if turns out to be a crap shoot. You need to be a little more responsible and show more angles and sides than you did today when dealing with topics like this. I think you let your emotions get in the way of your advice today.