Topic : 12/06 Desperate to Be a Mom

An old saying

"if the woman isn't happy then nobody is happy"

Not that I entirely agree with that but it is funny and most of the time true.

I believe that if a woman wants to have a child and the husband does not then he should consider letting her have a baby. Marriage should be about love and compromise. If he loved her then he would want her to be happy. Same goes for the wife. It is something that they need to come to an agreement on one way or another and each one needs to take in consideration for the others feelings.

Your show on 12/6/2007 hit way too close to home.  My husband and I have been married for almost 13 years and have spent the past 7 years dealing with fertility issues.  Fortunately, we found a fabulous doctor close to home and have successfully carried and delivered 2 fabulous little girls.  However, we have done over a dozen procedures to have 2 successful pregnancies.  During the past 7 years it has been quite an emotional rollercoaster.  Our 2nd daughter was conceived via IVF and an egg donor.  We had decided this was the last time we were going to try IVF.  Our 1st IVF resulted in a positive pregnancy test and then at 7 1/2 weeks we discovered no fetal heartbeat had developed and the pregnancy had to be terminated.  It was devastating and I was fearful to try again.  After several months of prayer and deep discussion with my husband, we decided to try again.  The 2nd IVF was unsuccessful, but the third time was, as they say, "the charm".  Without the love and unconditional support of my husband I would have not have been able to go through all the appointments, procedures and injections.  My family tried quite hard to understand but unless one is going through it, one really can't fully comprehend.  Thank you for doing a show that highlights the difficulties of infertility and the need fo compassion during all the trials and tribulations. 

Michelle -  I have been there.  I was desparate for children 12+ years ago.  I was not aware at the time I started trying to have children that I had PCOS.  My cycles were never normal, unless I was on the pill.  I never thought much about it until I started trying to have children.  Now, I have 3. 

I have known about my PCOS for 8 years now.  I had 2 of my children after finding out about it.  My first child was by chance.  The chance that I was finally not stressing about having a baby, I had decided I was not ready to go through procedures, fertility did not work, so I moved on. Within 2 months I was pregnant.  The moral of that pregnancy is that STRESS has the biggest effect on PCOS.  Take a breather, I know it's hard, but you have to make your mind up to relax for a while.  My husband would tell me the same thing at the time,  I just didn't realize how I was feeling was affecting my body and ability to get pregnant.

Fast forward to the next 2 kids.  I found out about the PCO while trying for number 2.  I heard about Glucophage and went to convince my doctor I needed to try it.  If you haven't tried it, It worked within 2 months of starting it.  The 3rd child happened with Glucophage (Metformin) the first month we tried.  I stayed on the Metformin for about 5 more years after my last child.  It didn't seem to be working as well and the side affects were worsening.  I did some research and went off my medication. 

I am now taking 2000 mg of cinnamon per day, which helps control blood sugar levels,  1000 mg of Vitex per day which helps with the functioning of the Pituitary Gland, and I take 2000 mg of Fish Oil per day, PCO is an inflamatory disease and fish oil keeps the inflammation down.  These are suplements and I have never felt better.  There are no side affects and my mood swings have mostly evened out..  I am not a doctor -- I have been standing in your shoes and survived with 3 beautiful girls.

Best Wishes.

Aren't people allowed to change their mind?

what's more important......being pregnant or being a parent?

Iet's be honest, these extreme measures are not to afford an individual/couple with the opportunity to be a parent.  being a parent is so much bigger than pregnancy - and i can think of nothing more more beautiful than opening your heart and home to a child who will otherwise never know the love and security of a caring home.

Like many of you we were desperate to have a baby.  After conceiving a beautiful baby boy with no problems my husband and I decided to try for another baby.  11 long years of trying and many uncomfortable procedures received by my husband we had no luck.  We turned to another highly recommend doctor that put me on the first course of infertility treatment, Clomed.  After taking Clomed for only 1 month I woke up one morning to having yellow eyes.  From being completely healthy, never having ANY health issues to three weeks later in acute live failure, in a coma and waiting for a transplant.  I was luck only to wait 3 days and having received the Gift of Life on July 15, 2006 am somewhat back to a normal life.  Looking back I wish I would have been grateful for what I had and not always wanting more.  This experience has been very trying for our entire family and hope that you consider alternative.  I hope that you think about my case how very extreme it is. 

For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Jer. 29:11  I guess at that time I had my own plans and was not listening to his.  He put me in place very quickly.

The bright side of all of this is that our family is now considering adoption.  I can't believe we are out there trying again.  :)  An 11 year old and a baby... look out!!  :)

Please consider signing your drivers license to be an organ donor, but most important tell your family.