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Topic : 01/02 No Kidding New Year's Resolutions

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It's that time of year where we all take a long, hard look at our lives to see what's not working for us. Dr. Phil's guests say they desperately need to change unhealthy lifestyles or they might not make it to another year. Jill weighs 375 pounds and says she's afraid she'll die if she doesn't drop 210 pounds. Her friend, Cathi, says Jill is a miserable person, and she needs to stop making daily trips to McDonald's. Will Jill be able to put down the Big Mac and pick up some healthier eating habits? Dr. Phil has a drastic plan that will help her get on the right track. Then, Pam vows to quit smoking in 2008 but claims her husband, Eric, is one of the reasons she can't kick her 22-year addiction. Pam says she can't resist the urge to light up when he does. Will a recently discovered tumor be enough to make Pam kick the butts? And, Nyasha and Simone claim their sister, Victoria, has a toxic personality, and they're giving her an ultimatum: Get your act together or get gone! They say she curses, steals from relatives and starts fist fights with them in front of her kids. What's behind Victoria's bad behavior, and will she be able to change her angry ways before she alienates her family? Share your own New Year's resolutions and join the discussion.

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January 2, 2008, 4:06 pm CST

New Year Resolutions

  I had been smoking since I was 19 and I am now 67. Please tell Pam to ask her doctor about the medication Chantix.  I had tried the patch, gum, zyban. group hypnosis and private hypnosis.  I developed asthma when I was 39, and was on a nebulizer 4 times a day.  As soon as I was done doing a treatment, I would light up.  I was smoking almost 2 packs a day. I had heard about Chantix from a couple of friends who had quit by using it and they were heavy smokers. I got a prescription for it, along with 3 renewals for a total of a possible 12 weeks.  I started using the pills and within a week, I went from 2 packs to 3 cigarettes. Within 9 days, I was smoke free. All with no cravings what so ever.  I am now 10 months smoke free and can't believe how easy it was with Chantix.  I never needed 12 weeks. I only used the starter kit which is 3 weeks and then 2 weeks of the next month's renewal.  My husband also quit  in October and he only needed the starter kit. I'm sure Pam can make it with the help of Chantixsince Chantix blocks the absorbsion of the nicotine.

 

 
January 2, 2008, 4:14 pm CST

New Years Resolution

I am 5ft 4 and I weigh 420 pounds. My resolution is to lose weight. I am an emotional eater and I am extremly worried that I will fail. My husband bought me my exercise bike and weights so now it is up to me. I could really use an allie. Wish me luck and keep me in your prayers.

 

Rayleen

 
January 2, 2008, 4:40 pm CST

Something that made me uncomfortable today.

Maybe I misheard DrP today. When Jill said she had only read a few pages of his book, and said she was being "real", did he say to her "You're real big."? That's what I heard, and it made me uncomfortable. It didn't seem to bother Jill. I haven't read any of DrP's books, I may read them someday. I just haven't gotten around to it yet.
 
January 2, 2008, 4:50 pm CST

Stop smoking

I, too, had a stop-smoking problem. My then-spouse said he would quit with me, but would go out into the yard and mooch cigarettes from the neighbors.

What finally saved me was when I came across a group called "Smoke EndeRs".  they got me off smoking with the support I needed, and did it in six weeks without any subsitute drugs! Most important, it was gentle, non-invasive, and I did it myself, with their help. I haven't seen them around for a while, which is a shame.  Their system was that of habit breaking and retraining while gradually weaning away from Nicotine.  That was around 30 years ago, and I had been a 1-1/2 pack a day smoker for the previous 18 years. I have not had the urge to smoke since then, not even when stresses occur. They were a God-send!

 
January 2, 2008, 5:01 pm CST

01/02 No Kidding New Year's Resolutions

Quote From: shmigelz

I beleive a big reason alot of people are fat and overweight is because they have nothing to do all day. Either they are simply lazy and don't work or they choose not to work. So when people are bored they look for things to do, so why not eat for something to do?? It's true it happens! People eat because they are bored! because they have nothing to do....

 

Jill get a JOB? why not WORK? Get some structure in your day? find something to do so you can't think about food all the time, or just so you dont eat JUST for something to do! If your bored, don't have a job, don't have a job, you will simply eat to kill some time..

 

Jill is overweight because its the easy thing to do. Food doesn't say NO, food doesn't label you!!!!!

 

Jill is in a BIIIIIIIIG (no pun intended) hole.... She loves to eat, she eats just for something to do, she eats the absolute worst foods, I'll promise you she is depressed, lonely, sad, etc, etc. Im sure FOOD makes JILL happy, FOOD satisfies JILL even if only for a brief few moments.....

 

Jill is addicted to food for a wide variety of reasons. (She's bored, she does not work, so eating is doing something, food makes her less depressed, etc I could go on and on and on.) the signs are clear and visible.......

 

Jill needs MAJOR help, and thats assuming she even really wants to lose the 200+ pounds she added in what was it?? 1 YEAR!

 

Some people on here might say Im being hard on Jill but the reality is, and we can all see, shes harder on herself then any of us can ever be.. I don't know why she's laughing while shes up on stage. This is not a joke. Infact the only joke her, and Jill knows this, is the jokes the people who see her out in public make at her and Im sure does not like them....

 

But then again HOW can someone gain 200+ pounds in 1 year?? WOW! I mean that is a massive amount of weight for a woman to gain, let alone a man.....

 

 

 

 It's a nice theory, that people who are overweight have nothing to do all day, but that would be wrong for a lot of people.  Matter of fact, most of the overweight people I know are BUSY all day.  So busy, they do not have time to sit an enjoy a meal, and forget they even HAD lunch, so they grab something else, or are getting something at a fast food joint while running from their job to pick up little Becky to take her to soccer then grabbing Johnny from school and dropping him at home then running back to their job to finish the last two hours of their day.  This is men AND women.  They cannot be using their lunch hours for excercise or lunch, since they are running household errands or getting their kids to or from somewhere.  Single parent and two income households don't always have a lot of extra time.

And yeah, food doesn't tell you it's your own fault your fat, it doesn't look down at you because you shop at Wal-Mart instead of Saks Fifth Avenue, it doesn't say "just stop eating" as if it were that simple, because it isn't.  Is it a drug of choice?  You bet!  But guess what?  You don't get the option of just quitting EATING, like with other addictions.  The best you can do is cut out chocolate cake for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.  Or potato chips, or whatever other foods you are addicted to, but you still have to eat SOMETHING.  What happens to an addict when you give them the item they are addicted to?  They need more and more the the addictive item.  Everyday, a food addict STILL HAS TO EAT and not fall off the wagon. 

Anyone out there who is not fat and loves to run or play tennis or has any other habitual thing they do that they love, how would you like it if you were told YOU COULD NEVER DO THAT THING AGAIN because you are destroying your joints (or some other reason)?  Would that make you happy?  Would you say, "I'm going to stop doing something I LOVE and it's going to be so easy!  I'll just change my whole life around and I won't be crabby or anything!"

Once you get yourself in a habit, whatever it is, it ain't easy changing it.  You don't just pick up a set of knitting needles and say  "I'll just knit instead of eat." (works sometimes, though)  Anyone who says  "Just do something else, or just stop eating, or just go excercise."  just doesn't have a clue what it is like to be addicted to something that is considered bad for you.  (If you're addicted to something socially acceptable, no one will say anything)

So that is my two cents, as a person who has been on both sides of the fat/thin fence.  Excercise is what works for me, but when I'm stressed and there is no time for a walk, I still find myself looking for the chips.  It never goes away.
 
January 2, 2008, 5:19 pm CST

The battle can be won

I just want to pass this foot note to Pam and her husband.  This comes from a person who smoked for over 42 years.

 

For myself personally, I had been given the motivation seven years ago.  I had not had a heart attack, but I had to have corrective heart surgery and my specialist stated that it would help if I would give up smoking.

 

Two points that should be made is 1) I have always been physically active [cycling and runnnig],  2) I both smoked cigarettes as well as being a pipe smoker [a collection of carved pipes].

 

As was noted it is a long way of conflict within ones mind and body.  It took me about two years before, I won the battle within the whole.  For about two years [give or take a couple of months],  I knew that I had the cash in the pocket and I knew where my nearest supplier was located [the corner store].

 

So, to Pam and her family.  The battle may be on going for more then a few months, or like myself two years.

 

I do still have the hand carved pipes.  But, they are around as a form of art not as a piece of smoking equipment.  There replacement, retail value would be close to $1,800.

 

Last year, after being around for 63 years.  I purchased a hybrid bicycle [cross between a racing and mountain bike] for over $2,000., in all likelihood from money that I have saved over the year from not smoking.

 

Pam and all others who became addicted .... it can be done.

 
January 2, 2008, 5:33 pm CST

Hypnotherapy is the answer!!!!

Dr Phil needs to mention hypnotherapy to help with all of the issues that were on todays show. Hypnosis works with your subconscious mind which is 88% of your mind. We try to use our conscious mind---will power, logic---and it doesnt work in the long run. I realize that hypnotherapists are not licensed and that may be why he never mentions it. But if you want to make changes effectively you must work with the subconscious to reprogram your life.  He mentioned things that people need to do to make resolutions work but you need a therapist to help you understand how to do it. Hypnotherapy is the best way to do it!!! Find a good hypnotherapis in your area who can help you change your life.

 
January 2, 2008, 5:41 pm CST

I too, had to quit smoking

I had smoked for about 20 years -- just taking a wild guess. From the year 2004 to 2007 I suffered a series of physical problems -- something was found, I got treated, and two or three months down the road, something else came up. In March of 2007 I got up in the middle of the night. I felt so badly, that I decided to get dressed and take myself to the emergency center. I was diagnosed with lung cancer. What some people don't know is that cancer has no symptoms. And so, by the time mine was diagnosed, the tumor was about the size of a gulf ball and it had spread to the lymph nodes. I went into surgery, not really knowing what to expect. So, I was more than pleasantly surprised when the surgeon informed me that they had taken a part of my left lung, the tumor and the lymph nodes. In fact they got the cancer. I was lucky, no doubt about it. I received some chemotherapy but it caused me three different a-typical heart attacks and so they had to stop the chemotherapy.

 

My six month follow-up check-up shows I'm still cancer free. And for all I know I'll stay that way. When doctors tell you, you're cancer free and just go on with your life, it is of course, well meant, and it is, ideally, what needs to take place. But doing it takes some work. Trust me. There isn't a day I don't wake up wondering if I'll die of cancer or not.

 

Cigarettes are a curse and cancer is a beast. And what I'll want to say to you guest, is QUIT! QUIT! QUIT! no more excuses!

 

I am a fiction writer. I am 65 years old. My mother died at 85, my father is 93 and still going, there's no reason why I couldn't have another 20 productive years to write all the stories that live in my mind. But if cancer decided to come back next month, or next year, its over. And if I sound like I'm trying to scare somebody, well... I am.

 

Carmen

 
January 2, 2008, 6:01 pm CST

The Power of Prayer

I quit smoking 12 years ago.  I had smoked for 17 years and had tried everything to quit- gum, patches, supplements, hypnosis,etc.  What ended up helping me kick the habit for good was praying.  I was too afraid of failure to make a promise to God to quit cold turkey so I would offer up each craving that came my way.  I would say "I will not have this cigarette for you."  I would offer it up as a prayer for people that I had promised to pray for.  I offered it up for myself and my own health.  It is worth a try-  If He can run the world He can certainly help you quit smoking.

 

Surviving one terrible craving after another is what adds up to success.

 
January 2, 2008, 7:47 pm CST

NO MORE SMOKING

Quote From: fietkau2

Hi

I sure like to see this one on Wednesday on quitting smoking, I use to smoke myself and I know how hard it is to quit. So I said to myself that I was just going to quit buying the cigrattes and I have been smoke free for 11 years now and the day that I quite my Husband quite as well and we both feel great  since then I have never had the erge,  which is a good sign . Dr. Phil , we hope that you can help this lady to quite it would be the best thing that ever happened

 

see you on Wednesday at 4:00

H Wilson

Thanks for the encouraging success story I hope I can have the same one with my husband 11 years from now. I remember when I started i said to myself  "I wont ever say Ive smoked more than 10 years" Now I have passed it by a few years and dont want to say "another day let alone a year". 

christy

 
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