Topic : 03/28 When to Call it Quits

ks02, no, his wife Jeni is NOT a GREAT Person at all in my view.  She is a controller who has decided to control your friend, Jeremy, as well as her own food intake.  Jeni is someone who obviously grew up in a family of secrets, who tended to do anything but admit there were problems.  Even on the show, her sister talked about the "elephant nobody wanted to" acknowledge.  Jeni isn't the only dysfunctional one.  I guarantee it has to do with her family of origin, and now she is just acting how she grew up and learned to act.

Sorry but I can't see how you deduced that this woman was a GREAT person.  She is a great "fronter" and "mask-wearer" as most if not all anorexics and bpd people tend to be in my experience.

I pray that they both get help and that Jeremy finds a good 12 step program and church to help him.

Statements like "no wonder she's anorexic" are very unhealthy.

It gives people with eating disorders (or any other addiction or destructive pattern of behaviour) an excuse to keep doing what they are doing.

NOBODY in Jenni's family can behave in a way that will fix her eating disorder. They didnt cause it, they cant control it, and they cant cure it. That is something Jenni herself is going to have to step up to the plate and do.

mommajulie, how can you say that Jeni's family didn't cause her disorder?  I can 99/100% of the time, guarantee that a person with anorexia, narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, etc, were abused in some way and it was either covered up by the family, not dealt with properly, or in some way, that person went through abuse, neglect or star-child treatment.  It's a pattern and it repeats with different names and faces, but almost to a TEE that's how it works.

her family DID cause her disorder most likely or some sort of trauma in her life did.  To leave them off scott free when it was clear that they were blameshifting and covering up things, is ludicrous!

How is it that, the fact that, this guy brings home NOTHING while she works 2 jobs was just a blurb??? 

Did any clip show him ACTUALLY doing anything to help in the home?  Every clip seemed to show  HER cleaning, cooking...

Maybe..........just maybe that's why she has an eating disorder (or it is exasperated)  and why she seems so intense.  She's completely stressed out, and hubby is sitting there putting on the innocent face.

Yes, I know this is a re-run.  I was just as taken back this time as when I saw it the first time.

  Why is the pressure this guy is dumping on his wife is barely acknowledged?????

Shari, did you try to click on the "CONTACT DR. PHIL" button at the top of the web page?That's a different, more direct way to contact him, rather than these message boards.

Good luck!

      Jeni was very upset.  She wanted to flee the stage at one point.  I can understand why.  It must have hurt her deeply.  Being told you are abusing your children by winning your public fights with your husband is as awful a thing as can happen to any woman.

      Dr. Phil meant to be harder on Jeremy.  He couldn't.  Jeni would not allow that.  Twice in the program, Dr. Phil had to remind her that Jeremy's turn would come.  She simply could not stop herself from interrupting Dr. Phil, complaining that Jeremy was not getting enough blame.  (There was plenty of blame in that situation to go around)