Topic : 01/15 Internet Mistakes

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Created on : Friday, January 11, 2008, 01:03:06 pm
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Girls dancing on bars half-naked, passed out on the beach, hugging the porcelain … these are photos posted for all to see on the Web site Facebook, in a group called Thirty Reasons a Girl Should Call it a Night. These shocking and provocative pictures are supposedly submitted by the women in the photos themselves. The women say they love to have fun, and this is a way to bond with other girls just like them. But are there unforeseen consequences to letting the public behold you at your worst? Dr. Phil speaks with women on both sides of this debate. Jasmine is the moderator for the group Thirty Reasons and says, although she’s responsible for taking down questionable photos, she hasn’t found one yet! Amanda and Norma are incensed that women would degrade themselves in this way. Hear from the president of a company who uses Web sites like Facebook and MySpace to weed out potential employees. Could documenting your good time on the Internet become your biggest regret? Then, a teen who loves to drink says criticism of Thirty Reasons just reinforces the double standard of gender inequality. What do Dr. Phil and the teen’s mother think? Plus, a mayor’s sexy photo has her town’s residents outraged. And, meet a substitute teacher who says he was unfairly fired from his job two times for what’s on his MySpace page. Share your thoughts here.

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January 18, 2008, 2:44 pm PST

01/15 Internet Mistakes

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Mary is a young girl with a lot of problems, she is not the anitchrist. IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO SEE THESE PICTURES DONT LOOK AT THEM!!! So if the way you act in your own private time demonstrates how you are going to act on your job, lets all remember our president was doing cocaine in his younger years!! So maybe if he would have taken pictures of this and posted it on a web sight we could all have known he lacked in judgement skills and wouldnt be at war and in a recission!!!
The difference is...he DIDN'T post any compromising pictures of himself anywhere....Mary DID. Bush kept his private life private...Mary isn't.
 
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January 18, 2008, 2:47 pm PST

Jenny

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Mary is a young girl with a lot of problems, she is not the anitchrist. IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO SEE THESE PICTURES DONT LOOK AT THEM!!! So if the way you act in your own private time demonstrates how you are going to act on your job, lets all remember our president was doing cocaine in his younger years!! So maybe if he would have taken pictures of this and posted it on a web sight we could all have known he lacked in judgement skills and wouldnt be at war and in a recission!!!

Mary made the choice to display her stupidity publicly by putting pictures on the internet. And giving anyone, including potential employers, the opportunity to view them.  There are other people who make dumb choices in their private lives but atleast have the brains not to broadcast it on the internet.

 

By the way Jenny, what is a recission?????

 
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January 18, 2008, 3:52 pm PST

thank you christab!!!

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The difference is...he DIDN'T post any compromising pictures of himself anywhere....Mary DID. Bush kept his private life private...Mary isn't.

I make a similar point in my post (it appears right after yours).  There is a big difference between doing something stupid privately and doing something stupid and displaying it where the whole world can view it.  Which Mary did. And Bush did not.

 

I still think Mary is desparately looking  for attention at any cost.  And the way she is doing it will be a huge cost....to herself.

 
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January 19, 2008, 1:17 pm PST

Mary's mom

I can't believe after each point Dr. Phil made about Mary's underage drinking, her mom made excuses. That's EXACTLY why  Mary gets away with drinking regularly. Mom makes excuses (ADHD, Depression.....duh....what do you think alcoholics battle?) and burys her head in the sand. I wonder if dad thinks the same? Oh wait....there is no dad.....

Shame on mom. 
 
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January 19, 2008, 1:27 pm PST

Mary

 Mary, you do lie in such an idealistic and fairytale world. Sure people shouldn't judge you based on your looks. Sure employers should separate your private life from your work life. Lots of ideals there but unfortunately you have to live in the real world and that's just not the case when you get into the workforce.

You can say it's not fair and maybe you're right but it is what it is and you are making choice now that will impact perception of you for the rest of your life. Employers have a right and a duty to their customers to ensure their corporate image is in line with their corporate vision.

What kind of job or profession do you see yourslef in? Doctor? Lawyer? CIO? CFO? How do you think you get there? You won't with pictures of yourself in compromising positions. Burger King? Tattoo parlor? Seven-11 clerk? Maybe.

The fact you stated before the show that nothing anyone says will change your mind about the facebook group proves you are too immature to reason properly and make decisions when presented with logical arguments. when your maturity develops (hopefully) you might look back on this in a different light. I just hope the damage done won't be irreparable.
 
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January 19, 2008, 1:39 pm PST

Jenny

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Mary is a young girl with a lot of problems, she is not the anitchrist. IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO SEE THESE PICTURES DONT LOOK AT THEM!!! So if the way you act in your own private time demonstrates how you are going to act on your job, lets all remember our president was doing cocaine in his younger years!! So maybe if he would have taken pictures of this and posted it on a web sight we could all have known he lacked in judgement skills and wouldnt be at war and in a recission!!!
You too are obviously as naive as Mary. No one says your private life is going to impact your work life. In most cases it doesn't. However, what you seem to be missing is, companies have not only the right, but a fiduciary responsibility to their customers and stockholders to operate the company and present an appearance with a specific corporate appearance.

You may not like it, however it's life. Deal with it. And you're partially right about public office. Had photos been published it might have changed voter perception and maybe he wouldn't have been elected. But he was. where you are wrong is trying to compare and elected position to that of an employee. The president was ELECTED by people that wanted him in office with and without baggage he might have had. An employment situation is different in so many ways that if you can't see that then you can't even discuss this issue on a logical basis.
 
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January 20, 2008, 8:00 am PST

Wow!

I think that Amanda was extremely annoying, "look at me when I am talking to you" give me a break.

 

If these girls are putting pictures of themselves drunk on facebook, what the hell is that any of amandas business?

 

YOU DONT APPROVE OF IT DONT LOOK AT IT!!!

 
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January 20, 2008, 6:09 pm PST

now THATS the future of the country

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I'm 19, soon to be 20, and while like most people my age I enjoy having fun, my "fun" doesn't consist of getting s**tfaced and posting pictures online for the world to see. All I can say about Mary is that she needs to grow up, and maybe one day when reality slaps her in the face, she'll do just that. I don't understand how anyone can act that way, and then post about it online as if they're proud of their actions. I don't see what's attractive about puking your guts out in a toilet because you had way too much to drink, having your "friends" write crap on you while you're passed out, etc. And then posting the pictures online? The girl just seems desperate for attention. And the message it sends out to guys is "HEY! LOOK AT ME! I'M DRUNK AND EASY". Maybe that's what she was going for.

 

And like many others have posted, I wish Dr. Phil would've really let her mother "have it", so to speak.

 My hat is off to you young lady !  You are wise beyond your years and I am sure you will be a success in all you do !!!  Bravo to the TRUE future of our country !!!!
 
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January 21, 2008, 12:07 am PST

Whats wrong with some people

Im 19 going on 20, and I have never posted any pictures like that on my myspace or my facebook. I have to much respect for my self to post anything like that, and these girls that do, dont have any respect. I work at a daycare and if a parent found me on one of the sites doing any of that stuff, for sure they go to my boss and show out rage. That is another reason I dont post anything up. I want to keep my job and maybe get a lead teacher job rather than being an AID. and I know they wouldnt higer someone with pictures up like that. Those are gross, and someone should do something becasue most those girls are underage.
 
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January 21, 2008, 4:40 pm PST

response to the substitute

I am also a substitute teacher.  I live in a small town and am careful how I conduct myself whenever I am in public, including my manner of dress.  I know that being a teacher makes me a role model for children.  Children model what they see.  Anyone who is involved with children watching them is a role model whether they like it or not, which includes sport figures.  So, please, to the substitute teacher that was on the show, either clean up your image for children or stop teaching.  After 30 years of teaching, I've heard many stories from children about who they look up to who they want to be like.  I love listening to Brittany Spears earlier music, but the image she put across with her scanty clothing wasn't the best for young children to model.  I hope she will get the help she needs.
 

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