Topic : 01/15 Internet Mistakes

 I am so sorry for your loss!

I hope lots of kids see your posting and listen to what you say.

God bless you and your family.

I am a 52 year old recovering alcoholic.  Yes, being on the internet is a problem...

but what most concerns me is that many of these young women are already in

the grips of this progressive, deadly disease and will show up (hopefully) they

will make it there) in the rooms of AA in the future.

The young 17 year old is especially at risk as she has been diagnosed with

ADD and another emotional illness.  A majority of alcoholics have come to

drinking to "Medicate" the underlying anxiety, OCD, depression etc.  What they

end up with is disaster.  Women physically are even more at risk for physical

and deadly consequence of alcoholism because to their physical makeup.

I WOULD LOVE TO SEE DR. PHIL DO A LOT MORE EDUCATION ABOUT

THE PROCESS OF ADDICTION, THE GENETIC INHEIRITANCE AND THE

LONG TERM PHYSICAL AND MENTAL CONSEQUENCES. AND TALK

TO PEOPLE LIKE MYSELF WHO HAVE BEEN THERE AND ALMOST

DIED, AND HAVE ONLY A DAILY REPRIEVE.

ONCE YOU CROSS THAT INVISIBLE LINE...THERE IS NO GOING BACK.

IN ANNAPOLIS MD, WISHING I COULD SAVE SOMEONE FROM YEARS

OF HELL. PAM J

point out that only people you are friends with can see your pictures and your profile. If you do not want to see someone's photos, do not look at them. I am not saying that people should post up pictures of themselves puking, but if they do, it is their own choice. no one is forcing you to look at it. Underage drinking is not legal, but it is so common now. Nearly all teenagers drink. More than most people think. So the real problem is teenage drinking. If they didn't drink, there would be no "offensive photos."

 I am 24 years old and I have a facebook account and there are pictures of me on facebook. I think it is ridiculous for that Amanda girl to go on television and make it sound like just bc people post stupid pictures like this on facebook that there is something SOOO wrong with it. I agree its not BRILLIANT but get real. This girls posts on facebook are mocking and she is trying to make herself sound better than them.

for example she says:

*Perhaps I should find some Valium and mix it with a few shots of Bacardi. Because all the cool girls are doing it!

*I'll stop putting myself above you when I see you using correct grammar and NOT wrapped around a toilet.

*I'm inclined to think I'm smarter than you are.

*If you don't want to be called a drunken slut....well, don't show everyone photos of you getting really hammered and making out with various people, or vomiting like there's no tomorrow.

*I get wasted, I have a good time, I live it up sometimes. Difference is, I don't take my party photos.

When did anyone say they mixed valium and barcadi? She is personally attacking everyone who is a part of this group, labeling them and categorizing them. And now she attacks their grammar? Good for you Amanda, you can spell. I think this girl is stuck up, snotty, arrogant and flat out rude. I am not saying that putting pictures like that out there is a good idea but I am arguing how she attacked them and how she tried to demean them and talk them down. And apparently kissing someone makes you a drunken slut and so does getting really hammered and vomiting. I am not saying shes wrong that its a bad idea, but GET REAL! So bc I have kissed someone while I was drunk and gotten TOO drunk makes me a slut? No, that just means I had bad judgement one night, Apparenlty this girl is perfect. Absolutely ridiculous. And as for her last quote.....good for her....but SHE DOES MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES, and bc you just publicly announced it, makes you just as "bad".....so according to her previous statements shes a slut too. It didnt take a picture Amanda...you just called yourself out. I am disgusted by this judgemental "holier than though" girl.

I have 3 teenage boys - I made them take their myspace pages off because the material was inappropiate - I was a recruiter for several years, and then in the Human Resources Management field.  If I were still in that field, I would surely take into account and google the applicant to see how they were portraying themselves on line. 

In addition, I am really ticked off as a 49 year old woman who remembers how hard it was to get through an interview years ago if you were child bearing age (it was an employer consideration) or if you were or were not married etc and I can't for the life of me figure out where the National Organization for Women are right now on this subject (are they still around?)   Where are they?  And why aren't they speaking out and educating these young women on how they are hurting themselves and their chances for future advancement?   Presentation is everything...no matter if you think it's your private life or not - Facebook and MySpace are public. 

I was terribly surprised, as well as terribly diappointed, that Dr. Phil didn't come down hard on the mother whose 17-year old daughter is drinking on a reguar basis.  Where was the Dr Phil that normally gets on parents for the behavior of their children?  Where was that Dr Phil?!

He should also have been much harder on the 17-year old, who is fast on her way to becomig an alcoholic!!!

I am starting to think that Dr. Phil is losing his toughness.  What a shame!  I miss the old Dr. Phil.

How can this be a violation of privacy when myspace & facebook are *public* ?  That's like  hearing that someone posed in a nude magazine & going to look at it & then being considered to e nosy or invading their privacy?  it's public & guess what people are going to check out who you are for real & not just in the interview.  If someone says publicly they are taking drugs (meaning it or kidding) a employer has *EVERY RIGHT* to not want to deal with a druggy period.  If it's part of public record then it's part of a public record & putting it on a public place like myspace or face fook is putting it out there themselves!!!!!!  It's not like an employer is grilling people from your past to try to find out intimate details of your life.  We need to be careful of the things we say & do because people will *JUDGE US ON THAT*  that's just life & people need to learn that. 

That said I agree that Amanda doesn't help any situation and especially the girl Mary she was speaking to.  You can't talk down to a teenager or they'll just rebel and that's just a fact and that Amanda seemed to think she was some kind of authority.  She's not and she needs to grow up.  I agree that Mary has no idea of what she's setting herself up for but she needs a real adult to step up & 1 parent & the other adults around her to speak *to her* not at her.  Hopefully Amanda will learn the difference prior to having kids of her own, but I know plenty of parents who haven't & they're kids are so out of control it's not funny & the parents have no idea.