Topic : 03/27 "Get Your Act Together!"

The most shocking thing about this episode was that the women felt that it was the man's duty to go out and get a job so that she can stay home with her son. I hate to break it to her, but there are a lot of women in this world who would love the luxury of staying home with their children, but in this day and age, it's nearly impossible to provide for a family without two incomes. BOTH the women and the men need to wake up, get a job, put the kid in day care/preschool and grow up. Living with the parents and receiving free food and daycare when you've decided to get married and procreate should not be an option. If you can't afford to live on you own, don't get married. If you can't afford to support your child, don't get pregnant.

Maybe that's harsh, but it's the way I see it.

Beth

This is not the first show in the last couple of months that made me sad. The second story on today's show got me today.

I am in the hospital as I write having neurological tests run to see why I keep having synchope, cognitive challenges and small motor dysfunction.

I married my husband seven and one/half years ago. In the first month I discovered things I didn't know. Things that would have been deal breakers for me. We live in a house that belongs to his mom, anything of value was in his mother's name. He has broken every financial agreement he ever made with me.

I am disabled and was before he married me. I even told him that dating me was like dating a special needs child.

Well, it's a long story. He never commits with a yes or a no. I don't know what he finds to do everyday but he says he's too busy doing it to get a job. His parents gave us $120,000 last year and I have no idea where he spent it but it's gone. He wants me home but he doesn't want ANY intimacy. He just wants me to take care of him and the house. Our counselor told him early on in our marriage that it looked like he got married but still wanted to live single. He did not reply. I have been living out of state to be with my daughter in her last year of high school since December 24 and he has called me a total of two times. He only says he loves me in response to me saying the same to him. I worked hard on changing the behavior that seemed to make him unhappy and made great progress. But it did not make any difference. I've never felt so insignificant. His behavior shouts his lack of care for me but I still keep hoping.

I know what you would say "Are you kiddin me?' But this is my third marriage and the one I finally knew how to commit to.  I am not an idiot but sure seem to keep having the same problem. And more than anything I sure wish I could leave it behind. Anyway, this is terribly disjointed but I understand how she feels.

The moocher in our family is a son-in-law who thinks he is too good to work while my daughter supports him and their son.  They live in a pig stye of his construction projects and thousands of dollars of tools and and supplies for projects that will never be finished.  I truly believe that if social services ever saw their house they would take their child away.  He is also critical of both my daughter and her son to the point of verbal abuse.  I realize there is little I can do but am thinking of changing my will so her share of my money would be in trust for my Grandson.  I hope to live a good while longer but what is there right now would easily pay for college and I am facing a surgery in the near future so would like to make sure this loser doesn't get his hands on my money.